Online hookups are a lot of work...

[Rudynate]

Weeeell, seems like my dick size is (quite literally) the limiting factor. Even after adding an internet inch, guys still think I'm too small to give me the light of day. Despite the fact I'm cute, cuddly and wonderful company. Oh, well.

 

Hiring it is then, let me just go cry into a corner over there over the unfairness that women can get breast augmentations, but that penis enlargement remains impossible...

 

 

I can't offer a formula for success, but I can tell you this - I have been navigating the sexual marketplace for more than 4 decades with a small dick and I have never wanted for attractive partners. There are plenty of men out there for whom dick size is not an issue.

[Wolfer]

I can't offer a formula for success, but I can tell you this - I have been navigating the sexual marketplace for more than 4 decades with a small dick and I have never wanted for attractive partners. There are plenty of men out there for whom dick size is not an issue.

Define small dick, though Because for some even 7 inches is "small"... (I'm 5 inches)

[Rudynate]

Define small dick, though Because for some even 7 inches is "small"... (I'm 5 inches)

 

About like you.

 

To me 7" is the threshold for a big dick. 7-8" is a big dick. 8"+ is a really big dick.

 

I have noticed that a fair number of guys with big dicks aren't into size themselves.

[Wolfer]

About like you.

 

To me 7" is the threshold for a big dick. 7-8" is a big dick. 8"+ is a really big dick.

 

I have noticed that a fair number of guys with big dicks aren't into size themselves.

Hmm... Maybe I've just been running into size queens, then. Although I also refuse to send out dick pics or full nude shots (shirtless is fine), seems to be a dealbreaker to many as well.

To be honest, it feels like almost the whole gay community is warping into size queens... Or that expectations are just completely warped.

It seems that 8" is now "the standard" and anything below 7" isn't even worth the light of day (from my limited experience, anyway). :/

While over in the real world, 5" is actually the normal middle ground.

Mind you, I'm talking about younger guys in their twenties, I'm sure more mature men with more experience will be less inclined to be obsessed with only dick size.

[Rudynate]

Hmm... Maybe I've just been running into size queens, then. Although I also refuse to send out dick pics or full nude shots (shirtless is fine), seems to be a dealbreaker to many as well.

To be honest, it feels like almost the whole gay community is warping into size queens... Or that expectations are just completely warped.

It seems that 8" is now "the standard" and anything below 7" isn't even worth the light of day (from my limited experience, anyway). :/

While over in the real world, 5" is actually the normal middle ground.

Mind you, I'm talking about younger guys in their twenties, I'm sure more mature men with more experience will be less inclined to be obsessed with only dick size.

 

I don't show dick pictures, more out of modesty than because I'm ashamed of the size of my tool. But if someone shows a sincere interest, I tell them that if they are into size, I'm not a good match for them. And most people, when it's handled like that, says that size isn't any issue. I also suspect, that when you don't show a dick picture, people experienced in the ways of the online world assume that you're not hung huge, because otherwise, you would be showing it.

 

A little skill and attitude will take you far. I LOVE to top men; I act like somebody who loves to top men, and I have a fair degree of skill at it. I don't get many complaints.

[Wolfer]

I don't show dick pictures, more out of modesty than because I'm ashamed of the size of my tool. But if someone shows a sincere interest, I tell them that if they are into size, I'm not a good match for them. And most people, when it's handled like that, says that size isn't any issue. I also suspect, that when you don't show a dick picture, people experienced in the ways of the online world assume that you're not hung huge, because otherwise, you would be showing it.

 

A little skill and attitude will take you far. I LOVE to top men; I act like somebody who loves to top men, and I have a fair degree of skill at it. I don't get many complaints.

Hmm, that's interesting. I have been honest and upfront about my size, but almost apologetically so. So I'm gonna try your approach, just state the fact that if they're looking for big dicks, we won't be a good match. I've had two or three say that dick size doesn't matter, true. But these were the rare cases, the overwhelming majority just either started ignoring me or blocked me outright.

[Rudynate]

Hmm, that's interesting. I have been honest and upfront about my size, but almost apologetically so. So I'm gonna try your approach, just state the fact that if they're looking for big dicks, we won't be a good match. I've had two or three say that dick size doesn't matter, true. But these were the rare cases, the overwhelming majority just either started ignoring me or blocked me outright.

 

It also helps to make peace with the fact that guys who just have to have big dicks aren't available to you. End of story. It's not personal. There's nothing wrong with you for not having a big dick. There's nothing wrong with them for liking big dicks.

[seaboy4hire]

Last night I had someone who was about 5 1/2 and he felt amazing. It's about the connection and how they work it.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[Wolfer]

Hahahaa, so since I'm finally on Grindr and the like I've started discussing hookups with a friend who's more experienced in that area than I am. He's giving me tips and so on. But I had already told him of my "hookups" with previous guys (these were escorts, but I didn't tell him that) and then afterward I was complaining I hadn't even had a single hookup. And he was like: "How do you mean? I thought you already had about three or four?" And I was like "HAHAHAHA... Er... Those weren't through Grindr... But through PlanetRomeo..." (Technically not a lie...)

[+ friendofsheila]

Watching the contortions of cute attractive friends half my age working and working to arrange their grindr hookups does not exactly set me afire to jump on the bandwagon.

 

Good god, yes. Adding technology and distance to arranging sex is just lubricant for flaky behavior.

 

I tried it back in the days of print ads and telephones, and decided "Never again."

[Wolfer]

Well, I'm just about ready to give up. Sure I've got youth and looks somewhat on my side, but apparently dick size keeps being an insurmountable obstacle and I've really had it.

I really don't understand, if dick size is such a deal breaker that they don't even care anymore to what body it is attached, why don't they just go sit on a traffic cone?

Maybe I should start suggesting that. I'll bring a strap-on traffic cone

[RussJohnson]

Well, I'm just about ready to give up. Sure I've got youth and looks somewhat on my side, but apparently dick size keeps being an insurmountable obstacle and I've really had it.

I really don't understand, if dick size is such a deal breaker that they don't even care anymore to what body it is attached, why don't they just go sit on a traffic cone?

Maybe I should start suggesting that. I'll bring a strap-on traffic cone

 

Just don't answer. The quality of my meeting experiences is inversely proportional to the amount of questions and hassle it take to arrange it. I can say that without a doubt my top experiences with online meetings have been people who didn't ask for more "Pics?", or "any nudes?," or "how big r u?", and who definitely didn't say "Into?" or "what u like?". They also agreed to meet very quickly because we both knew what we wanted and that we liked each other based on what we saw initially (which is why you should have a simple profile that reflects you and gives people a good idea of you personality and looks). They were actually ready to meet (nothing worse than someone who is on but unavailable), and they were interesting human beings who I end up talking to a lot before (because you are allowed meet with no expectation of sex) or afterwards. It's such a turn off to me to have someone go through their checklist to see if you're good enough for them, really? Give me a break...

[Wolfer]

Just don't answer. The quality of my meeting experiences is inversely proportional to the amount of questions and hassle it take to arrange it. I can say that without a doubt my top experiences with online meetings have been people who didn't ask for more "Pics?", or "any nudes?," or "how big r u?", and who definitely didn't say "Into?" or "what u like?". They also agreed to meet very quickly because we both knew what we wanted and that we liked each other based on what we saw initially (which is why you should have a simple profile that reflects you and gives people a good idea of you personality and looks). They were actually ready to meet (nothing worse than someone who is on but unavailable), and they were interesting human beings who I end up talking to a lot before (because you are allowed meet with no expectation of sex) or afterwards. It's such a turn off to me to have someone go through their checklist to see if you're good enough for them, really? Give me a break...

Interesting, my first real experience with an actual Grindr date was someone who didn't ask a lot questions. We just exchanged a couple of photo's, saw what we liked and I went over to his place.

And then it got awkward real fast

He took one look at me, declared I wasn't his type after all and before I could say " Hello", I was out the door again.

 

Since then I've been more careful, giving more info. But the success rate of that, so far, has been zero.

 

It did catch me totally by surprise how different a person's personality can be in real life. I met up with a guy from Grindr for drinks, because he sounded nice, mature and understanding in his chat.

He turned out to be a judgemental, narrowminded, self-unaware douchebag.

 

Anyway, I've discovered that while I like having one night stands, I don't like or desire them enough to want to jump through all these hoops.

I'd rather have a nice dinner with a good friend.

 

Grindr is getting uninstalled.

[Rudynate]

Interesting, my first real experience with an actual Grindr date was someone who didn't ask a lot questions. We just exchanged a couple of photo's, saw what we liked and I went over to his place.

And then it got awkward real fast

He took one look at me, declared I wasn't his type after all and before I could say " Hello", I was out the door again.

 

Since then I've been more careful, giving more info. But the success rate of that, so far, has been zero.

 

It did catch me totally by surprise how different a person's personality can be in real life. I met up with a guy from Grindr for drinks, because he sounded nice, mature and understanding in his chat.

He turned out to be a judgemental, narrowminded, self-unaware douchebag.

 

Anyway, I've discovered that while I like having one night stands, I don't like or desire them enough to want to jump through all these hoops.

I'd rather have a nice dinner with a good friend.

 

Grindr is getting uninstalled.

 

 

Good idea. It doesn't sound like your venue. People treat online venues like Grindr as an excuse to be incredibly thoughtless and bad-mannered. One thing that I do, is that if I get even a whiff of attitude or bad manners, I move on.

[AdamSmith]

As a Luddite I find bar & club pickups in person still have a lot to recommend them.