time only

[rocksinurhead]

We all know that technically all rentboy.com ads and bookings are for the escort's time only. I once hired a guy who, I soon realized, intended to sit and talk with me in my hotel room and then leave promptly at the end of the hour. Of course it's possible that he just could not bring himself to have physical contact with me. At the risk of sounding delusional, I have to say that's highly unlikely, but I guess we all have our preferences. I was surprised (and more than a little annoyed) by the situation, especially because we had, albeit briefly, discussed my interests via e-mail beforehand. Any thoughts?

[Juan Vancouver]

In my case, at least, (I cannot speak on behalf of all escorts given that we know some think differently) you are right; I only charge for the time I spend with you; however, being the randy latino that I am and given my loose personality I love engaging in all degree of intimacy with my clients, as you read in my reviews.

 

This makes things interesting, because some clients do hire me to talk things through, sometimes in the hope that they will be able to move into the more physical territory but some just want to talk, be close, perhaps hang out while I am scantily dressed, have dinner, have a drink, etc.

 

It is my work as an escort to try to find where my client's boundary lie and respect them. Sometimes I sense that it is up to me to lightly, try to meddle with them and see if I can push the comfort zone a little.

 

It is my client's responsibility to know where his boundaries are, communicate them clearly and if during the session he/they want something else that is not happening, it is expected he/they will let me know so that we together can find a common interest.

 

If you just sat there, engaged in conversation and made absolutely no move to start the session it is your responsibility as much as it is his.

 

A tap on the leg, "I am glad you are here, that was a great conversation, now do you want to go to the bedroom?" and standing up, perhaps hugging him to unequivocally let him now you are open to closeness will suffice.

[Mocha]

I'm beginning to have my own reservations about rentboy because as an escort...I'm seeing some obvious fake ads...or ads that you (meaning I) can tell aren't actual prostitution ads, but more muscle worship/stare and touch kind of ads.

 

That said, I don't believe anyone needs to state that things are for time only in a rentboy ad. If I were a client, It'd seem too much of a toss up for me. Time only can mean just that.

[rocksinurhead]

In my case, at least, (I cannot speak on behalf of all escorts given that we know some think differently) you are right; I only charge for the time I spend with you; however, being the randy latino that I am and given my loose personality I love engaging in all degree of intimacy with my clients, as you read in my reviews.

 

This makes things interesting, because some clients do hire me to talk things through, sometimes in the hope that they will be able to move into the more physical territory but some just want to talk, be close, perhaps hang out while I am scantily dressed, have dinner, have a drink, etc.

 

It is my work as an escort to try to find where my client's boundary lie and respect them. Sometimes I sense that it is up to me to lightly, try to meddle with them and see if I can push the comfort zone a little.

 

It is my client's responsibility to know where his boundaries are, communicate them clearly and if during the session he/they want something else that is not happening, it is expected he/they will let me know so that we together can find a common interest.

 

If you just sat there, engaged in conversation and made absolutely no move to start the session it is your responsibility as much as it is his.

 

A tap on the leg, "I am glad you are here, that was a great conversation, now do you want to go to the bedroom?" and standing up, perhaps hugging him to unequivocally let him now you are open to closeness will suffice.

[rocksinurhead]

Yes, when I first asked the question here, I should have been more clear. I had tried two or three times to get things started. After that, I was kind of over it. Only occasion that has ever happened to me with an escort. Many others have practically started disrobing the moment they walk in the door (don't really love that extreme either).

[Guy Fawkes]

Say: "I need to take a shower; Would you help me wash my back?"

 

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[+ Keith30309]

Yes, when I first asked the question here, I should have been more clear. I had tried two or three times to get things started. After that, I was kind of over it. Only occasion that has ever happened to me with an escort. Many others have practically started disrobing the moment they walk in the door (don't really love that extreme either).

 

I understand what you mean - in my second hire I met a heavily reviewed (though not uniformly positively) Atlanta porn star for 2 2-hour sessions and we were never closer than 3 feet. That was a disappointing, expensive lesson and reading the advice of the members of the forum has been invaluable. The discussion above is informative but for me the key was as much about being comfortable in my own skin as anything - having the confidence to move closer and take someone's hand into mine and initiate some warm intimacy.

 

Since those early lessons I've not met an escort who declined to accept a sincere hug, kiss or cuddle and move toward some mutually-enjoyable fun.

[jawjateck]

Experience improves your confidence. I am the aggressor now, frequently breaking in nervous newbies.

[AdamSmith]

On the other hand a small number of people who present themselves as escorts do intentionally pull this scam, for that is what it is. The fifth or so guy I ever hired, from an agency in the Yellow Pages in Tampa (where else ) back in 2002, came to my room, took my money (natch), then refused to do anything other than mutual j/o -- that is, him jacking himself off, and me doing myself. Likewise an escort I hired in 2009 (happened to be a woman) happily shared her weed and her sad life story for an hour, I bought another hour (she having been generous with the 420), she yakked some more, when I finally moved to physical action she said "Oh after all this getting to know each other, it would just be mechanical wouldn't it." I politely took my leave.

 

Point being that it is not entirely always due to the client failing to take decisive action.

[Lookin]

http://www.ozgay.com/esearch/usa01/hunter_hollywood/001.jpg

Running his first ad, newcomer Ty Moanley

wonders why he doesn't get more calls

[+ WmClarke]

http://www.ozgay.com/esearch/usa01/hunter_hollywood/001.jpg

Running his first ad, newcomer Ty Moanley

wonders why he doesn't get more calls

I don't get it. What's the joke here? The ugly shirt?

[MiamiLooker]

I don't get it. What's the joke here? The ugly shirt?

Ty Moanley = Time Only

[+ WmClarke]

Ty Moanley = Time Only

Duh!

 

Thanks.

[Irtwo]

...when I finally moved to physical action she said "Oh after all this getting to know each other, it would just be mechanical wouldn't it."

 

Ha! You got to give the gal credit for coming up with that line.

[Nebost]

We all know that technically all rentboy.com ads and bookings are for the escort's time only. I once hired a guy who, I soon realized, intended to sit and talk with me in my hotel room and then leave promptly at the end of the hour. Of course it's possible that he just could not bring himself to have physical contact with me. At the risk of sounding delusional, I have to say that's highly unlikely, but I guess we all have our preferences. I was surprised (and more than a little annoyed) by the situation, especially because we had, albeit briefly, discussed my interests via e-mail beforehand. Any thoughts?

 

I would agree with you that you were purposefully mislead. 'Time only' is a standard measure of protection mentioned for the legal safety of both parties, since sex for pay is largely illegal. The other things mentioned in the ad and conversation (top, bottom, oral, kisssing , nude body contact, touching the privates, etc), are not guarenteed, but I would think some of those items would at least be attempted especially if they were mentioned in conversation as well.

I also once hired a guy who had no intention of doing anything other than poke me in the back for a massage (while staying fully clothed) even though he listed he was versatile, loved to kiss , etc etc. I wrote that in my review, and later on another couple of reviewers had pretty much the exact same experience. There is a difference between an escort not doing everything listed, and not intending at the outset to do anything at all. In the course of the session those intentions are quite obvious.

[tanman4u]

Does anybody think that "......for my time only......." serves any purpose at all anymore? Are the vice cops really going to look at that ad, usually with a dick picture attached, and think "no point going after him he's just selling his time"?

 

And, when I see an ad that says "no specific sexual acts will be discussed over the phone or in emails" I move on. I guess they're also just trying to protect themselves against arrest but I'm not going to make an appointment and have him show up and be able to say "it clearly says in my ad that it's for my time only".