Quality of My Life - Your Life

[Guest BlueSpark]

I've been reading posts here for some period of time prior to registering. I had always been uneasy about posting for no apparent reason. So here I am

 

So many of you guys appear to lead very active lives. You're busy travelling the world, hiring escorts, meeting each other at gatherings, and being adventureous.

 

I'm wondering if being so shy is hurting the quality of my life. I don't consider myself unhappy but, I rarely go out, hire an escort once in a while and travel only once a year depending on my available vacation time. I don't seem to have the zest that many here display.

 

I just feeling like I'm missing out on a lot. Maybe a I get older I begin to notice the difference between myself and others more acutely.

[HooBoy]

Dear Bluespark,

 

Everyone is going to have different feelings but for myself...basically a homeless person, I think the quality of my life is outstanding. Bad health would be the only thing that would want me to end it.

 

That said, I am shy and with the exception of a very few people, prefer to just be alone. I would never go to a club unless I was with friends.

 

But to steal from the great Roy Orbison:

"I'm so tired of being lonely.

I still have some love to give.

Won't you show me that you really care."

 

Talk about your pity pot. I'm gonna hop off of it for awhile and take a walk around Hong Kong, look around at some of the people I see and think, there but for the grace of my beloved parents, advertisers and contributors to this website go I.

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The above written as a regular guy, not the owner of a website and has no official meaning, just unofficial BS.)

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--garbo the hoo

[jackhammer91406]

It's called choice

 

Hey Blue,

Glad to see you stuck it out. Welcome.

To me, the great thing about life is that I can have whatever life I choose. Now, of course that is a very broad statement. I would love to be 10 pounds lighter,(OK 20) but primarily I have come to like who I am. I don't think any of us should measure our enjoyment of life by anyone else's standards but our own. The beauty of it is, we get to choose that happiness. If you think you would like to meet more people, this board provides a great opportunity to do so, but surely not the only one. There are many avenues for meeting other guys who share your interests. But you know what, it's OK to be happy with your own company too. There's some nights when I am glad to spend the evening reading a good book, or just relaxing. Other nights, I enjoy the company of other guys.

 

I myself was shy about meeting people and pretty much kept to myself. (It's a shock I know. heheh). I had never hired an escort until 18 months ago. I didn't begin actively trying to open up my life until about 13 months ago. It has made an amazing difference in the quality of my life. But that doesn't mean it would make your life better. You would have to decide that.

 

As for travel, I have done some, but nowhere near what I would like to do. But here again, this board has provided the opportunity to meet and travel with some really great guys, who have shown me much about life that I have come to realize I was missing.

I don't have the money to hire much anymore, ( I pretty much blew the retirement money I was saving , heheh), but I still follow the travel plans of some of my favorites and I love the spirited debates here at the MC.

 

Bottom line: Whatever you decide is cool. You set the course for your life. If you see something you want, go out and get it. There's plenty of it here for the taking, whatever form you prefer. And if you have pretty much all you want already, then enjoy and check in with us from time to time and tell us what you think.

 

Welcome to Hooville.

 

:D

[BARR1965]

RE: It's called choice

 

Hey Blue

 

I was in the same situation as you are but I got tired of just reading everyone's adventures, meetings and so forth. I wanted to find out for myself what it is really like meeting some of the people form this MC. So one day I went to their scheduled dinner soiree and introduced myself (which was nerve wrecking for me to do) but lo and behold, I had a good time meeting the people in the group. They were very welcoming group of people, the dinner and conversations was good, too. And I even met some of their recommended escorts. Oh btw, I lived much farther (sp) than you.

 

I am shy too and a loner but I am trying my best to break out of the shell. How do I do it? Well, that another forum.

 

And for Quality of life --- just what jackhammer said:

>

>Bottom line: Whatever you decide is cool. You set the course

>for your life. If you see something you want, go out and get

>it. There's plenty of it here for the taking, whatever form

>you prefer. And if you have pretty much all you want already,

>then enjoy and check in with us from time to time and tell us

>what you think.

>

>Welcome to Hooville.

>

> :D

 

In the meantime --- JOIE DE VIVRE :D

[BARR1965]

Next time there is a Hooville dinner schedule and you decided to go, if you want we can even carpool :-) :-)

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Shyness Is Nice, But

 

You have to think in terms that many of the members of this community are also often indoors, often alone, "writing frightening verse" albeit more likely to a young boy than a buck toothed girl.

 

As has often been given as advice on this site, if you find yourself in situations where you think your shyness limits what you get out of life, you need to take whatever concrete steps you are comfortable taking to make changes. These changes can be incremental; they need not be large and they need not involve great expense.

 

You might also consider, assuming it is a suitable suggestion, either volunteer work which will put you in limited contact with others, or the possibility of pet ownership.

 

Good luck to you!

[+ Hoover42]

RE: Shyness Is Nice, But

 

"Spending warm summer days indoors, writing frightening verse to a bucktoothed girl in Luxemburg. Ask me, ask me, ask me. Ask me, ask me, ask me. Because, if it's not love, then it's the bomb, the bomb, the bomb, the bomb, the bomb, the bomb, the bomb that will bring us together."

 

From: Ask, by The Smiths.

[bigguyinpasadena]

RE: Shyness Is Nice, But

 

Thank you for quoting us the full verse of that song Hoover-It is on par with Cummings-did Morrisey write that?Is he even still with THE SMITHS ?I know he pops into the SPOTLIGHT in H'wood ocassionally(sits by himself-looks to be having a good time)

[+ Hoover42]

RE: Shyness Is Nice, But

 

You're welcome!

 

Unfortunately, Morrisey broke up The Smiths in the late 80's after he and Johnny Marr became increasingly irritated with one another.

 

Morrisey still has a solo career, and Johnny Marr is with another band called Johnny Marr + The Healers.

 

...Hoover

[eastbayguy]

Welcome aboard. Glad to have you here. Just don't take the place to seriously.

 

Shyness--I can relate. I definitely lean toward the quiet side until I get to know someone. Talking to people I don't know or just walking up and introducing myself to someone is tough for me.

 

--EBG

[Guest Utopia]

I boarder being shy and can relate to your post. I think you are comparing not so much your status to othrs but your interests and enjoyment. If I am wrong, sorry.

 

But if that is the case I too look at some of the people here and think, wow this person is always travelling seeing the country or world and this person seems to live in a cool spot and so forth.

 

I can only do what is within my budget and what is of interest to me. My focus is too narrow and I know this. But I haven't had a lot of motivation to do more till recently.

 

Now I feel I am wasting a few years and am looking for ways to fullfill this emptiness in my life.

 

Good luck to you.

"You realize that life goes fast

It's hard to make the good things last"

[Guest BlueSpark]

The reponses have been interesting to read. As I mentioned before I am not unhappy, I just a feel a bit empty. I think at this time in my life I prefer to get over my shyness and start interacting more with people. It has been too long since I've truly socialized and maybe that is what I feel is currently missing in my life.

[BARR1965]

Blue Spark:

 

When my very best friend passed away in 1997, I truly felt empty because he and I did a lot of thing together. We were not lovers but just the best of friends and we were so inseperable. Though I have been reading the Hooboy MC and escorts reviews for quite sometime it took me a long time before I finally decide to take the plunged on hiring an Escort. I was totally disappointed to the first couple of escorts I have hired. Couple of years ago, I took a trip to Europe by myself and not knowing how to speak their language, I have decided to hire an escort to show me around the city. Well, this escort truly made a difference in my life. He opened my eyes and showed me what I have been missing since 1997. The time we spent together he helped me interact with more people. The shyness in me still lingers now and then but since I cannot be with him all the time, I just think of him and what he always tells me when we were out together .... Joie de vivre, mon petit. And for some reason it gives me encouragement and guts to overcome my shyness. I wish you luck in whatever you have decided to fill your emptiness.