Aggressive, Masc Guys: You know you want them..

[jawjateck]

Aw, Jawja. It makes me so sad to think of this hot science guy whose shoulder girls would cry on. You sound plenty masc yourself, so maybe you just came across the wrong women.

 

Tis true, this country simpleton did not meet and mingle with a classy woman before I became a "set-in-my-ways" bachelor. I posit that Fluffy, an erudite and charming lady of the city, and a ramblinwreck from the sticks would have made quite a pairing.

[+ Gar1eth]

Or, hell, even in the words of the great Frank Loesser, as two women contemplate their futures with their gambling-addict fiances - "Marry the man today and change his ways tomorrow". (Granted, Nathan Detroit and Sky Masterson are much more lovable and harmless than the average *real* tuff guys lol, but the idealistic sentiment stands.)

 

 

 

(Who knew Jessica Biel could sing?)

 

Gman

[+ poolboy48220]

Reminds me of a guy I hired, just once, years ago. I asked him about an odd tattoo on his shoulder and he said he'd gotten it in prison. That gave me a bit of apprehension (to put it mildly), but nothing in his demeanor put me off otherwise, and it ended up being a pretty hot session. I asked him if he had any good prison shower stories, and he laughed and said no, but then started telling me about "this one time". I think he was making it up as he went along because he could tell I was into it :-)

[+ WilliamM]

Sorry, FreshFluff, but I have thought, as I read through the responses, that the masc guy appeals to women more than gay men.

 

I would love to know your opinion in response.

[+ SundayZip]

There's certainly times when I've been attracted to a troubled and very masculine guy, but never to someone who was troubled, very masculine AND highly aggressive. To me, once you add highly aggressive to the mix, you risk getting a borderline sociopath. No thanks. Give me a guy who is masculine and kind. Confidence is also good. Even a bit cocky is hot -- as long as it doesn't slip into unjustified arrogance.

 

I had a crush on the same classmate beginning in grade school and well into high school. He was an all-around jock (baseball, football, basketball) and was the focus of lots of wet dreams. At some point he figured out that I was a big admirer (my guess is that someone noticed and told him). He could have reacted by being cold and hostile, but instead got friendly and kind of sweet. I realized it the first time he came up next to me in the hall and put his arm around my shoulder (he was a lot taller and more muscular than skinny little me) and he called me his good buddy. There was another time during a class picnic that he came up and sat next to me on the grass. He was shirtless and spectacular and I was almost speechless when he lay back on the grass for a couple minutes and let me stare at his beautiful body. I hardly remember what we talked about, but looking back at it later, I have no doubt that he was intentionally giving me a thrill. It seemed like a gift although it was probably more about him pumping up his own ego.

 

If I’m going to be attracted to a “very masculine” guy, it will be someone like this classmate.

[+ FreshFluff]

Sorry, FreshFluff, but I have thought, as I read through the responses, that the masc guy appeals to women more than gay men.

 

I don't know. It doesn't get much more "bad boy" than Jarec Wentworth or Brodie Sinclair. And there are tons of threads here about "masc" or "str8-acting" guys, although those are not necessarily fighter types.

 

Could it be that we are similarly attracted to overly-tough guys because we want to at least dream about going on that dangerous ride, at least for a little while?[...]But would I fantasize like crazy what it might be like to spend some private time with some big tall strong testosterone-driven cocky college jockboy or fratboy, lol? Hell yeah...

 

Guilty as charged. That definitely adds to the thrill, although danger/"bad boy"-ness alone isn't that attractive on its own. It has to come as part of a package deal with other qualities. As for frat boys, your city is full of them of course. And some percentage of them, including those who would never get near CL, might be up for it.

 

 

Tis true, this country simpleton did not meet and mingle with a classy woman before I became a "set-in-my-ways" bachelor. I posit that Fluffy, an erudite and charming lady of the city, and a ramblinwreck from the sticks would have made quite a pairing.

 

A perfect pairing, especially if the ramblinwreck (love that word) keeps calling me erudite and charming. Where's that kissing heart emoji when you need it?

[+ FreshFluff]

There's certainly times when I've been attracted to a troubled and very masculine guy, but never to someone who was troubled, very masculine AND highly aggressive. To me, once you add highly aggressive to the mix, you risk getting a borderline sociopath. No thanks. Give me a guy who is masculine and kind. Confidence is also good. Even a bit cocky is hot -- as long as it doesn't slip into unjustified arrogance.

 

They're not necessarily sociopaths, especially if they have almost no filter and just blurt everything out. They are definitely volatile though. And I agree: Cockiness (as opposed to false modesty) can be very hot if there's something backing it up.

 

Great story about how your jock classmate responded to you. You certainly chose the right crush.

[+ WilliamM]

troubled guy--the very masc, aggressive, ton of testosterone coursing through his veins type, the kind who gets into more than his share of fights

 

there are tons of threads here about "masc" or "str8-acting" guys, although those are not necessarily fighter types.

 

You answered my question in your second response. In my experience "str8-acting" guys are seldom the same as the men you describe in your first post above (also your first post in this thread).

[+ Gar1eth]

I don't know. It doesn't get much more "bad boy" than Jarec Wentworth or Brodie Sinclair. And there are tons of threads here about "masc" or "str8-acting" guys, although those are not necessarily fighter types.

 

I don't know if there is any proof that just because these two were blackmailers they were also physically aggressive. While we all have our own definitions, when I say I prefer masculine and straight -acting escorts, I definitely do not mean I want someone aggressive.

 

I think WilliamM may be right about this being more of a female fantasy.

 

Gman

[+ FreshFluff]

I think WilliamM may be right about this being more of a female fantasy.

 

You may be right. A single woman living alone is pretty vulnerable, even today. Some of us wish we had someone around to deter those who would harm or take advantage of us. A guy who's willing to play bad cop on behalf of her behalf can be very appealing--at least to me.

 

Yes, I realize that the disadvantages might outweigh the advantages and that a "gentle giant" might be more effective in this regard. But on a primal level, that's what's going on.