I did it, I had my first hire!

[bobchitown]

I have had many a great heart to heart after an intense hard to hard. Enjoying passionate exchange of fluids does not preclude passionate exchange of ideas. You certainly should do what feels comfortable for you to do, but pushing those boundaries makes life memorable.

 

This.

 

I usually hire for at least 2 hours which gives time for a chat with slow but increasing light play for half an hour, an hour in the sack and then 30 minutes for a cleanup and wind down.

 

The above or he's up my ass in the entryway with my ass over teakettle, then we chat and then we wind up in bed.

 

Both options have their merits and both are far more than just sex.

[Rudynate]

I have had many a great heart to heart after an intense hard to hard. Enjoying passionate exchange of fluids does not preclude passionate exchange of ideas. You certainly should do what feels comfortable for you to do, but pushing those boundaries makes life memorable.

 

In my experience, paid encounters tend to be much higher quality than unpaid. If you respond to a CL ad, it can take forever to set up, it is extremely likely that it will never happen even after you've gone to all the trouble of setting it up, you get together, he's not what he promised, he doesn't want to talk, he just wants to stick his ass in the air and have you service him while he watches porn on his laptop and then wants you to leave as soon as you're done. And you're happy to leave as soon as you're done.

You lay out some dough for a couple of hours with an escort, he's where he says he will be when he says he will be there, he's stunning, he treats you like you're the only man on the planet, the sex is great, the conversation is great, his phone is turned off, there's no laptop in sight. Why wouldn't you hire? Now, I agree, they don't all go that way, but for me, more have than haven't. Part of it is luck, but part is the age that I hire, early 40's, - by then, they don't have much baggage, and the fact that I only hire guys with reputations.

[iveryhotijake]

Who did you end up hiring Wolfer?

[docjim]

Who did you end up hiring Wolfer?

It's Patrick Michaels in London : http://www.daddysreviews.com/cruise/newest/patrick_michaels_london

[Wolfer]

That's right, Patrick Michaels. My review is #9.

[Phil_musc]

And Patrick appears to be quite a hottie. Does he ever come stateside?

[Wolfer]

He was in New York at the start of this year for the Hookies (he was nominated and won, well it was a tie, for mr UK).

He is very very hot and incredibly cute.

[jawjateck]

Congrats on your successful entry into this amazing hobby. I agree with DG. Having fun with handsome, sexy, intelligent men has transformed me into a more sensual man than I was 20 years ago, when I had all the looks, but not the moves to go with it.

 

I am regularly complimented by escorts for various attributes of my sensual skills. Some are frivolous tidbits of flattery, but most of them are from men who have been sexually satiated to be with me. I much prefer the 40-something me, than the 20-something version.

[chinolatino]

As you long as you keep in mind you're doing, you'll be fine. Just remember that you paid for sex. Like anything else you pay for, it should be what you want. Don't mistake it for friendship, or intimacy, its just sex. I've made this mistake before and in the end, I was the one who got hurt. My rule is money trumps all. Who has the cash, makes the decision. Of course, its not something to share with the whole world, but then again, why would you? Too many people judge to harshly. We all have our reasons, so be it. Keep enjoying and may all of your experiences be just as lovely.

[Glenn1441]

Sounds like you are in danger of blurring the lines of escorting and friendship. An escort will NEVER be a suitable replacement for a friend. Please don't allow yourself to confuse the issue because it can be very easy to do. I assure you, when the money stops flowing, so will the care, concern, kindness, and whatever other "real one-sided" emotions you might be experiencing.

 

For those of us who are deeply introverted, it can be very difficult to make friends and put yourself out there in the real world. It's something you just have to bite the bullet and do. Hiring escorts can be therapeutic for some based on their experiences expressed on these forums. Unfortunately, it can just as easily be a crutch allowing others to delude themselves into false senses of friendship, love, emotional support and community that just don't exist anywhere but your own imagination.

 

Proceed with caution!

 

Well put. At the end of the day, the escort-client relationship is a transaction. That is not to imply that good escorts are not genuinely caring, kind individuals. But it s very unlikely that even the friendliest escort will continue with a client unless the transaction is completed. That said, I imagine there are a handful of escorts who do maintain friendships of some sort with former clients, but I highly suspect that is not the norm. And while hiring escorts can be great fun, etc., there indeed exists a potential danger of blurring the lines, and/or neglecting fulfillment of areas of one's personal life for which only the self can be held responsible.