Street cruising

[+ Gar1eth]

I never much liked the idea of cruising per se, cruising for it's own sake, but I really enjoyed meeting people spontaneously, e.g. I'm out buying groceries, I start chatting a man up and before we know it, we're home in bed together. That sort of think happened regularly and I had some memorable experiences that way.

 

I never had any experiences like that. It must have been nice. I was closeted (still am to some extent) for #1 and lived in Texas for #2. And now it's not going to happen.

 

Gman

[rocky]

As an older closeted guy my first experience was actually cruising in DC since I had heard about P Street and DuPont Circle. I'm not how one refers to crusing but if it means hanging out somewhere looking for another guy I tried a lot. In P Town where I found it very nice and even in Key West. I remember when guys would actually hang outside and you could talk and say yes or no

[+ José Soplanucas]

I never much liked the idea of cruising per se, cruising for it's own sake, but I really enjoyed meeting people spontaneously, e.g. I'm out buying groceries, I start chatting a man up and before we know it, we're home in bed together. That sort of think happened regularly and I had some memorable experiences that way.

 

Those surprise, unexpected hook ups are GREAT, Rudy! But... How can you say that cruising is "per se"????? it is "per sex"!!!!!

The thrill of the hunting is pretty good, but catching the prey is the ultimate motivation!

[Rudynate]

Those surprise, unexpected hook ups are GREAT, Rudy! But... How can you say that cruising is "per se"????? it is "per sex"!!!!!

The thrill of the hunting is pretty good, but catching the prey is the ultimate motivation!

 

Cruising "per se" - cruising as an activity all it's own. Believe me, I've done it and met some great partners doing it, but I always felt my time was better spent on other things and I found it a little degrading. I was so glad when I got tired of bars at about age 30. I thought, "Now I can get that time sponge out of my life." Some of the bars in the Castro have big windows, so you can see in from the street. Occasionally, walking by, I catch site of a middle-aged man, hanging around by himself in some bar, pretending to enjoy himself, and I always ask myself, "How can he spend his time on that? There are so many other things he could be doing."

[thickornotatall]

Cruising "per se" - cruising as an activity all it's own. Believe me, I've done it and met some great partners doing it, but I always felt my time was better spent on other things and I found it a little degrading. I was so glad when I got tired of bars at about age 30. I thought, "Now I can get that time sponge out of my life." Some of the bars in the Castro have big windows, so you can see in from the street. Occasionally, walking by, I catch site of a middle-aged man, hanging around by himself in some bar, pretending to enjoy himself, and I always ask myself, "How can he spend his time on that? There are so many other things he could be doing."

I never drank or smoked cigarettes....I went to bars to dance and meet friends...I always felt a bit out of place due to the dark setting...Almost all the bars in The West Village were open until 2am or so...and then after hours clubs or restaurants took over...The famous Julius Bar (still open) was always well lit and crowded with business types and locals....My friends and I preferred to walk around..chat..or sit on front stoops...maybe a walk down to the piers...I know that was a hybrid situation..but the reason I loved New York (still do)...

Cruising is a lost art..being able to look at someone and catch their attention...walk a bit...look in a store window...initiate a conversation..chemistry?..if not...move on...My friends called me a minx....able to capture the game....https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DBa746RVNHA

[AdamSmith]

Occasionally, walking by, I catch site of a middle-aged man, hanging around by himself in some bar, pretending to enjoy himself, and I always ask myself, "How can he spend his time on that? There are so many other things he could be doing."

 

LOL The trick is to go to bars where everybody is middle-aged. Like The Alley Bar in Boston.

 

Or The Eagle, Boston's never-fail bar-of-last-resort. Where, by closing time, nobody who is still there cares about anybody's age, so long as they have a pulse.

[Rudynate]

LOL The trick is to go to bars where everybody is middle-aged. Like The Alley Bar in Boston.

 

Or The Eagle, Boston's never-fail bar-of-last-resort. Where, by closing time, nobody who is still there cares about anybody's age, so long as they have a pulse.

 

 

In San Francisco, we have the Twin Peaks. In the 70s it was known as the quintessential "wrinkle bar." And there was another on Polk Street, called the "New Bell Saloon."

 

I used to ask myself, "How does somebody know when it's time for them to stop going to normal bars and start hanging out at the Twin Peaks?" If I spent any time in bars, I definitely would be a candidate for the Twin Peaks.

[dcguy20]

RudyNate, your post about being tired of bars at 30 could have been written by me! After much success in the hook up department in my mid 20s, I remember questioning that there had to be more than just hooking up. As much as I enjoyed the moment, I felt kind of empty afterwards.

[+ Gar1eth]

Cruising "per se" - cruising as an activity all it's own. Believe me, I've done it and met some great partners doing it, but I always felt my time was better spent on other things and I found it a little degrading. I was so glad when I got tired of bars at about age 30. I thought, "Now I can get that time sponge out of my life." Some of the bars in the Castro have big windows, so you can see in from the street. Occasionally, walking by, I catch site of a middle-aged man, hanging around by himself in some bar, pretending to enjoy himself, and I always ask myself, "How can he spend his time on that? There are so many other things he could be doing."

 

LOL The trick is to go to bars where everybody is middle-aged. Like The Alley Bar in Boston.

 

Or The Eagle, Boston's never-fail bar-of-last-resort. Where, by closing time, nobody who is still there cares about anybody's age, so long as they have a pulse.

 

In San Francisco, we have the Twin Peaks. In the 70s it was known as the quintessential "wrinkle bar." And there was another on Polk Street, called the "New Bell Saloon."

 

I used to ask myself, "How does somebody know when it's time for them to stop going to normal bars and start hanging out at the Twin Peaks?" If I spent any time in bars, I definitely would be a candidate for the Twin Peaks.

 

I know it happens in the straight world-especially with women. But in the gay world it seems like being older is the kiss of death especially if you aren't athletic. So for example -me-never in the gay world when young, to a large proportion of gays because I'm not attractive -I'm a pariah. And I'm not innocent of it myself. I'm not attracted to guys with my body type either. So I don't know what the answer is.

 

Gman

[+ Gar1eth]

RudyNate, your post about being tired of bars at 30 could have been written by me! After much success in the hook up department in my mid 20s, I remember questioning that there had to be more than just hooking up. As much as I enjoyed the moment, I felt kind of empty afterwards.

 

 

I've almost never went to bars to hook-up-mainly because it never worked. When I went, it was to go with a group of friends, have a few drinks, tell some jokes, sing badly at karaoke, and shoot the proverbial sh-t. If I had a group of friends right now, I'd still like to do that.

 

Gman

[thickornotatall]

I know it happens in the straight world-especially with women. But in the gay world it seems like being older is the kiss of death especially if you aren't athletic. So for example -me-never in the gay world when young, to a large proportion of gays because I'm not attractive -I'm a pariah. And I'm not innocent of it myself. I'm not attracted to guys with my body type either. So I don't know what the answer is.

 

Gman

http://onlineslangdictionary.com/meaning-definition-of/have-a-date-with-rosey-palmer-and-her-five-sisters You will never have to worry....never in a hurry....

[Rudynate]

http://onlineslangdictionary.com/meaning-definition-of/have-a-date-with-rosey-palmer-and-her-five-sisters You will never have to worry....never in a hurry....

 

 

Why deny yourself?

[AdamSmith]

 

"Scared the first time I had sex? Of course I was scared -- I was all alone!" Rodney Dangerfield

[+ Gar1eth]

http://onlineslangdictionary.com/meaning-definition-of/have-a-date-with-rosey-palmer-and-her-five-sisters You will never have to worry....never in a hurry....

 

Why deny yourself?

 

Unfortunately, I'm at a point where things don't always work-out with Rosey and her sisters. And even if they do, the Palmer family ain't great with either romance or conversation.

 

Gman

[thickornotatall]

Unfortunately, I'm at a point where things don't always work-out with Rosey and her sisters. And even if they do, the Palmer family ain't great with either romance or conversation.

 

Gman

I agree..but it does take that one important hormone release off the table and allows you to do something else..like watching Lifetime TV...

[+ José Soplanucas]

Cruising "per se" - cruising as an activity all it's own. Believe me, I've done it and met some great partners doing it, but I always felt my time was better spent on other things and I found it a little degrading. I was so glad when I got tired of bars at about age 30. I thought, "Now I can get that time sponge out of my life." Some of the bars in the Castro have big windows, so you can see in from the street. Occasionally, walking by, I catch site of a middle-aged man, hanging around by himself in some bar, pretending to enjoy himself, and I always ask myself, "How can he spend his time on that? There are so many other things he could be doing."

Degrading? I never found it degrading. I stopped because after my middle 40s I stopped being successful and because my libido just lost its power. Of course the bars become boring when I started going back home alone.

[AdamSmith]

Of course the bars become boring when I started going back home alone.

 

You need to find trashier bars.

[thickornotatall]

I remember a long time ago the piers in lower Manhattan before NYC turned into a Disney World - tons of cruising at night, lots of dark private areas. Fast forward to now here in Miami - I miss those days where there was live visible physical instant attraction, the Internet changed all that and has made it - in my opinion - harder cause you never know who is real, who has fake pics and Internet attracts tons of flakes as well.

My room mates and I would take a walk before bed (workdays) and stroll to the trucks on Washington St...For those that don't remember..know or never heard of them....a big city night time smorgasbord of dick....all outside and in the back of 18 wheelers parked along the back of truck terminals...100's of men gathered in the dark and had sex....every once in a while the cops came by and flashed their lights....everyone scattered....regrouped and came back later...or maybe hooked up and went home....I always brought my own flashlight and tape measure....One night I met a thin/handsome Puerto Rican boy...all he wore was a Speedo.. and rubber sandals ...he spoke no English ( I speak NuYorRican) he had a huge fat cock that everyone was grabbing...lucky for me..."Vivo cuatro quadras de aqui....vamos a mi casa? ahora?...Bueno...I saw Guillermo for 6 months until he went back to school in Rio Piedras....I pride myself on a good memory...for some things...

[bigvalboy]

You need to find trashier bars.

 

No caption necessary....:D:D May she rest in peace...(Don't ask me how I know these things)