Question on paying for time together.

[Despardo]

I have always tried to keep things simple and uncomplicated when indulging--book one hour or maybe two.

 

I understand that many clients like to take an escort out to dinner or to some kind of event. I have not done this.

 

I assume one pays for the meal or the tickets, or whatever costs are incurred.

 

Does the escort bill on the clock for the total time spent with the client, and if so, is it at the same rate as he would charge for fun and games? I know one can book an overnight or a weekend at stated rated, but how about just for lunch?

 

I have no experience here.

[bobnyc]

Depends on the escort. Some will give a reduced rate for the time for dinner while others will consider it off the clock. I never assume and always ask.

 

Rarely, some will charge full rate for any time spent with you (including dinner) and those are the ones I skip doing anything outside with.

 

Then there are those rare few who actually want to go to dinner with you, buy you dinner and it's like hanging with a friend. Those are the ones I keep in my life.

[down_to_business]

Not an easily answered question because there is no standard answer here. You will get a whole bunch of different responses, including those that think the clock should start the second you email the escort. Can you imagine the shrewd escort that is charging you by the same hourly rate for everything ordering the thickest cut steak on the menu, well-done, so it takes an hour to cook and another hour to eat!

 

I strongly urge you not to listen to the opinions on here and instead email the specific escort of your choice and ask him for a rate the encompasses dinner and playtime or dinner, a show and playtime. If you find the quote reasonable, then go for it and you will have nothing to worry about because you will know exactly what is expected of you in terms of $$$.

[Despardo]

Depends on the escort. Some will give a reduced rate for the time for dinner while others will consider it off the clock. I never assume and always ask.

 

Rarely, some will charge full rate for any time spent with you (including dinner) and those are the ones I skip doing anything outside with.

 

Then there are those rare few who actually want to go to dinner with you, buy you dinner and it's like hanging with a friend. Those are the ones I keep in my life.

Thanks. I met a guy in a bar who paid for my drink there--I didn't expect that and thought it showed class.

[Despardo]

Not an easily answered question because there is no standard answer here. You will get a whole bunch of different responses, including those that think the clock should start the second you email the escort. Can you imagine the shrewd escort that is charging you by the same hourly rate for everything ordering the thickest cut steak on the menu, well-done, so it takes an hour to cook and another hour to eat!

 

I strongly urge you not to listen to the opinions on here and instead email the specific escort of your choice and ask him for a rate the encompasses dinner and playtime or dinner, a show and playtime. If you find the quote reasonable, then go for it and you will have nothing to worry about because you will know exactly what is expected of you in terms of $$$.

 

 

Makes sense to me. I have no plans to commit to an expensive dinner in public with a guy I have never met. I might consider doing so with an escort I had met before and with whom I had a great rapport.

[big-n-tall]

As has been stated... It varies from escort to escort. If you're unsure how to approach it, do as down_to_business suggested and ask the escort.

 

I think I've had about 3 escorts who on the first meeting treated me to something. The ones who have become regulars or friends, we often go back and forth paying for stuff we do off the clock. On occasion we go Dutch.

[Epigonos]

I'm pretty much with bobnyc on this one. I don't expect escorts to pay for the dinner, under any circumstances, although the first time I met Benjamin Nicholas he paid the dinner check while I was in the restroom. I did everything I could to reimburse him but he wouldn't hear of it -- class act. I get together off the clock with a couple of escorts for coffee, lunch, or dinner occasionally but in those cases sex is never involved.

 

As with all things involving the escort client relationship the best advise anyone can give you is communication, Communication and ever more COMMUNICATION. Take NOTHING for granite and assume NOTHING!!!!!

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

If I schedule time with an escort and it includes time for dinner or a show, I plan to play him for his time plus the cost of meal and tickets. However, on two occasions, at the end of a massage with a visiting masseur (2 different guys) I asked what else they had planned for the evening. When they stated dinner alone, I asked if they would enjoy company and ended up with a dinner companion "off the clock."

[+ Gar1eth]

In the past when I was hiring and had hired only for an hour or two- I would occasionally ask them if they wanted to get something to eat. I would also make clear that while I was planning on paying for the meal, I was only interested in going out with them off the clock. I think in 10 to 12 years of hiring only 2 or 3 took me up on the offer. Of course I didn't ask everyone. On the other hand, as I preferred overnights and weekends, I've had meals with lots of escorts.

 

Gman

[Irtwo]

I asked what else they had planned for the evening. When they stated dinner alone, I asked if they would enjoy company and ended up with a dinner companion "off the clock."

 

SF, could you elaborate on this a bit, specifically did you say anything to make it clear it was going to be off the clock? I ask because what you describe is the more common situation I have found. With a planned dinner before hand, it is easy to ask what the rate will be, as posters above noted, but for a spontaneous dinner afterwards, that's a bit more awkward and it's where misunderstandings can arise.

[bobnyc]

SF, could you elaborate on this a bit, specifically did you say anything to make it clear it was going to be off the clock? I ask because what you describe is the more common situation I have found. With a planned dinner before hand, it is easy to ask what the rate will be, as posters above noted, but for a spontaneous dinner afterwards, that's a bit more awkward and it's where misunderstandings can arise.

 

It's always best to be direct about it. If you beat around the bush or are ambiguous in some way then it can easily bite you in the ass. I usually ask if they'd like to have dinner off the clock. It's simple and straightforward, exactly how I am. It's worked well for me.

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

SF, could you elaborate on this a bit, specifically did you say anything to make it clear it was going to be off the clock? I ask because what you describe is the more common situation I have found. With a planned dinner before hand, it is easy to ask what the rate will be, as posters above noted, but for a spontaneous dinner afterwards, that's a bit more awkward and it's where misunderstandings can arise.

 

In both cases I simply asked if they wanted a companion. However as I recall I had already dressed and paid for the massage services. I think it was clear that professional services were concluded.

[Lookin]

I nearly reached an impasse with a favorite escort. I couldn't understand why I should be paying him to buy him dinner, and he couldn't understand why I thought his time would be free. We eventually worked out a compromise. . http://www.boytoy.com/forums/public/style_emoticons/default/rolleyes.gif

 

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[+ Gar1eth]

I nearly reached an impasse with a favorite escort. I couldn't understand why I should be paying him to buy him dinner, and he couldn't understand why I thought his time would be free. We eventually worked out a compromise. . http://www.boytoy.com/forums/public/style_emoticons/default/rolleyes.gif

 

http://blog.casper.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/4909221759_086fb8e714.jpg

 

Another indication I think that usually clients and escorts aren't in actuality friends. While some have used the analogy of the friends of doctors and lawyers paying them for professional services, still when the medical exam or the professional counseling session is over, neither the physician nor the lawyer friend charge you for their time for lunch.

 

Thinking of it from a business sense, if the escort is hungry and doesn't have anything pressing to do, it actually makes good sense for the escort to go along for a meal with the client unless they just can't totally stand him and need to get away. The reasons being#1. The escort gets a free meal. #2. It more than likely is going to make the client feel better about the escort which will very likely lead to repeat bookings.

 

Gman