what not to say to a client

[LookingAround]

Just my $.02...after you had canceled on him/asked him to move the appointment, he was (perhaps inartfully) indicating he was motivated to work with you and would be flexible. After all, why do you think most guys become RB's anyway? He just said what is probably true for 99% of the other RB's anyway. I think some here are being wayyyyy too sensitive. Perhaps you're upset that he spoke the unspeakable? Maybe he burst your bubble of fantasy. If you want guys who want to meet with you because of your intrinsic qualities, look on Grindr or other venues where no $ is exchanged.

[buckguy]

All you know is what he told you and whatever that elicited from you. Clearly people here have differing opinions but most agree that it is a little discomforting. Most typical communication before an appt is brief and businesslike and I take that as a positive sign. Desperation is pretty unattractive and if you can't put that put of your mind, you probably should cancel outright.

[actor61]

Que the violin!

 

I think you mean "cue" the violin.

[+ dutchmuch]

You are correct, Sir.

[+ purplekow]

I think you mean "cue" the violin.

Well it is good you found an escort who doesn't need the money and is just escorting for the joy of it. Meanwhile, you cancelled twice and seem offended that the escort had the nerve to turn you off by sharing something personal. A simple, I am sorry for your troubles so lets get back to the issue of fucking, might have been enough to get his head back into business and away from his troubles. Or if those troubles were manufactured, would let him know that basically your dick is in it but your heart isn't

[+ stevenkesslar]

Well it is good you found an escort who doesn't need the money and is just escorting for the joy of it. Meanwhile, you cancelled twice and seem offended that the escort had the nerve to turn you off by sharing something personal.

 

I'm with PK on this one.

 

I didn't comment until I read his post, because the matter is settled. And, if you think the escort is "emotionally unstable," I can't say you are wrong, or that you should have hired him. Plus, corndog really summed it up: desperation is not sexy.

 

Having said that, PK is right. You cancelled twice on him, and he did offer after the first cancellation to change his schedule, and one reason he might have brought up the sob story, however unsexy it was, was to communicate to you that he really wanted you to hire him. Your story is exactly why I like having clients that I have known and trusted for years. It's a two way street, and to put it bluntly, you don't sound like the most considerate client in the world, either.

 

I hope you told him that the sob story was unsexy. If he lost a few hundred dollars, it's not a big deal, and maybe he'll at least he'll learn from the experience. That way you both might come out ahead.

 

To put the shoe on the other foot, or the cock in the other ass, I rarely hire escorts, and my basic rule is only outside the US, with guys I know I don't want to become friends with. I was alone at a stripper bar in Puerto Vallarta, and a kid that I'd played with several times in the bar - including twice with 2 different clients - was working me with his dick for drinks and tips. He gave me a sob story about needing to pay the rent, so I took him home and fucked him. I think it cost me about $200, which was probably about twice what he told me his rate was. To me, it was a nice thing to do, and a nice way to get off, although in honesty it was far from the best sex ever, and I also felt like a little bit of a fool.

 

Your call, and I can't say you called it wrong. But there are worse things than having a soft heart and a hard cock.

[kaboom35]

Thank you all for your comments whether I agreed with them or not, I was expecting various points of view and I respect all of you. I'm not one to get into debates on here back and forth because it's more harmonious to agree to disagree and just get along

 

I know I made the right decision canceling with said escort and glad I did because I was able to meet up with an AMAZING escort in instead and had a fantastic hot time with another NYC escort. Review is coming.

 

Thanks guys and be safe!!

[+ quoththeraven]

Late to the party, but I'm in the "cancel if you don't think you'll enjoy it, but this will be the second cancellation and the price of cancelling is paying him the full fee" category. Yes, desperation is unsexy. So is not keeping an appointment.

[+ purplekow]

Thank you all for your comments whether I agreed with them or not, I was expecting various points of view and I respect all of you. I'm not one to get into debates on here back and forth because it's more harmonious to agree to disagree and just get along

 

I know I made the right decision canceling with said escort and glad I did because I was able to meet up with an AMAZING escort in instead and had a fantastic hot time with another NYC escort. Review is coming.

 

Thanks guys and be safe!!

Yeah, that is how I felt about leaving my prom date waiting at home and going bowling with a really hot guy.

[curiousnomore]

Well it is good you found an escort who doesn't need the money and is just escorting for the joy of it. Meanwhile, you cancelled twice and seem offended that the escort had the nerve to turn you off by sharing something personal. A simple, I am sorry for your troubles so lets get back to the issue of fucking, might have been enough to get his head back into business and away from his troubles. Or if those troubles were manufactured, would let him know that basically your dick is in it but your heart isn't

Great reply PK. You cut right to the heart of the issue.

 

While setting up a first appointment with an escort, he was unsure if he could do an overnight. I told him the reason I prefer overnights (sad but true reason lol), and presto, he agreed to an overnight. It turned out to be my best escort experience ever. He had a better understanding of who I am and why I hire. Turns out, we value a lot of the same things.

 

Now, it wasn't a sob story, but sometimes a little honesty goes a long way to making a real connection. I agree that desperation isn't sexy, but let's give both guys a little slack. The escort tried too hard to keep an appointment. The client got a bad vibe. I probably would have made a different decision, but who knows.

 

We weren't there.

[+ VeryHappyCustomer]

...there are worse things than having a soft heart and a hard cock.

 

Steven, you truly are a hooker with a heart of gold!

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[Irtwo]

I guess I kind of disagree with everyone that desperation isn't sexy. It can be sexy sometimes. Isn't the" broke tenant / lusty landlord" one of the classic role-play scenarios?

[bostonman]

I guess I kind of disagree with everyone that desperation isn't sexy. It can be sexy sometimes. Isn't the" broke tenant / lusty landlord" one of the classic role-play scenarios?

 

Yes, but that's roleplay - I think the feeling of deliberately playing out a made-up fantasy is a different thing. (At least in the opinion of someone who enjoys roleplay as I do, lol.)

 

Sometimes it CAN be sexy. I think it depends on the situation. And clearly in this situation it didn't work out that way.

[+ stevenkesslar]

Thank you all for your comments whether I agreed with them or not, I was expecting various points of view and I respect all of you. I'm not one to get into debates on here back and forth because it's more harmonious to agree to disagree and just get along

 

I know I made the right decision canceling with said escort and glad I did because I was able to meet up with an AMAZING escort in instead and had a fantastic hot time with another NYC escort. Review is coming.

 

Thanks guys and be safe!!

 

Since nobody's said it, I'll take the high road and say it. Congratulations! Glad you had a fantastic time.

 

At the end of the day clients are clients and escorts are supposed to be professionals, so the win-win-win for me in this would be you're happy with how you spent your money, the escort you hired will get a great review, and the escort who didn't get hired hopefully learned a good lesson from it. To err is human, to forgive is divine. And as you say, kaboom, to have fantastic sex is AMAZING.

[kaboom35]

Since nobody's said it, I'll take the high road and say it. Congratulations! Glad you had a fantastic time.

 

At the end of the day clients are clients and escorts are supposed to be professionals, so the win-win-win for me in this would be you're happy with how you spent your money, the escort you hired will get a great review, and the escort who didn't get hired hopefully learned a good lesson from it. To err is human, to forgive is divine. And as you say, kaboom, to have fantastic sex is AMAZING.

 

Thanks Steven

[nycbystander]

You are way too sensitive and frankly rude and callous. Purple Kow and Frequent Flier covered all points about why you are wrong, I will add to it that the time an escort promises to one client based on that client's word ( a stranger of unknown validity) is time the escort can't promise to another client. So the time the escort blocked out for your first appointment the escort may have told another client(s) "sorry I am booked then" your initial cancellation deprived him of the income from your session that could have been promised to a client of greater reliability and then you dog pile on with a second cancellation, because he said, "great I need the money " ... the reason 99% of us work. It always amazes me that commenters here fail to realize that escorts are human not machines.

[doitb4ugo]

I'll agree with you, Steven. If having AMAZING sex is life's highest achievment it is a win. What makes me feel perhpas the saddest is the win-win-win you describe is only win-win. Somehow the first guy did not even receive the message to toughen up and don't tell your troubles to a stranger. He only got a cancellation. I can only hope e learns is lessons through a friend or client who will be honest with him....

[recency]

I am afraid I have to agree with the stern admonition of nycbystander, although I would have tried to phrase things more gently. Canceling an appointment with an escort should only be for the most serious reasons.

[+ VeryHappyCustomer]

It's OK to cancel so long as you pay.

[jcmiami1]

If anyone has ever had a sales job that was commissioned based its basically the same thing. Your livelihood depends literally on customer/clients and hopefully they follow thru , pay and don't cancel the deal last minute. It's extremely anxiety causing when you don't have any deals lined up. You worry to death you won't have a roof over your head due to not having enough money to pay rent/mortgage. I had a sales job once and believe me there were many sleepless nights worrying.

If you're going to cancel give the escort enough time so to find another client just out of courtesy. Just based on what you're saying and based on my previous experience in sales, you're going to be a "no show".