Thank you grindr! Antigay pastor Matthew Makela is a "top who likes to cuddle"

[marylander1940]

Hypocrisy, our national sin!

 

Until 2 p.m. on Monday, the ‘Our Church Staff’ section of St. John’s Lutheran Church and School’s website described Reverend Matthew Makela as an associate pastor who enjoys, “family, music, home improvement, gardening and landscaping, and sports.”

 

Screenshots obtained by Queerty from a source who asked that his name be withheld shed light on some of the Reverend’s other favorite past times — namely nude make out sessions and sex with other men.

 

Of course, how someone behaves between the sheets is really nobody’s business but his own, except when he’s actively doing damage to others. We’ve seen it time and time again. The lawmaker who spends his days fighting against gay rights and his nights cruising for bottoms, or the ex-gay activist who isn’t quite as ex-gay as he’d like everyone to believe.

 

http://www.queerty.com/exclusive-grindr-screenshots-reveal-antigay-pastor-is-a-top-who-likes-to-cuddle-20150518?utm_source=Queerty+Subscribers&utm_campaign=d878c21535-20150519_Queerty_Newsletter&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_221c27272a-d878c21535-428239205

 

His bio was disappear from the church's website.

 

http://www.sjlmidland.org/about-us/our-church-staff

 

If you want discretion: call an escort!

[wisconsinguy]

I love one of the comments: "So he's bisexual. He's gay and anti-gay." Love it!

[anotherjohnindupont]

I love one of the comments: "So he's bisexual. He's gay and anti-gay." Love it!

 

obviously he's waiting to have sex when he's married to a man or a woman, yeah right? Lol

[maninsoma]

It amazes me how stupid some people can be, thinking that no one will connect the dots between their public persona and their online dating/hook-up profiles. A few months ago, someone relatively high up in the Catholic Church locally was pursuing me on Adam4Adam. My first sense that something wasn't right was that he had a sense of urgency as well as secrecy. A quick Google Image Search of his main profile photo took me to his bio on a church website. I could have been nice and told him to not use the same photo for cruising that he has online for church purposes, but he became so aggressive in his pursuit that all I wanted to do was run away from him.

[loverboy95]

This is so hilarious! I love it when homophobes are caught in situations like this.

[marylander1940]

This is so hilarious! I love it when homophobes are caught in situations like this.

 

[marylander1940]

"It is my grief to inform you that Pastor Makela announced his resignation as a pastor of St. John’s through a letter that was read in worship on Sunday, May 17,” he begins. That’s the day before the story broke here.

 

“To make matters worse,” he continues, “the details of sin that have been kept confidential are being posted online by those who seek to do harm to the Makela family and to St. John’s. This is taking an already difficult situation and making it even more painful… The facebook pages associated with St. John’s have been taken down in an attempt to remove the opportunity for malicious posters to have access to St. John’s members…”

 

http://www.queerty.com/update-church-warns-congregants-not-to-read-rev-makela-grindr-story-deactivates-fb-page-20150519?utm_source=Queerty+Subscribers&utm_campaign=c395ca4f31-20150520_Queerty_Newsletter&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_221c27272a-c395ca4f31-428239205

[mike carey]

I almost feel sorry for this guy. Yes, he is reported to have pushed the usual homophobic hostility from the pulpit, but it appears that his church has just cut him loose. There is no sign of any compassion towards him from his former colleagues. They are more concerned with 'protecting' congregtion members from the 'sordid' details; they seem more worried that this man's example may lead the congregation to question the 'sin' and 'choice' tropes about same sex attraction. The don't even seem to have followed the 'hate the sin, love the sinner' line that they put out at times: that works well when it's theoretical but it gets too icky when actual people have to be considered.

 

I actually hope this guy can sort his life out, preferrably with his family, and find a job in an LGBTI affirming church. He could be a great voice to show up the hypocrisy of churches like St John's.

[+ kontor1]

I love one of the comments: "So he's bisexual. He's gay and anti-gay." Love it!

I was laughing at that too ))

[maninsoma]

Okay, let me rephrase this. While preaching about sins he's doing the opposite ... and while doing so it should be kept confidential that he's not doing what he preaches?

 

He's funny ...

 

Anton.

 

It's so ludicrous that it's almost impossible to believe anyone could be that clueless.

[marylander1940]

Okay, let me rephrase this. While preaching about sins he's doing the opposite ... and while doing so it should be kept confidential that he's not doing what he preaches?

 

He's funny ...

 

Anton.

 

Hypocrisy!

[mike carey]

Okay, let me rephrase this. While preaching about sins he's doing the opposite ... and while doing so it should be kept confidential that he's not doing what he preaches?

 

He's funny ...

 

Anton.

 

It's so ludicrous that it's almost impossible to believe anyone could be that clueless.

 

Hypocrisy!

Yes, all of that. But it was his 'church' that had dumped him that was taking the confidentiality line, not him and he has gone to ground. I agree he was clueless though.

 

Hypocrits like Mr Maleka deserve the oprobrium they receive from the wider community, but I don't think he deserves the hypocrisy that his church unleashed on him for not meeting their so-called standards.

[marylander1940]

Yes, all of that. But it was his 'church' that had dumped him that was taking the confidentiality line, not him and he has gone to ground. I agree he was clueless though.

 

Hypocrits like Mr Maleka deserve the oprobrium they receive from the wider community, but I don't think he deserves the hypocrisy that his church unleashed on him for not meeting their so-called standards.

 

I get your point, I'm just glad he got caught.

 

From now on, unless he changes his name he'll have to get a different job and not one where he can hide and be judgmental with everybody else.

[marylander1940]

It's so ludicrous that it's almost impossible to believe anyone could be that clueless.

 

He also cheap.. if you want privacy call an escort.

[Becket]

A tough experience for a whole lot of people . And yes, the pastor has been hurtful and dishonest with his community. I'm sure he's well aware of that by now. He's got a pants load of family issues he now has to deal with. And he's hurt a lot of people along the way. But dam I get tired of hearing the unabashed gloating and braying from our community when someone doesn't come out exactly when and where WE think he should'a. "He should have come out YEARS ago! How DARE he hide his true nature!" We act as if coming out is as easy as taking out the trash.

 

And don't we love bashing the hypocrisy at play. Yea, I do it too. I agree with you all. Staying in the closet is one thing. Telling other folks they will burn in hell for being gay is quite another. Yes, I get it. But.........

 

Can we not have just a little compassion for that pastor, and (less, much less) for his hateful and hurtful church doctrine?

 

I cannot think of any organization that has done both more good and more evil at the same time than the church.

[mike carey]

I get your point, I'm just glad he got caught.

Don't get me wrong, I am glad he was caught as well. Two things, I detest the sanctimony of his church, and I hope that his public humiliation might lead him to an epiphany about same-sex attraction.

[marylander1940]

A tough experience for a whole lot of people . And yes, the pastor has been hurtful and dishonest with his community. I'm sure he's well aware of that by now. He's got a pants load of family issues he now has to deal with. And he's hurt a lot of people along the way. But dam I get tired of hearing the unabashed gloating and braying from our community when someone doesn't come out exactly when and where WE think he should'a. "He should have come out YEARS ago! How DARE he hide his true nature!" We act as if coming out is as easy as taking out the trash.

 

And don't we love bashing the hypocrisy at play. Yea, I do it too. I agree with you all. Staying in the closet is one thing. Telling other folks they will burn in hell for being gay is quite another. Yes, I get it. But.........

 

Can we not have just a little compassion for that pastor, and (less, much less) for his hateful and hurtful church doctrine?

 

I cannot think of any organization that has done both more good and more evil at the same time than the church.

 

Compassion for him? He didn't have compassion with men who had out of wedlock sex gay or straight...

[marylander1940]

Don't get me wrong, I am glad he was caught as well. Two things, I detest the sanctimony of his church, and I hope that his public humiliation might lead him to an epiphany about same-sex attraction.

 

I'm out to my family and friends, but I don't walk with a sign, at the same time if someone makes a statement diminishing of gay people I'll put in his place right away.

 

http://izquotes.com/quotes-pictures/quote-i-shall-assume-that-your-silence-gives-consent-plato-146409.jpg

 

Criticizing people who do what you do in private is even worst.

[LookingAround]

 

I actually hope this guy can sort his life out, preferrably with his family, and find a job in an LGBTI affirming church. He could be a great voice to show up the hypocrisy of churches like St John's.

 

Why do you say preferably with his family, if he's gay?

 

I could see it going either way, but I wouldn't say I'd prefer he (necessarily) stay with his family....one could argue a healthy move would be to address his true sexuality with his family and make whatever life changes are best in light of that.

[mike carey]

Why do you say preferably with his family, if he's gay?

I said that because I would like to see him come to terms with his sexuality and for his family to accept him as he is, and support him. Big call, I know. That may not mean that the family stays together but it does not have to mean that they are estranged. With five kids he has considerable obligations that I think he needs to continue to meet.

[wisconsinguy]

I am not very familiar with the Bible. However, there were some things that were drilled into me from Sat morning Catechism. I believe this comes from the Bible, and this is really paraphrasing: Politicians and a religious man (as pastor) are held to a higher standard. I often chuckle when I read stories like these.

[wisconsinguy]

I said that because I would like to see him come to terms with his sexuality and for his family to accept him as he is, and support him. Big call, I know. That may not mean that the family stays together but it does not have to mean that they are estranged. With five kids he has considerable obligations that I think he needs to continue to meet.

There are so many things we do not about this situation. Like what was he like as a father and husband? How old are his kids, which will have a great bearing on their understanding. I have five children as well, but there are all grown, and my process started when they were grown. But, speaking from experience, he will always be their father.

It is my guess, that this marriage will dissolve. It is really at this point about the wife and kids. As far as the Pastor. Many of us have been given so many second chances that we can't even remember when they started! I hope he does get a second chance. It's what he does with it that will show how he comes to grips with who is is. I sure hope he doesn't write a book! Please God, don't let him do it!!!

[marylander1940]

A mother and her gay son from Midland, Michigan have come forward with new information about how Reverend Matthew Makela behaved in his position as associate pastor at St. John’s Lutheran Church before Queerty broke the news about his Grindr profile earlier this week.

 

Jennifer Kish says Makela nearly drove her then 17-year-old son Tyler to suicide.

 

“We had moved to Midland specifically to go to this church,” Jennifer told WNEM, but when Tyler was beginning to come to terms with his sexuality, Makela told him he’d be going to hell because he was gay.

 

http://www.queerty.com/grindr-user-rev-matthew-makela-once-drove-this-gay-teen-to-near-suicide-20150521?utm_source=Queerty+Subscribers&utm_campaign=b9b8e5529c-20150521_Queerty_Newsletter&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_221c27272a-b9b8e5529c-428239205

[+ WmClarke]

This repugnant hypocrite certainly deserved to be outed.

 

But this is just so far beyond wrong.

 

I am, sadly, not surprised. We can now see the depth of his evil.

[marylander1940]

This repugnant hypocrite certainly deserved to be outed.

 

But this is just so far beyond wrong.

 

I am, sadly, not surprised. We can now see the depth of his evil.

 

He almost drove that 17 y/o kid to suicide... Imagine if they had run into each other on grindr.

 

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