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It's a thought that excites me, especially when I masturbate.

 

In my opinion, this sentence is your whole problem. I believe that escorts are bombarded with emails and texts from people who are never going to hire them, but get a thrill thinking about it and engaging in long, sexy conversations that just waste their time. We know that you're serious about hiring, but to an escort that is weary of time-wasters, this sentence sends the wrong signal.

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Nooo I'm sorry I didn't make this clear. The issue is that I wrote a quick note about availability, got an affirmative response, then described what I like and the guys clammed up. In a way I'd have preferred no response to either message: that I'd chalk up to "I guess he's busy" rather than "He's available, but not for me."

 

Thank you for saying what I wrote was okay. That's what I really needed to hear. I feel very secure now that it's not me! I tried to pick ones that have been thoroughly reviewed and vetted, but I guess everyone has off days (which is why I'm reticent to name names) and more importantly I now realize that one doesn't have to do with the other; it was just a stroke of bad luck.

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In my opinion, this sentence is your whole problem. I believe that escorts are bombarded with emails and texts from people who are never going to hire them, but get a thrill thinking about it and engaging in long, sexy conversations that just waste their time. We know that you're serious about hiring, but to an escort that is weary of time-wasters, this sentence sends the wrong signal.

 

Yes, I noticed that as well. That was the wrong signal.

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That wasn't horrible, was it? Too forward in the third paragraph, I see that now, but certainly better than what Juan quoted above, right?

I don't want to sound like I don't respect, and in fact admire, escorts for what they put themselves through. I can't fathom the psychological toll it must take. I don't want to sound like I disrespect the profession.

 

Hey my man,

 

Just want to clarify that I wasn't quoting you for the obvious reason; Until now I had no idea of what you had wrote. I was just giving you examples of different styles that get different responses. I want to clarify that I don't think there is one style that is right and another one that is wrong. Sexuality works in such fascinatingly strange ways that many people get turned on by the whole gamut. I don't think that the guy who writes "WS SUB use me as a toilet" is a bad guy. I am sure he is a great guy that happens to get off with such specific fetish. And part of his fetish is this clipped, almost telegraphic communication. There are many men who will get turned on by that, in my case, I rather not spend time with him because what turns me on is the full interaction between two human beings. We are not a good match and if I agreed to meet him then I would be putting myself in a situation in which my work would take a toll on me. As it is, meeting only with people that are a good match, escorting only invigorates me, makes me love my life and makes me love people. That is why it's very important to screen potential clients for compatibility.

 

Now, let me give you an insight of how many of us work.

 

When we receive a message, ideally we respond right away, depending on our availability. If we are busy and the message is pretty straightforward, we will respond to it as soon as we can. If we are busy and the message has a few points that have to be addressed at length we will put the message in a queue and will respond the ones that are straightforward. If the message is demanding me to sit down and spend a good hour addressing it chances are I will let it go to the end of the queue and if I am very busy it might take a long time to get to it, if at all.

 

Ideally we respond to all messages, but sometimes we don't. This is specially true if there are red flags about the message possibly being a jerk off email and if there are indications that we are not a good match.

 

There are a few things in your message that raised red flags. Again, this doesn't mean that what you want is wrong or bad or disrespectful. It just means that what I read made me think we might not be the best match. Again, this is not an attack on you and it's not a suggestion that you should change it. I think you should stick with it as it is because with this message you would attract the escorts that are totally into this. These are a few of the things that raised my flags:

 

1. Someone already mentioned it and you responded to it. If I had a penny for every single email that I have received saying "I am coming to your town in ____ and I would like to engage in this lengthy correspondence with you" I would be a rich man. I don't doubt your sincerity, just know that by writing that you are putting yourself with a very inglorious group of time wasters. I am not saying lie, I am explaining why the responses might be taking a long time to come.

 

2. Even though I really like pissing on people, I personally don't like the smell of concentrated piss. That is why I prepare so that I can piss a generous and clean stream of piss. Once the pissing is done, I like my partner to shower and dry and then we can continue playing. I know there are many men that like you get off on the concentrated old piss smell, but that is just not for me.

 

3. I like fucking, and because of safety and health I know that fucking has to happen without the presence of pain. If there is pain, there's probably tears in the ass and on the dick. Condoms are often compromised with really hard, pain focused fucking and the combination of a weak condom and bloody tears is a recipe for disaster. Again, I am not saying you are weird for liking this. I sincerely celebrate our diversity and know we all get turned on by very different stuff. What I am saying is that for me, having someone expecting me to fuck them so hard they are in pain doesn't do anything for me and if I can I will avoid it. Yes, call me a sissy, if you will, but again, we have the responsibility to find those with whom we are a perfect match. I know MANY tops who get great pleasure in tearing a bottom's ass, so your message will attract those men to you.

 

4. The last nail in the coffin for me is that you close by saying that this really excites you, especially when you masturbate. If I had my reservations reading the body of the email, this clincher makes me want to dismiss the whole thing as a jerk off message. A short message, with a concise description of what gets you off always works. A long message, with horny language and very salacious descriptions of fetishy acts that closes with saying that you jerk off thinking of this makes me automatically open the "flakes and time wasters" drawer. Again, I am not saying you are one, I am explaining what I saw on your message and how it might be perceived by an experienced escort.

 

Of course the official response should be "I respond attentively and expeditiously to every single email and I will provide my services equally to every person demanding them, and I will be identical in my prowess and enthusiasm and will make everyone happy". Sadly the official response is shit because we are human beings. We are all different

 

just that I disrespect false advertising. It hurts to be rejected, especially by someone who seems to have changed his mind when you can't see why.

 

You are not being rejected. You are just being told implicitly that what you are looking for is not available. If Walmart doesn't have avocados, it doesn't mean that Walmart thinks you are wrong because you like guacamole. It just means there's no avocados.

 

I love fucking, and I am pretty fucking good at it. And yes, I have a big, thick dick that sometimes hurts. But if someone wants me to inflict pain in their ass with my dick I will have to decline. I am not judging you. I am not advertising falsely. Actually I am not advertising fucking, because I don't charge for fucking. I fuck for free.

 

I didn't change my mind about liking to fuck. I am just clearly stating my preference of the type of sessions that I have and the kind of clients I believe are a good match for me.

 

Just because I advertise as an escort, it doesn't oblige me to see anyone. I will only see whoever I think to be a good match because I will only be able to really fulfill those men.

 

It's not personal. It's not a judgment on your self worth. It's not a rejection. We are just not a good match and your money would be wasted on me. You would have a shitty time because I will not do stuff that you want me to do.

 

I hope this offers a little insight on the other side of things.

 

You will find many people who will support the "He's a H___er so he has to deliver" philosophy. They are not wrong, they are not right. I am just offering this so that you stop taking this personally and feeling bad about yourself. It's not you. Its not what you like. What you like is fine. It's just that not everyone will like to do that with you.

 

I sincerely hope you will find super hot, super kinky and fun guys with whom you can explore your fetishes. I wish you many super hot, jerk off worthy memories!

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The most important issue is chemistry. If you and an escort don't click, it'll be no fun for either one of you. Most negative reviews are the result of bad chemistry, not that the escort did or didn't do a particular thing. Keep looking around. You'll find someone you're really comfortable with. (I have found the "search" for that special guy is half the fun.) When you do find the guy you connect with it's the greatest fun imaginable. And you might even make a new friend. cheers

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