The Cost to be a Sugar Daddy?

[Atlantagaguy]

I went out clubbing last night because Atlanta is celebrating pride this weekend. I notice a lot of older men with younger guys, more than usual. I was talking to my favorite bartender and brought it to his attention. I first thought the younger guys were escorts and ask the bartender if he knew them. He actually knew most of the guys that I had pointed out and told me they were the younger guy’s sugar daddies. Which made me wonder what the typical cost is to be a sugar daddy? I would love to hear any stories and any experiences!

[+ Cock Eyed Optimist]

I have a friend who is a former escort but now has a Sugar Daddy. Sugar Daddy pays for my friend's rent, gives him expensive jewelry and clothes and sent him on a month long trip to Europe. Now he is going to fund my friend's education. So I would say it is VERY EXPENSIVE.

[adriano46]

It can be a rather expensive endeavor and not for the faint of heart (or small of wallet)!

 

Much depends on the actual "type" of relationship. Is it to be long-term? Exclusive? These can be costly as they might include monthly rent, occasional travel, living expenses and - as mentioned above - clothing, jewelry or other accessories (sneakers alone can cost quite a bit for the right man!), and other bills, especially if you expect your young man will be "exclusively" for you.

 

However, others manage a more rational (and less expensive) contract that would include many things: helping with educational costs (OK, those can be very pricey, especially if your kept "son" wants to be a doctor or lawyer!); occasional travel to nice (exotic) locations; theatre or other cultural tickets; dinners out (very pricey unless you are hiring a guy fixated on junk food); and not holding him to be exclusively YOURS.

 

No matter what. for those who have the excess income to afford a young man on the side (or back or top or wherever), you are looking at a "hobby" that will cost upwards of $10,000/yr or more - but if you have just won the lottery, or come into a major inheritance and wondering how to use your new-found pot of gold, this can be a very interesting investment.

 

Tongue-in-cheek aside, I have over the years invested in educational assistance for a number of (former) escorts, and I have to admit that it gives me great pleasure and satisfaction to see them today in new careers or with a decent degree after their name affording them a new stability in self-support. Some have become good friends - people who I see for an occasional dinner or longer date, others who can accompany me to a night at the MET or some other high brow cultural activity that I prefer sharing rather than going alone, or a night at the theatre. Others become friends with whom I can chat on the phone, or see if they are visiting my area (or vice versa, me being in their area). One or two have become great travel companions. In most of these cases, money is not transacted (beyond my own expenses treating for the cultural event or dinner). For the occasional travel, we have reached a point where there is an accommodation for more intimate needs that does not mean tipping or paying extra - it comes more or less naturally ---- and admittedly this is for a few rare cases with guys long retired but whom I helped significantly in the past.

[BaronArtz]

Thank you for starting this thread. It is something that I have been thinking about. I have been seeing an escort who is finishing up his academic studies and is about to start his career. We are very compatible in bed and also socially. In short: I really like this guy and I believe he has a genuine appreciation of me being his client - unless, of course, he is an astonishing actor. He mentioned that he would be interested in taking down his escort ad but keep seeing 'just a few of his regulars'. He then asked me whether I'd like to be his sugar daddy. We haven't discussed any particulars in detail, but here is where my hesitations are:

 

1. I really like this guy and although it seems immature, I get annoyed when I read somebody else's comments/reviews about how great he is in bed. A level of exclusivity would be something I'd like and appreciate.

2. I am in a relationship that I am not willing to jeopardize. I would not require the guy to move in with me, nor does he need to be available at all times. I currently see him 2x a week, for multiple hour sessions each time. I would enjoy spending more time with him.

3. If he wants a relationship with a few of his 'regulars', I'd be fine with that but then ... who knows how many regulars there really are? And who, among the regulars, gets 'priority'? I think this is inherently difficult to solve.

4. What does it mean in terms of the monthly 'fee' if you will? The cost of the apartment, living expenses, the occasional dinner and trip? If he keeps seeing a few of his regulars, how do these expenses get 'shared'?

5. Part of me wants to think: let's try it for a few months and see how it goes. But then, what if it is a disaster? The guy would have taken down his ad, would not have been seeing his clients and would have to start from scratch again. That would be a real heart break.

 

I would not contemplate is if it was just all about the 'money'. Yes, it will cost money, but if that's all it is, the relationship would get really cold really fast, in my opinion. I would be interested in hearing your thoughts. Thank you.

[mmk123]

other than my mother, there is no one that I would totally pay for their every need, even if I had money to burn. I have no problem hiring and I have given escorts gifts before (these are ones that are not clock watchers or ones I have seen regularly for a while) but I feel that I am working to support myself, you need to as well

[Guest]

 

 

No matter what. for those who have the excess income to afford a young man on the side (or back or top or wherever), you are looking at a "hobby" that will cost upwards of $10,000/yr or more

 

I can't imagine a kept guy costing that little. I mean, you're going to want to go on trips, and do things. If you're subsidizing education or health care, that's going to cost you, too. This is certainly not an endeavor for someone making a 5-figure annual income. I think $20,000 a year is a more reasonable figure. To hear what some escorts claim they make for week-end or one-week hires, however, this is a bargain. Aren't there websites to help men make such hook-ups?

[+ Gar1eth]

Aren't there websites to help men make such hook-ups?

 

Here's one website. I'm sure there are others.

 

https://www.seekingarrangement.com/

 

 

Gman

[rguer]

Here's one website. I'm sure there are others.

 

https://www.seekingarrangement.com/

 

 

Gman

 

gayarrangement.com Recently, it pops up a straight porn sometimes.

[+ FreshFluff]

Doesn't a guy'ss also depends on how in demand he is? A hotter guy should be able to command more money.

 

other than my mother, there is no one that I would totally pay for their every need, even if I had money to burn. I have no problem hiring and I have given escorts gifts before (these are ones that are not clock watchers or ones I have seen regularly for a while) but I feel that I am working to support myself, you need to as well

 

There are more guys than you think who like the idea of paying someone for his/her beauty.

[Guest]

I can't imagine a kept guy costing that little.

 

Well, it looks like in Friday's reviews there's a first-time review by a first-time reviewer. The escort, Chance Cox, writes:

Seeking a mutual arrangement with Daddy type.

Monthly allowance of $4,000 and regular companionship/ mentoring. Willing to remove RentBoy profile in exchange for arrangement. on his rentboy profile. I'm guessing that the $48,000/year is in addition to room and board? Good gig, if you can get it! According to the first-time reviewer, if we are to believe it, he actually paid $1000 for just an evening. And that for a guy with a beard, tattoos, and the build of an ironing board.

[BSR]

I was thinking $10K/yr, even $20K/yr, sounded far too low to keep a sugar baby for a year. Chance's ad asks for $4K/mo but doesn't mention rent (board? I'm assuming he can buy his own groceries with the $4K/mo). If he's asking for only $4K/mo, then that's quite reasonable for Chicago, with its somewhat high cost of living. Chicagoans can better answer this, of course, but I'm guessing just rent + bills (utilities, phone, cable, Internet) for a decent-to-nice 1BR in Chicago would run about $2K/mo. If Chance is asking for $4K/mo on top of rent, then yeah, that gets pretty steep. Mind you, even "just" $4K/mo covers only part of the total cost of keeping him. Every time you go out to dinner, do any sort of activity together (theater, museum, ballet, skydiving, etc.), or go on vacation, the sugar daddy is expected to foot 100% of the tab, which would get pretty damn pricey over the course of a year. I don't have that kind of disposable income, nor do I live in Chicago, but if I did, I might just take Chance up on his offer, assuming we clicked. I think he's f*ckin' cute & sexy ... sobre el gusto, no hay nada escrito

 

But if $48K/yr (or thereabouts) is indeed the cost of keeping a sugar baby, then I'm amazed there were so many daddies/babies in that bar. Do that many gents really have that much disposable income? Or do sugar daddies just come out of woodwork during Pride to show off??

[Atlantagaguy]

I was thinking $10K/yr, even $20K/yr, sounded far too low to keep a sugar baby for a year. Chance's ad asks for $4K/mo but doesn't mention rent (board? I'm assuming he can buy his own groceries with the $4K/mo). If he's asking for only $4K/mo, then that's quite reasonable for Chicago, with its somewhat high cost of living. Chicagoans can better answer this, of course, but I'm guessing just rent + bills (utilities, phone, cable, Internet) for a decent-to-nice 1BR in Chicago would run about $2K/mo. If Chance is asking for $4K/mo on top of rent, then yeah, that gets pretty steep. Mind you, even "just" $4K/mo covers only part of the total cost of keeping him. Every time you go out to dinner, do any sort of activity together (theater, museum, ballet, skydiving, etc.), or go on vacation, the sugar daddy is expected to foot 100% of the tab, which would get pretty damn pricey over the course of a year. I don't have that kind of disposable income, nor do I live in Chicago, but if I did, I might just take Chance up on his offer, assuming we clicked. I think he's f*ckin' cute & sexy ... sobre el gusto, no hay nada escrito

 

But if $48K/yr (or thereabouts) is indeed the cost of keeping a sugar baby, then I'm amazed there were so many daddies/babies in that bar. Do that many gents really have that much disposable income? Or do sugar daddies just come out of woodwork during Pride to show off??

 

That’s what spurred my post. If the bartender was telling the truth, I really couldn’t believe there were so many sugar daddies in Atlanta. None of the men dressed if they were super rich but then I look like I should be standing on the corner with my tin cup. I hate dressing up when I’m not working. I do quite well but I could never spend $45000 for a lad. I am a single man and do get very lonely at times, but to have to pay someone to like me seems depressing. I not judging anyone that does do this, it’s just my opinion.

[robberbaron4u]

The escort known as Alexander Summit receives a stipend of $10,000 a month and the use of an upscale "view" apartment in NYC; designer clothing, fine dining and travel are included,and, expected, in the "arrangement". In return, "daddy" has exclusive use of him on demand. As long as the monthly check is in hand on the first day of each month, the rent paid in a timely manner, and, daddy's AMEX card is not declined, Alexander's love and affection, and, most importantly, his attentiveness, are assured him. Ah, that thing called "love". . .

[armadillo]

The escort known as Alexander Summit receives a stipend of $10,000 a month and the use of an upscale "view" apartment in NYC; designer clothing, fine dining and travel are included,and, expected, in the "arrangement". In return, "daddy" has exclusive use of him on demand. As long as the monthly check is in hand on the first day of each month, the rent paid in a timely manner, and, daddy's AMEX card is not declined, Alexander's love and affection, and, most importantly, his attentiveness, are assured him. Ah, that thing called "love". . .

 

Sounds like a friends divorce settlement, and without sex!

[jawjateck]

Atlgaguy....You should have said "hi" to me and my young friend when you saw us on Friday evening. It would have been a privilege to meet you.

[Atlantagaguy]

Atlgaguy....You should have said "hi" to me and my young friend when you saw us on Friday evening. It would have been a privilege to meet you.

Jawjatech, I wish I would have known you were out! I need a mentor and it seems you make good chooses in men. I can’t see you settling down with just one man seems you like variety! Keep your blog going really enjoying it and any recommendation for Atlanta please let me know!

[Guest]

The escort known as Alexander Summit receives a stipend of $10,000 a month and the use of an upscale "view" apartment in NYC; designer clothing, fine dining and travel are included,and, expected, in the "arrangement".\

 

Who's Alexander Summit? When I put "Alexander Summit escort" on google images, I get images like this, apparently of guys called Alexander who reached some summit or who went to a summit...

http://www.everestnews.com/everest2008/pictures/alexikaro.jpg

 

There's no Alexander Summit in this site's "Escorts by Name," although there is one Alexander in NYC. Is it this guy?

http://www.daddysreviews.com/search

 

If it's that guy, well, he's handsome enough, but I certainly wouldn't pay hundreds of thousands annually to keep him on retainer. I would hope to do better. The only guy in NYC I could think of paying that much (if I won the lottery and had the money, of course), would be Joshua Michael Brickman, who's not an escort, but who would probably be a guy I would beg for if I ever did win the lottery (yes, I do play).

http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-LC5g-QKM_k4/USTeeO1GmjI/AAAAAAAFr_A/DTyEn47qeG4/s1600/13.jpg

[jawjateck]

Jawjatech, I wish I would have known you were out! I need a mentor and it seems you make good chooses in men. I can’t see you settling down with just one man seems you like variety! Keep your blog going really enjoying it and any recommendation for Atlanta please let me know!

 

Yep, you know me, Atlgaguy. I do enjoy sampling the diversity of handsome men who have made their company available to us.