When does weight become a consideration?

[SteveEscort]

It is clear to me, evidenced by our every day tighter interactions that I have done something that pissed you off, hurt you or makes you dislike me. If it is the latter I will simply learn to live with it; one can't be liked by everyone, not even by everyone that one likes. However, if I did anything to wrong you I would really love the opportunity to know what it was and to have a chance to make reparations. I have tried different approaches, and my last attempt to express my sincere admiration for you was tainted by the clumsy attempt of humour in my post.

 

Juan

 

He and I also had a run in, I also considered him a friend on here until my recent time out when he sent me a vile private message with personal details said about me by a third party (the content of which Steven has yet to fully admit to).

 

There's also a blog post by a very nice gentleman on here on his excellent client blog about the same aforementioned person and his constant belittlement of escorts with an example shown.

 

Don't take it to heart and don't get into an online argument with him. That's exactly what he wants and it's not going unnoticed by the emails and private messages of support I've had over his treatment of me in the last few weeks.

[Steven_Draker]

From a client's perspective, I always include my stats including age, height and weight. If my weight is a problem for an escort or masseur, it gives the gentleman an opportunity to politely decline the appointment, "my apologies, I will be out of town attending my niece's kindergarten graduation" without mentioning it again. If he includes an offer for me to contact him in the future or proposes another time that would work, I know my stats are not an issue.

 

That's a good PROACTIVE approach.

[devonhunter]

Welp, that answered my question about coming back here or not.

[Juan Vancouver]

Juan,

 

You are legit, DA BOMB. I really want to meet you one day. Your posts in this thread were masterful beyond words.

 

Hey Killian, thanks a lot, man. I really hope we will meet soon! Big hug!

[Guest Wetnwildbear]

In an ideal world where all escorts are robots and follow your rules this approach would work perfectly. All escorts would carefully list their biases and then they would perform automatically the same way every time with all clients.

 

We don't live in an ideal world and escorts -most of us- are not robots. There is always room for chemistry to be amiss and when that happens your time and money are wasted. You are paying a lot of money hoping to have a wonderful experience. It would only make sense to me that you would want to do everything in your power to ensure your experience will be as positive and fun as possible.

 

Give your escort all the necessary information and then give him leeway to not go ahead and book a session. Believe me, if after finding out some information about you the escort wants out, you don't want to meet him. If you met him you would only have a bitter, mechanical, lacklustre experience and you would both end up feeling worse than before.

 

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Im a big guy and always tell that upfront -- describe myself and give stats

 

I'd rather know by email/phone than see that look at the door or both of us have a lousy time

 

 

Hi All --- Juan and I seem to agree that just like Abe Lincoln, Mom, the Golden Rule and Jimminy Cricket - that Honesty is the best policy.

 

I recently contacted a gentlemen and not only was my size an issue - but also my expectations for a visit were beyond his comfortable level of intensity. I thanked him

 

for his honesty --and wished him well. I'd rather know - before there is a knock on the door and then neither one of us has a good time.

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

Question for the escorts: when a client does provide his stats, how often do you believe them? How often does the client on the other side of the door match what you've been told?

[MikeCruiseNYC]

I've heard some real horror stories from clients about run-ins they've had with escorts who shun them for various physicality reasons. This can really be bruising for a client who's just looking for a great experience with someone. And it can really scar them and cause clients to never want to hire again. I've worked with a few clients who've really been hurt by reactions from a hire. A lot of working guys don't understand that they're in a service industry. I think it shows a general lack of character and humanity to refuse someone service based on a weight or other physical issue. If the client doesn't volunteer info before a first meeting, I might ask something like "do you have any mobility issues or concerns?" and that opens it up so the client can feel safe to discuss anything without being put on the spot. It's very simple, just come from compassion.

[DREW]

At times I have visited clients who prior to arranging the meeting told me they where as they put it big build or over weight this I have no problem with my main concern is cleanliness and hygiene but yes it does help to be aware sometimes if you get the feeling the client has a problem with there size or looks always best to ask them for a photo which many will send privately

 

In the main I do make it clear that cleanliness and hygiene are the most important factors on both sides

[SteveEscort]

if you get the feeling the client has a problem with there size or looks always best to ask them for a photo which many will send privately

 

I have never asked a client for a photo, it doesn't concern me in the slightest. I think in all the years I've worked as an escort only one guy has sent me a face picture of himself and he volunteered to send it. A gentleman I seen last week informed me in advance that he wasn't very well endowed and was embarrassed by it. I told him not to be so silly. Anyway he came along and honestly....I've no idea why he was embarrassed. It was an ok size. I've seen much smaller and I told him that.

[Michael Wayne]

never.......

[DaddyCub]

At 350 lbs. and not winning any beauty contests in the near future, I'd feel irresponsible if I didn't advise the escort of my weight. Same as I inform them that I am a smoker. I have been turned down because of my weight but more often have been turned down because I smoke. Since kissing is an absolute must for me during a session, I can appreciate it when an escort turns me down for smoking although it can be disappointing. I rather be turned down during the e-mail process than have them refuse to kiss me when we're together.

 

But back to the weight issue. I have had escorts express that they felt they might not be able to provide the service I desire, and again, although it stings the ego a bit, I'd rather find out before we're face-to-face. The biggest challenge has been when hiring from an agency and they clearly haven't told the escort although I was clear about wanting the escort to know prior to my arrival. This is also why I prefer to talk to an escort for a bit while making the appointment. Escorts who are too busy to talk to me or just "yeah yeah yeah" at me usually don't get an actual appointment.

 

I must say, it is heartening to see so many escorts saying that it doesn't matter to them.

[jimboivyo]

there's no magic answer to this. some guys are just too big in all the wrong areas to properly fuck

[bigvalboy]

At 350 lbs. and not winning any beauty contests in the near future, I'd feel irresponsible if I didn't advise the escort of my weight. Same as I inform them that I am a smoker. I have been turned down because of my weight but more often have been turned down because I smoke. Since kissing is an absolute must for me during a session, I can appreciate it when an escort turns me down for smoking although it can be disappointing. I rather be turned down during the e-mail process than have them refuse to kiss me when we're together.

 

But back to the weight issue. I have had escorts express that they felt they might not be able to provide the service I desire, and again, although it stings the ego a bit, I'd rather find out before we're face-to-face. The biggest challenge has been when hiring from an agency and they clearly haven't told the escort although I was clear about wanting the escort to know prior to my arrival. This is also why I prefer to talk to an escort for a bit while making the appointment. Escorts who are too busy to talk to me or just "yeah yeah yeah" at me usually don't get an actual appointment.

I must say, it is heartening to see so many escorts saying that it doesn't matter to them.

 

I've noticed that attitude among some of the escorts here also. The quality ones are emphatic that weight does not matter. Always nice to hear.

[SteveEscort]

I can appreciate it when an escort turns me down for smoking although it can be disappointing. I rather be turned down during the e-mail process than have them refuse to kiss me when we're together.

 

I must say, it is heartening to see so many escorts saying that it doesn't matter to them.

 

 

Two points, firstly......... give me a bigger bloke over an ematicted stick thin man anyday.

 

Second point, smoking, well I am not a huge fan but as long as he's not smoking during sex it isn't an issue. I do insist that smokers use the listerine provided and have a shower, using alcohol cleanser on their hands before a session. I don't smoke and never have and it isn't pleasant to non smokers but there's easy ways to get around it. The alcohol cleanser takes away any residual smell on your fingers, something smokers forget about because they can't smell it. Yet it's the most vile smell if he touches his dick whilst you're performing oral sex, the smelly fingers syndrome can make a non smoker reach for the sick bucket. I ensure that doesn't happen and it's never been an issue.