Update

[Guest wolfman]

Hi All,

 

Just wanted to thank everyone for their positive thoughts about my last post (contacting an escort that I knew from a youth organization years ago).

 

Well, I took the advice to contact him and was very honest at where I got his contact info from. He was surprised and seemed pleased to hear from me. I suggested dinner, just dinner, because I did not want either one of us to feel uncomfortable. We had a wonderful dinner that lasted over 3 hours with us catching up on each others lives. After dinner he suggested a cocktail in the bar at my hotel. Because it was the weekend, it was very noisy and I suggested a drink in my room instead. He eagerly agreed. At this point, I still thought that his "professional services" were off the table. While sitting on the sofa in my room, enjoying a gin and tonic, he leaned over and gave me the most wonderful deep kiss. I was a little taken back, but quickly fell in line to where this was going after I told him that he did not need to feel obligated and he replied that he was hoping that I would invite him to spend the night. Well he did spend the night and it was fantastic! This kid was the greatest sexual experience I've had in a long time.

 

The only problem arose after breakfast when I handed him an envelope with his known overnight fee and a tip. He insisted that he had invited himself to spend the night and that he had not been working. I finally convinced him to accept half the fee plus the tip and that next time (there will be a next time!) there would be no arguing about any gift I give him for his college fund! I actually saw him twice more that trip, once just for lunch and once for another overnight.

 

Thanks to all who convinced me to follow up on this.

 

Wolfman

 

PS..He has requested that I not reveal his name in this post as he is concerned about how his other clients would react.

[JamesK840]

Congrats man! Sounds like you had a great time.

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Object Lesson

 

This is really great and is a perfect example of how some people (and they know who they are), who are always willing to impinge the motives of "working guys," can get it totally wrong. Not all, but several of the Twinks, like older men. Not every older man, but that is where their preference decidely is.

 

I know some escorts do this just for the money because they have told me this themselves. But many of us do this for a number of other reasons, including the fact we enjoy it.

 

You had the very best possible outcome, the one Will suggested might be possible, and it sounds like this may be the start of, at minimum, a great relationship where you can continue to be a positive influence in this young man's life (and conversely, he in yours), and not simply financially. When I was younger, any number of older men "finished" me in a way that my parents and friends my own age never could. As I said in another post in a different thread, there is something all of us can gain from one another if we simply open ourselves to these possibilities.

 

And when I use the word "gain," I mean benefit. And when I use the word "benefit," I mean simply and purely in a manner that has no relationship whatsoever to finance.

[axebahia]

I am not surprised. That's exactly how I thought it would go. If you didn't bother with the speech, he would probably have taken the money as he is after all in the business of pleasure, not in business for pleasure. Your speech was actually an emotional manipulation to get a freebie whether you intended or not so congratulations to the cheap M4M bastards who encouraged that strategy.

[jackhammer91406]

Au Contrere (sp?)

 

Wolfman,

Contrary to our resident contrarian, I don't think your friend spent the time with you for any other reason than he wanted to. As with the other new thread today from the poster who finds it hard to understand that someone would be interested in him, I think your post and his point up an aspect of this message center that exemplifies why it one of my daily stops. This is a great place to sound out ideas, get advice (not all of it good) and make new friends. I am happy for you that your story has a positive outcome. I wish many more of those experiences for you.

 

[Will]

RE: Au Contrere (sp?)

 

I am with you 100%, Jack. I can't say that I actually "knew" this would happen; but I can say that I'm not surprised. What's so great about it is the opportunity that each of these men had to integrate their sexual lives with the other parts of their lives (probably the more important parts), and to do it together. I feel really happy about this and will never again hesitate to offer advice when it's asked for. Like others on that thread, I suggested that he do exactly what he did do. It's lovely to know not only how it all turned out, but also to know how helpful it was for him to bring the whole issue here, before he contacted the escort. It's a useful lesson for us all.

[Bilbo]

RE: Au Contrere (sp?)

 

Yay! I, too, am so glad that you went for it. I am also very pleased that he did not take it as an insult when you wanted to pay him for what he had assumed was a mutually attracted date. I hope things go very well for the two of you for a long time!