masturbate or not? that is the question

[skins1]

When you know you will be having a sexual encounter with someone (escort or not), do you tend to refrain from wrestling the bald headed champ well before your session (a day, 2 days, whatever) or do you treat yourself like an amusement park right before the session hoping to make it last longer? I ask this because I didn't pull my pud for like 4 days before I was going to have sex. I was like done in no time. Then I did it right before, and well, I kinda lasted a little longer. I guess I'm quick to the punch as it were.

 

Just curious.

 

 

think outside the box

[ready182]

I refrain from j/o at least for 24 hours.

 

Funny story - I was once was with an escort who, at the end of our 3 hour rendevous, stated that he wished that he had NOT j/o earlier that day -- for him to admit that, without me asking/commenting/complaining/observing/etc -- made me feel like the escort had REALLY enjoyed his time with me. I never would have otherwise guessed that he wanked earlier - I was completely satisfied with his performance. Either this was an extremely clever escort, or else "score one" for Ready

 

For those keeping score, it was Kirk (retired top) from Campus NYC. Cool tatoo!

 

ready

[bluenix]

>When you know you will be having a sexual encounter with

>someone (escort or not), do you tend to refrain from wrestling

>the bald headed champ well before your session (a day, 2 days,

>whatever) or do you treat yourself like an amusement park

>right before the session hoping to make it last longer? I ask

>this because I didn't pull my pud for like 4 days before I was

>going to have sex. I was like done in no time. Then I did it

>right before, and well, I kinda lasted a little longer. I

>guess I'm quick to the punch as it were.

>

>Just curious.

>

>

>think outside the box

 

Before I stopped reading Rick's posts, he wrote something about unanticipated cancellations often being the consequence of a would be client jerking off and thus losing interest in an encounter. This makes sense.

 

P.S. 'Think outside the box' is another way of saying I don't know shit but I'm about to weigh in with an opinion anyhow.

[Guest gentle guy]

It depends. For example, if I am going to be with someone when there will be multiple opportunities for sexual activity, I will "abstain" for at least 5 days to ensure my own performance.

[Guest]

Wow. If I skip more than two nights, I have a wet dream. When I was younger, I couldn't skip more than one night without soiling the sheets. Am I that unusual? I just can't imagine skipping five nights...

[Guest gentle guy]

Will power, Unicorn, will power. :+

[+ Charlie]

My answer to this would be different in different decades of my life. In my thirties, when I could still cum 3 or 4 times a day, I almost always jerked off a few hours before a date just to calm down. Now, at 60, I either make a date OR jerk off--it's a very effective way to save money. In fact, I just try not to think about sex for the 24 hours before the appointment.

 

When I was about 40, I hired an escort who turned out to be a gorgeous hunk but with real attitude. As soon as the scene started, he began playing with me, and I couldn't prevent myself from shooting in about five minutes. He immediately stopped and declared the scene over. When I protested, he just smirked and said that I should have known enough to jerk off before I arrived so I could hold it longer. For several years after that, I agonized over "to wank or not to wank" every time I had a date with someone new. Then I realized that it made more sense to simply tell the escort when I made the appointment that I expected to cum twice during the appointment, so that if something like that occurred again, I had the option of continuing. (I once came 3 times in a two hour appointment, but that's another story.)

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Playing With You

 

>When I was about 40, I hired an escort who turned out to be a

>gorgeous hunk but with real attitude. As soon as the scene

>started, he began playing with me, and I couldn't prevent

>myself from shooting in about five minutes. He immediately

>stopped and declared the scene over. When I protested, he just

>smirked and said that I should have known enough to jerk off

>before I arrived so I could hold it longer. For several years

>after that, I agonized over "to wank or not to wank" every

>time I had a date with someone new. Then I realized that it

>made more sense to simply tell the escort when I made the

>appointment that I expected to cum twice during the

>appointment, so that if something like that occurred again, I

>had the option of continuing. (I once came 3 times in a two

>hour appointment, but that's another story.)

 

I would have responded to the escort that I am paying for your time (or even, that I am paying for your time AND for you to get off). I believe this gentlemen actually was just taking advantage of you, unfortunately.

 

That said, this is another classic "it depends" question. I do not find it to be the case for me that I will last longer. I do not jerk off unless I go through an experience like I did recently when I returned from San Diego and came down with a cold that lasted nearly two weeks. As I did not have sex for approximately ten days, I did jerk off a number of times in that period.

 

I do find that I can have more intense orgasms and produce more ejaculate if I abstain and when I know the client likes me, for example, to come on their chest and therefore the visual appeal of a "huge" load will please him, I may try to arrange that possibility. However, as a working escort, I always make it clear that this may not be possible.

 

With the very young guys, it may be.

 

On the other hand, in my own case, I have both a great deal of stamina and will power. If you are interested in both, you might look into kegel exercise for men. This is similar to what your body does when it stops the flow of urination in mid-stream. Regular practice of this should help control your orgasm and make it more intense. Stamina is as much a by-product of diet, exercise and rest.

 

I would figure out what works for you, not only simply physically, but what you would enjoy. When the client hires me for an hour, I prefer having a more intense orgasm at the end. When the client hires me for an overnight or even simply a three hour session, I enjoy (and I feel my clients enjoy) several intense orgasms over a period of hours.

[+ Charlie]

RE: Playing With You

 

I was well aware that this "gentleman" was taking advantage of me, but in addition to the cocky attitude, he outweighed me by about 100 lbs of solid muscle, and had an equally impressive friend in another room of the apartment, so I wasn't about to demand very much that he clearly didn't intend to give.

[Will]

For me, too, it has been a matter of decades. It's also a matter of my libidinal energy level, which goes up and down; and of medications, especially for hypertension. I imagine that it's variable from person to person, so that there's no rule of thumb as it were.

[axebahia]

It depends. If I know I am seeing someone who is ultra-hot who makes me come quickly, I do. If not, I don't.