No-Shows

[Decatur Guy]

Getting back to the topic of how to deal with no-shows ... I was very glad to see this:

 

I don't allow reviews in the Message Forum. However, brief messages like: "XXX was a no-show form, has anybody else had problems with him?" is in bounds.

 

I think that's a reasonable way for us to discuss no-shows and last-minute cancelers, and that's all we really need as clients. But reliability is an essential piece of information for clients to make informed decisions. So I'm relieved to see that the subject can at least be broached ... by name.

 

I hope the OP will now tell us who no-showed on him.

[Glenn1441]

I concur. That's great. No-shows and last-minute cancellations suck. I stand by my own 'escorting philosophy.' Regardless of the motivation, it is a choice. And it is a job, not unlike a freelancer within any industry. And with that job come obligations/responsibilities. In fact, for the past two months, my interactions with 'new' escorts (meaning, escorts I've not yet interacted with physically) have been horrific. No shows. Crazy excuses for last minute cancellations. Curt, rude responses (as if any one on the buyer's end of a transaction would not have a few questions about the services offered!)... In fact, I've taken a break from actually hiring. I look, but I'm not hiring. Taking a break is a good thing perhaps and, it may be the case, as in the past, that a gem comes along and I hire him on a regular basis.

[Dave]

Glenn1441, sorry you’ve had those experiences. it’s crazy how both clients and escorts can have this crap happen to them. who ARE these people, who feel they can so blatantly disrespect other people’s time?

 

responding to Bigvalboy’s query: have you ever asked a client to leave, before the session got started, for whatever reason?

 

in fact, I was once on the other side of your experience! (glad it was not you, hahaha, although I don’t mean I wouldnt want to spend time with you, stud...) anyway, I had a client who I thought was a cop, and eventually asked him to leave! I really felt I was being set up with him though - he was relentless in wanting me to clearly state that since he was hiring me, I would fuck his ass. in fact I was just interviewed for Hook Online (interview yet to be published), and went into detail on that session there.

 

I’ve also dropped clients for these reasons (i know, they are VERY random). luckily they are not everyday occurences, I am bringing up examples from several years of escorting:

 

- client showed up with open bloody scabs all over his face and arms

- client came in telling me he was going to fuck me so hard I was going to cry, and he was going to keep doing it. (I said, “no you’re not - we’re done here” and he said OK and left. tres bizarre...)

- client smelled like shit. literally. yes, I’m talking actual feces.

 

then there have been a few situations where I've had to terminate the appointment DURING it...

- client started to light a book on fire in my bedroom

- client was drunk to the point of falling down onto a piece of art hanging on the wall

 

and then, one of my most bizarre experiences of randomness:

- client and I had just started rolling around in my bed. low lighting, warm breeze gently blowing curtains open, cool latin jazz playing... it’s hot and heavy and we’re both loving it. suddenly he stops and sits up. “what’s wrong?” I ask, “are you ok?”

 

well... no, I’m not. I have to go - I’m really sorry.

 

“but why? hey... what’s going on?”

 

that music! it’s a prayer in hebrew!

 

“no, it isn’t... but it sounds like one there, right? actually, it’s Bebo and Cigala.

 

it’s not the mourner’s prayer?

 

“no, it’s not. I’m jewish too, and I know the mourner’s kaddish... that part where Cigala sings ‘bien paga’ somehow almost sounds like he’s saying ‘yisgadal v’yisgadash’ - but he’s not really...”

 

well, my grandfather died last week, and this is just freaking me out. I’m sorry. I have to go.

 

I immediately turned off the music, but nothing I could say or do could turn him back to where we had been. he left.

 

in case you’re curious, this is what he heard playing:

and this is a version of the actual mourner’s kaddish: http://www.chabad.org/multimedia/media_cdo/aid/1504375/jewish/How-to-Recite-the-Mourners-Kaddish.htm

 

in these last few examples (when I’ve had to terminate the sessions midway, or that last guy with the music) I have been left feeling very sad about the way things went down. contrary to the stereotype, escorting is a pretty complicated, emotionally demanding job. sometimes the view is that escorts are above getting involved, but I don’t agree with that. I know many male and female escorts who have been hurt by the way things went with their clients.

[marylander1940]

Can we please close this thread and deal with each no-show according to circumstances?

[anotherjohnindupont]

Yes, let's close this!

 

Why an escort doesn't show up?

 

Each case is different.