Escorts who want to take pictures

[axebahia]

For the second time in my rental career, an escort asked to take my picture for his "memories". The last time, I went along with it. This time I said no. Is this common? Escorts, do you like to keep a scrap book? Clients, would you want to be in an escort's scrap book?

[Guest Merlin]

A related question is whether escorts keep a record of their clients. A couple of times escorts have not remembered me until I was able to give them a date (I do keep a record), then thei remembered me and a little about the occasion. This suggests that some escorts do keep a record. Doesn't bother me because I don't use my real name, address etc. BUT, no escort has ever asked for a photo. It would cause alarm bells to go off for me. It creates the opportunity for blackmail. Also, should the client every be arrested with his records, I would not want his records to lead to me. Not likely, to be sure, but it has happened, at least in the case of female escorts.

[Guest jeffOH]

I don't keep records of ANY kind regarding my clients. My whole life revolves around Post-its. I may write down a client's name/number/day/time for appointments made in advance, but other than that I delete all e-mails, I don't keep client's e-mail addresses, home addresses, phone numbers on file. I've also advised other escorts NOT to keep such records.

 

I've had clients want to take pics of me, but I've never asked to take one of a client. If I was the client, I'd say no to that.

 

JEFF

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[CT Dick]

I have a folder of pix of all the escorts I can. A very few of them (other than those photogenic posers in Rio) I took but most were from their ads, etc.

 

As to a pic of me, why would any escort WANT one. I'm certainly not the type to jack off to so I can only assume that it might not be for positive reasons.

 

Dick

[+ deej]

Only once, and he only wanted a picture of my cock. And I didn't know at the time that he was an escort. And he didn't ask about Polaroids until our 3rd session or so.

 

Does that count? ;-)

[Guest Ant415]

Happened to me... but told the lad I would only allow a pix if I had a Richard Nixon mask on. He didn't know who Nixon was.

[Flower]

Good advise Jeff--for both escort and client. Remember Heidi Fleiss: Hollywood Madam? Her records got both her and her clients in trouble.

 

Even a date and hotel name with room number can lead to the identity of a room holder up to a couple years later.

 

Memoirs of these encounter are best left for memory, where if they were bad, they soon fade, and if they were good, they get better with time :+

[Guest]

Having your picture taken by an escort is a terrible idea. If you're paying to have sex with him, he's not having sex with you because he thinks you're hot. I would be concerned that he would use the pictures for blackmailing purposes.

[Flower]

Funny how yo'al will sleep over night or spend a weekend with a stranger, trusting him while you're asleep or in the shower or getting ice from the ice machine, but then think that he is only up to no good 'cause he asks for a pic--what's he gonna do with it? How in the hell can he "blackmail" you if the pic is NOT in a compromising situation or identifiable as in a hotel room?

 

And who is he gonna show it to? If he knows enough about you to blackmail you, does NOT having your picture taken save you? What possible good is a straight forward picture for blackmail? Now if you're talking with your cloths off or going down on him, then I stand corrected :7

 

That being said, many people just don't like their picture taken and that is their right--so just say NO if that's how you feel, but why all the anxiety about possible blackmail here? Has anyone here ever been blackmailed by an escort? Or has an escort ever been blackmailed by a client (just if not more probable)? ...and I don't mean a "friend told me he was" sorta bs :+

[TightBodyTouch]

Amen to Flower... if I were already in your home and sleeping in your or on vacation with you and sleeping in at the hotel while you have your morning walk and coffee... do you really think I'd need a photo to get you in a corner? HA!

 

More often than not, I allow myself in close quarters with a man and therefore trust him with my welfare and safety. Likewise, many men provide me access to their homes, precious belongings, and intimate surroundings giving me the respect of their trust. We occupy time together with a mutual understanding that the other can at any time jeopardise our comfort and security. But if we're both out to provide the other with something worthwhile, enjoying ourselves in the process, then I hope that neither of us has the opporunity or inclination to plan malice while under our lover's nose (or in most cases, directly under him!)

 

It should also go without saying that during the time we spend in one another's arms exploring our bodies and mutual interests we will hopefully have become FRIENDS. And who doesn't want a picture of those who we keep close and share important time with? Now I don't pretend that an hour's time with someone is enough to want to invite them over for my mother's awesome stuffing next Thanksgiving, but when I see someone repeatedly then I certainly don't mind that they might want to put pictures away in an album of some of the things we do together.

 

I haven't initiated taking pictures of any of my clients. But I appear in more than a handful of my client's albums, clothed and in the buff, and I am always happy that someone would rather include me in their memories rather than file me away like other things they'll likely forget. I don't give my clients reason for malcontent, but in the event that either of us wishes to blackmail the other I'm sure that plane tickets with my name imprinted, original receipts that chart our time in hotels and a string of phone calls state to state are more incriminating than snapshots of the men who make our pants grow tight. Pictures and momentos are usually worth more to us in our hearts. If, in your hearts, you have fear and mistrust then your probably aren't allowing yourself to completely enjoy your time with an escort in the first place.

 

Relax and say "cheese"!

[axebahia]

>Only once, and he only wanted a picture of my cock. And I

>didn't know at the time that he was an escort. And he didn't

>ask about Polaroids until our 3rd session or so.

>

>Does that count? ;-)

 

No, I was excluding those requests because: (a) they are so common and (b) they seem to offer less opportunity for blackmail, Michael Jackson to the contrary notwithstanding!

:o

[axebahia]

I am having trouble reconciling your two posts on this thread. First, you said that "Memoirs of these encounter are best left for memory". Now you seem to be suggesting that there are no risks from a client letting an escort take a pic. Please explain further.

 

My first experience of this involved an escort I had imported for a weekend in Paris, and the pics were more of the "tourist" variety. However, one pic was on a bateau-mouche ride on the Seine when a photographer snapped the pic, and when we were landed I had to decide whether or not to buy it. I was so pissed! What an invasion of privacy. I had to decide whether to scoot out quickly or stop and nuy the damn thing to remove it from the table. In the end, I scooted away without buying it but decided: (a) never to let a pic like that; and (b) if I can't stop it, then to buy it b/c who knows what happens to those pics.

[Boston Guy]

> Has anyone here ever been blackmailed by an escort?

 

I'm very much the trusting sort and tend to treat everyone in my life like a friend, even guys I've just met.

 

However, in response to your question, the answer is most definitely yes. In fact, searching the archives here might would likely reveal the story of a client in Canada who had been being blackmailed by an escort for a very long time and a very large amount of money.

 

Try as I can, though, I don't remember how the story ended... but I seem to recall that the details were posted by a friend of his who was asking for help and even after everyone here offering advice, the client was going to continue to pay to prevent the escort from revealing everything and exposing him and presumably ruining the life he had built.

 

BG

[guyinsf]

What happens to those pictures? Probably thrown away after it's clear that the subject(s) aren't going to buy them. The guy is just trying to make money. Unless there's something particularly compelling about the photo itself, it wouldn't have value to anyone other than those in the picture.

[axebahia]

>What happens to those pictures? Probably thrown away after

>it's clear that the subject(s) aren't going to buy them.

 

Well, when ever I walk by photoshops and see pics on the walls, I wonder whether the people in the pics gave their permission, or just forgot to pick them up. In the particular instance that I described, the photos were hung on the quai so passerbys could stop and look, in addition to those getting off the boat. If one is trying to be discreet, it would be better if the photographer just asked for permission before snapping.

 

So far the two escorts I described asked before pushing the shutter, but it makes me wonder how I would have reacted if they took the pictures without asking for permission.

[Flower]

>I am having trouble reconciling your two posts on this

>thread. First, you said that "Memoirs of these encounter are

>best left for memory". Now you seem to be suggesting that

>there are no risks from a client letting an escort take a pic.

> Please explain further.

Be happy to:7

 

In the earlier post, I was responding to Jeff and we were talking about "records" and the clear (so I thought) meaning was that I agreed with him that stuff like logs, hotels, room numbers, diaries and the like were best not kept for the mutual protection of the escort and the client and I referenced Heidi Fleiss and how her records obtained when she was arrested resulted in revelations of information of and about clients. Blackmail never entered the conversation nor my thoughts at least.

 

The subject of a photo taken by a client or escort of one another had not come up nor was it thought of as a "record" that would be incriminating for tax reasons or otherwise.

 

I have photos of escorts I have become friends with and with whom I have spent a lot of time as some of them of me. But these are people I know and like and a photo commemorates a fun time. When a few of them have asked for a pic or asked if we could have a pic taken together, I usually am happy to accommodate.

 

Generally, despite all the negative stuff I see in the world and in my profession, I am pretty trusting of people and usually don't suspect bad motives.:+

[axebahia]

>The subject of a photo taken by a client or escort of one

>another had not come up nor was it thought of as a "record"

>that would be incriminating for tax reasons or otherwise.

 

Again, I don't really understand that because the subject of an escort taking a picture of a client was the precise subject of my initial post on this thread to which you responded. So I guess you just changed your mind upon further reflection.

[TightBodyTouch]

Photographers along the Champs Elysses is quite another subject. Anyone with a left nut knows that photographers walk around cruiselines, restaurants, and even amusement parks snapping shots of us so that they can scrounge up a living. If you really spend time wondering "what happens to those pictures anyway?" then don't take your escorts along in public places. And when you do take them along, resign yourself to the fact that everyone else in the world is probably more concerned with their own privacy rather than keeping all eyes on you. If you have hired the right boy, no one is looking at you anyway.

 

As far as blackmail, I've never heard absurd things like that but I'm sure it's conceivable by the competent escorts. I still think one needs far more credible evidence than a snap shot. I wasn't around to see the thread about the unfortunate canuck, but I'm betting that the nail in his coffin wasn't a cheesy-faced photo, side by side some hottie on a rollercoaster at Cedar Point... or was it?

[+ Charlie]

I am not personally concerned about blackmail, but I wouldn't want most escorts to have my picture. A few years ago, on my second visit to an escort, after we had done the deed and were having a relaxed conversation, he suddenly pulled a box from under the bed and took out a bunch of photos, tossed them to me and said, "Here are some of my previous clients." The top photo was of a very old friend of mine who was deceased. I was shocked and declined to look at his collection, and refused to be photographed by him. I also never hired him again.

[Flower]

>Again, I don't really understand that because the subject of

>an escort taking a picture of a client was the precise subject

>of my initial post on this thread to which you responded. So

>I guess you just changed your mind upon further reflection.

>

Nope--YOU just don't understand it cause you are a stupid shit:+

 

My first post dealt with Merlin's and Jeff's off-shoot--that's what I was responding to and you would have seen that if you took the time to follow the trail--I usually either skip or just skim your posts, so maybe that explains it.

[axebahia]

> Nope--YOU just don't understand it cause

>you are a stupid shit:+

 

No, I don't understand because you make no sense. You made an initial post on a thread about escorts taking pics of clients that you now say responded to the sub-posts on the thread which were on that topic but some how your initial response was not. Then you made a second post, contradicting the first post. Then, you made a third post, saying that you were not replying to the original explicit topic of the thread. It's ok to change your mind. It's not ok to be afraid to admit it when the record is here in blck & white. Sorrry, Charlie! x(

[axebahia]

>A few years ago, on my

>second visit to an escort, after we had done the deed and were

>having a relaxed conversation, he suddenly pulled a box from

>under the bed and took out a bunch of photos, tossed them to

>me and said, "Here are some of my previous clients."

 

In fact, my first experience with a requested pic was very similar. The escort offered to show me his other rental/tourist pictures. Had I seen them first, I probably would have declined that time too.

[axebahia]

>And when you do take them along, resign yourself to

>the fact that everyone else in the world is probably more

>concerned with their own privacy rather than keeping all eyes

>on you. If you have hired the right boy, no one is looking at

>you anyway.

 

Well, we all hire for diffrerent reasons. And for some of us, discretion is important so it matters where we go to with escorts and how they behave etc. I try to avoid places where I might run into colleagues, family or friends.

 

In the particular instance, I did not want to go on the boat ride but out of deference to the tourist desires of the escort who I had hired for a weekend I conceded having evaluated the situation. What I did not count on was a photographer snapping a picture and posting it on a billboard. If you don't see that as raising issues about discretion then I feel sorry for your clients.

 

As for hiring the right boy, what does that mean? Unless you hire someone who can appear to be your son or nephew or who is around your own age, and perhaps even race, then there will be a natural tendancy for people to wonder about the nature of your relationship. Clients for whom discretion is important have to factor that reality into their rental encounters.

 

But on the main subject of the thread, I think I would be leary about an escort taking my picture in the future not so much because of fear of blackmail, but just a preference for privacy and discretion.

 

I also travel widely and often and I no longer take a camera with me. I realized some time ago that: (a) I don't ever look at the pics; (b) my friends are not interested in seeing my pics; and © the pictures kept in the mind and heart often mean a lot more to me, and it forces me to try to concentrate hard to take in what I am seeing and experiencing without the crutch of a camera.

[Flower]

It's not ok to be afraid to admit it

>when the record is here in blck & white. Sorrry, Charlie! x(

>

Actually, you got that wrong also--the record here is blue, green, and white with some strange yellow and gray dots :+ (although maybe it looks "blck" and white with your head up your ass?) :+

[TightBodyTouch]

>In the particular instance, I did not want to go on the boat

>ride but out of deference to the tourist desires of the escort

>who I had hired for a weekend I conceded having evaluated the

>situation. What I did not count on was a photographer

>snapping a picture and posting it on a billboard. If you

>don't see that as raising issues about discretion then I feel

>sorry for your clients.

 

Don't feel sorry for my clients, silly goose. On my advice and encouragement we only go places together where they won't have to worry about their privacy being disturbed. They also know that when we are in crowded public places I won't do anything to embarrass them or draw glances with my outward behavior. And if, by some chance, our pic appeared on that billboard next to your's with your boy then my client would probably just buy and and we'd forget about it going on to the next adventure. And since you clearly don't have a problem addressing your complaints here then you possibly have the will to address them with photographers in Europe.

>

>As for hiring the right boy, what does that mean?

 

I mean to say that if you are hiring the right boy for you then he will know that discretion is important to you, he will follow your instruction on how to look and behave and he won't solicit any negative attention by accomanying you in public. I consult all my clients on exactly what to wear, on how to behave and I always need to know where we are going before I agree to it. Why put either of us in jepoardy?

 

>Unless you

>hire someone who can appear to be your son or nephew or who is

>around your own age, and perhaps even race, then there will be

>a natural tendancy for people to wonder about the nature of

>your relationship. Clients for whom discretion is important

>have to factor that reality into their rental encounters.

> And for some of us,

>discretion is important so it matters where we go to with

>escorts and how they behave etc. I try to avoid places where

>I might run into colleagues, family or friends.

 

 

I don't doubt that everyone glances around and stares at the people next to them. I study people and watch their behavior more than anyone. But we don't owe each other explanations for who we go around in public with. And if you and your escort are going into public then you both need to be responsible enough to address how to answer questions about your connection long before you are caught with your pics tacked up to a board. It's critical when you make the choice to take a boy out with you. Have a story prepared, something plausible, anything less is irresponsible. Afterall, the escort didn't ask you into public, you asked him and he needs to be armed with the information that you want him to use.

 

>

>But on the main subject of the thread, I think I would be

>leary about an escort taking my picture in the future not so

>much because of fear of blackmail, but just a preference for

>privacy and discretion.

 

 

You didn't want to go on a boat ride, you din't want to do touristy things or use your camera to capture them... Don't do them and you won't have to worry!