Suggestions for Vancouver

[Quart17]

I am a newbie and I am living in Vancouver.I have to admit,my sex experience is extremely limited,so, I am planning to hire an escort to help me explore this area. I have a few questions to ask, and hope everyone is willing to take the time to share their thoughts/answer my questions.

1)What should I prepare when I am going to meet an escort?

2)I did some research and Juan Bruno has a good reputation, how is he?

How about Adam Cade?

I am always open to other suggestions, please do not hesitate to share your suggestions

3)What should I expect from an escort (like in every aspect)?

4)As a newbie, how many hours should I spend with the escort?

5)Is there any additional information I should know?

Thank you.

[+ Gar1eth]

I am a newbie and I am living in Vancouver.I have to admit,my sex experience is extremely limited,so, I am planning to hire an escort to help me explore this area. I have a few questions to ask, and hope everyone is willing to take the time to share their thoughts/answer my questions.

1)What should I prepare when I am going to meet an escort?

2)I did some research and Juan Bruno has a good reputation, how is he?

How about Adam Cade?

I am always open to other suggestions, please do not hesitate to share your suggestions

3)What should I expect from an escort (like in every aspect)?

4)As a newbie, how many hours should I spend with the escort?

5)Is there any additional information I should know?

Thank you.

 

Welcome to the Forum. You ask some good questions.

 

1. How to prepare- well if you are planning to bottom- you need to be cleaned out. I'm not a bottom so I can't tell you what you should do. But many guys on here can. In any case you should be freshly showered unless it's some kind of raunch scene worked out with the escort beforehand. If you can't shower beforehand, ask the escort if you can use his.

 

Next always bring some condoms and lube- the escort should have them. But always better safe than sorry.

 

2. Juan is well-known among the client community. He is known to be something special among escorts. Maybe you could call him an 'escorts's escort'. . He is extremely experienced and I think he would be perfect for a newbie. He is perfectly versatile and loves to kiss. If you like tall muscular Latinos, you cant go wrong with Juan. I don't really know anything about Adam Cade

 

3. You should expect respectful treatment and someone willing to work with you.

 

4. If you can afford it, I'd say a minimum of two hours. That's what I did on my 1st experience. I was extremely nervous I will always be grateful for how 'gentle' and non threatening he was with me. I wish he were still escorting.

 

5. For additional information, ask the escort. Make sure he knows it's your 1st time. Let him k ow of any limits you are not comfortable going past or any you might like to try to stretch.

 

Good Luck. I hope it's a great experience.

 

Gman

[rossthebosssf]

I agree with Gman on everything. Zachary Anders is also an option. He's versatile and a really easy guy to get along with. Ideal for newbies. Looks like he's visiting Vancouver for a few days. He's also very reasonable rates-wise.

[Diverdan]

I second the motion for Juan and hire for two hours. You can share your concerns and your anxiety if you have any. He is a remarkable guy, both for newbies as well as experienced guys. I really can't say enough good things about him. Go for it and have a great time. And, when you are ready, you can have a three some with Juan and his partner Thor...

[+ azdr0710]

communicate very well beforehand....tell him what you like and don't like and ask him some questions. too....you can/should come right out and tell the escort that this is your first time with one and that you hope he will understand, take the lead if necessary, and help you relax.....meet with somebody well-reviewed here.....definitely go for the two hours and don't rush the meeting.....have fun, don't talk quickly or ramble on out of nervousness, and perhaps have one (only one) beer beforehand if you drink.....start with a low-key massage and move it on from there.....be very clean....if meeting in a hotel room, some PPV porn might help....

[Guest countryboywny]

The only thing I could add to the good advice already posted, is to hire a well known, experienced professional guy. Check reviews and do your homework. Especially important since it's your first time, you don't want to ruin it with someone who doesn't have a clue. Enjoy!

[+ Gar1eth]

I realized that while I've never met Adam Cade- I have had a few text conversations with him. He wasn't easy to contact. And he was not very communicative. If the choice is between him and Juan as you stated, I'd definitely go with Juan.

 

Gman

[down_to_business]

I would hire for 1 hour instead of two hours for your first time. If for some reason you aren't enjoying yourself, why be stuck for another hour. Perhaps you can hire for one with the option to add a second if things are going really well for you.

 

While hiring by reputation is important, also try to make sure that you are attracted to the person you hire.

[+ Gar1eth]

I would hire for 1 hour instead of two hours for your first time. If for some reason you aren't enjoying yourself, why be stuck for another hour. Perhaps you can hire for one with the option to add a second if things are going really well for you.

 

While hiring by reputation is important, also try to make sure that you are attracted to the person you hire.

 

I won't say that this is a bad idea. In fact it might be a good idea depending on the circumstances. But I know that I was so nervous my 1st time. If it took 30 minutes to calm yourself, ask your questions, and try to develop a rapport with the escort, then you'd only have a rushed 30 minutes of fun. And I don;t know if you are intending to bottom--and if you are whether it's your 1st time--but I would give yourself some time to be taught. I'm sure if you pick Juan, that he would be a very great instructor. And before people think I'm getting something for recommending Juan, I'm not. We met once when our schedules happened to overlap. He was an incredibly nice and giving person. I think he is a guy you can trust to be patient and supportive of a newbie. But this isn't only my consensus. Juan has been a favorite on the Forum for years.

 

Gman

[leigh.bess.toad]

First of all, welcome to the forum. Ask away. We've all been in exactly the same spot you are now.

 

First, as to Mr. Juan Bruno. I just say it is one of my biggest regrets that I have never met him. We have communicated quite a few times but our paths have never crossed (they almost did once). You will find no more thoughtful, respectful man who is truly interested in you exploring the experience of hiring your first escort. I would suggest looking up his profile here (Juan Vancouver) and then spend some time looking at his previous posts to get a feel of the man's style and thought process. You will undoubtedly be impressed, as so many of us are. Many of whom can only dream of meeting Juan. I don't think you can go wrong, but here's his own words about choosing an escort:

 

I would not recommend anyone to hire anyone because of their reputation. Regardless of how amazing they are, how great they have been and how mind blowing experiences they may have provided for such an interminable list of men, escorting is all about the personal connection and attraction. Personal taste and preferences have to weight heavily in the process of choosing a partner. Unless you are hiring exclusively to spend time with him in the non euphemistic way, you have to hire men that make you simmer with passion.

 

How many times have we all gone to watch a very well reviewed movie that otherwise we would not have any interest in? Throughout the film you may be thinking that it is filmed beautifully, well directed, well acted, has gorgeous effects and so on... and all the while wishing it to end soon so you can go eat cookies?

 

If you are not interested, pass on it.

 

If you are looking for a mind-blowing experience, then why would you not find a well reviewed escort who perfectly fits the description of the men in your wet dreams. It's not that there's a shortage of men.

 

Whatever you do, I wish you exciting and fulfilling times.

 

What to expect depends on you and your expectations. Communicate with them what you want (just don't drown them in incessant emails that consume their days, like a certain newbie did at one time -- the one I stare at in the mirror every day). Most of the good ones really want to make your first experience a positive one and take great pride in helping guys like you.

 

As for how long, that is up to you, but I do think 2 hours is a good first appointment. One hour seems too rushed to me, longer appointments may seem interminable if you aren't having a good time.

 

I'm sure you will have lots of other questions. Because we all have been where you are and the questions were the same for us. So as you think of them, please, come back and ask. It is one thing this forum is best at -- helping new guys learn "the ropes". Or as one of our most esteemed members puts in, joining in our "people with a most unusual hobby".

 

Good luck.

[Juan Vancouver]

Hi Quart,

 

While I am not going to answer about my own reputation, I wanted to chime in on your other questions. (By the way, thank you guys for your vote of confidence.)

 

Before meeting an escort, especially if you are very unexperienced sexually, it wouldn't hurt to have a clear idea of what things you are comfortable doing and what others you want to avoid. It is possible that during the session, if you feel completely relaxed and safe your list may shift a little and that is good, as long as you feel comfortable and not coerced. Keep in mind those things that you will not negotiate and stick to your guns. (I am thinking safe sex, for example.) A good escort will listen to your limits and will gladly play within them, but since you don't have a lot of experience choosing a good escort you may find yourself in the room with one that is not that good at respecting your boundaries. Be prepared for that. Needless to say it is very important to be prepared physically: hair and body freshly showered and free of body odours, teeth freshly brushed and mouthwashed, clean clothes. You would be surprised how many people don't think about this. Also, even if a good escort will always have condoms and lube, never -ever- leave safe sex to your partner, so always bring a few condoms with you. Do your research about safe sex and make sure you understand the science as best as you can. Some people have different ideas of what constitutes safe sex and it is possible you could find yourself with an escort who has his own ideas about it. It would be best if you are sure of the facts beforehand.

 

From an escort you should expect -first of all- to be listened to carefully. You need to be sure that whenever you are explaining what you want to try, your degree of experience, your limits, he is listening and making note of it. You should expect him to listen to your non verbal communication as well, and ask for clarification; people with little experience tend to not be very good saying what they want or what they don't want, so your escort has to have the ability to pay attention to your cues and play accordingly. You should expect him to take things at a pace that is comfortable with you and have the experience and knowledge necessary to answer your questions clearly. A good escort, especially one for someone inexperienced like yourself, should be like a coach, a teacher. Lastly, you should expect him to be focused on your needs, not his own.

 

I agree that two hours is ideal. But since it is your first time, you should let your escort know that you want to leave the option open for leaving after one hour. It would be best if you talk to him about this on the phone so that he can plan the session accordingly. Escorts often have an idea of how to facilitate the session according to the time they think they have. Give him as much information before and during so that he can work with it. Let him know how things are going. If something is not working, communicate openly, you will not hurt his feelings, you will only give him more information about how to give you a better experience.

 

As to how to choose a partner, all I can say is that you need to choose someone that has three different elements:

 

He has to turn your crank. He has to be the type of man you lust about and has the characteristics you desire.

 

He has to have good consistent reviews. Read between the lines. Look for reviews of men that were in similar positions than you. Look for the ways in which the escort interacted with first timers and pay attention on what the reviewer wrote and what he omitted. You would be surprised by what you can learn from a close inspection of a review.

 

Look for an escort that says clearly that he is comfortable and enjoys sessions with first timers, and when you speak with him, make sure he takes his time with you, listens and asks the right questions. If he is impatient, uninterested or rushed on the phone, move on. You need someone who takes time for you.

 

 

 

The last thing I am going to write is this; Remember that life has a lot to offer. Regardless of how old you are, life is still ahead of you. Even though we put a lot of weight on our first experiences, and even if they can really shape our future sexuality, it is likely our first times will be a little odd, a little clumsy, not the dreamy perfect idealized sky-opening lovemaking that disney wants us to believe we will have. If you choose an escort and have an ok session, try again. Don't hit yourself on the head. Understand why it went wrong and try something different. I am glad you are wanting to explore your sexuality and I wish that it will become fulfilling, exciting and fun.

[Bart]

First, welcome to the board, please come back often and share your experience with us when you have completed the time and write a review.

Second, Juan should write a book about the approach of escorting for the Newbie and the experienced. He has offered you many valued opinions here.

Third, consider a sensual massage and more appt. I find beginning with a gentleman's hands on you in a non-threatening fashion very relaxing and definitely a mood setter.

Fourth I really think a two hour appt allows you the opportunity move through the appointment with conversation and pacing.

Fifth if you are getting a room allow yourself plenty of time to arrive early and relax, shower and final clean-up, read a book or watch a bit of TV before the arrival. I would try to use unscented or very mildly scent soaps, avoid cologne and deodarant. Clean man smell generally appeals to us all.

Sixth a light work out will help take some of the edge off too. But only eat lightly. I would avoid alcohol

Seventh, respect for both you and feel free to smile and have a positive attitude.

 

Again good luck, relax and dont over think. The human body and mind have found a way to make this work for the last 5,000 years so go with it.

[Juan Vancouver]

I would try to use unscented or very mildly scent soaps, avoid cologne and deodarant.

 

Please let me offer a different perspective:

 

While I agree that the natural scent of a lover can be intoxicating, I believe that that is a very personal thing and not everyone is open to enjoy natural body odour. Biologically speaking it has been proven that we are intensely attracted to the body odour of people whose genetic information and immune system is different but compatible to ours. This is to ensure that we end up mating with people with whom we would produce stronger children with our combined multiplied advantages.

 

The downside to this is that people that are not a good match for us genetically speaking will emit a body scent that will repel us and send subtle signals to our brains trying to prevent us from mating with them. That is one of nature's way to prevent incest.

 

When it is a good match, it's heaven. When it's not a good match, it's boner killing.

 

Escorts meet a lot of people, some of whom are compatible mates, some are not. It's just nature. I would do my part trying to make sure I make things easy. I would personally suggest to wash conscientiously and use light deodorant.

 

I have heard clients complaint about great escorts with wonderful reputations who barely kissed or seemed distant and turned off. By talking to my colleagues, I know that some of these failed sessions can be blamed on different hygiene standards that make the escorts' work more challenging. (Different standards, not right or wrong. In some cultures it is perfectly acceptable and normal to have a very strong body odour, in some it isn't.)

 

Clean, freshly showered body, no body odours, freshly brushed teeth, breath mint and if your escort or lover offers a breath mint... take it. No questions asked.

 

Again, I would always try to minimize the risks for things going badly.

 

But this is just my personal opinion.

[seeker630]

Please let me offer a different perspective:

 

While I agree that the natural scent of a lover can be intoxicating, I believe that that is a very personal thing and not everyone is open to enjoy natural body odour. Biologically speaking it has been proven that we are intensely attracted to the body odour of people whose genetic information and immune system is different but compatible to ours. This is to ensure that we end up mating with people with whom we would produce stronger children with our combined multiplied advantages.

The downside to this is that people that are not a good match for us genetically speaking will emit a body scent that will repel us and send subtle signals to our brains trying to prevent us from mating with them. That is one of nature's way to prevent incest.

 

When it is a good match, it's heaven. When it's not a good match, it's boner killing.

 

Escorts meet a lot of people, some of whom are compatible mates, some are not. It's just nature. I would do my part trying to make sure I make things easy. I would personally suggest to wash conscientiously and use light deodorant.

 

I have heard clients complaint about great escorts with wonderful reputations who barely kissed or seemed distant and turned off. By talking to my colleagues, I know that some of these failed sessions can be blamed on different hygiene standards that make the escorts' work more challenging. (Different standards, not right or wrong. In some cultures it is perfectly acceptable and normal to have a very strong body odour, in some it isn't.)

 

Clean, freshly showered body, no body odours, freshly brushed teeth, breath mint and if your escort or lover offers a breath mint... take it. No questions asked.

 

Again, I would always try to minimize the risks for things going badly.

 

But this is just my personal opinion.

 

Interesting theory, Has this 'olfactory screening' been shown to apply to male-male interactions? Since no offspring are possible, it seems irrelevant - although it might still apply to gay males with respect to women. For nature/biology, sex is about reproduction.

[Okliehomo]

Say what???

 

Avoid alcohol??? Surely, you jest.

 

I am about to have sex with a complete stranger for... I don't know.... the 1000th time, and I shouldn't have a little inspiration?? Sounds risky.

 

But more on topic... if the world stopped turning and I was new at this again and I was in Vancouver.... my, oh, my. That's an easy one. Or three.

 

Juan, Kevin, Thor.... Juan, Thor, Kevin.... Juan... Thor... Kevin...

 

And if you are looking for really big "cranks"..... see above....

 

How lucky can you get?

 

Okie

[+ Gar1eth]

Hi Quart,

 

While I am not going to answer about my own reputation, I wanted to chime in on your other questions. (By the way, thank you guys for your vote of confidence.)

 

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I understand why for modesty's sake you don't want to "blow your own horn"--but I sure wish I could!!!

 

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Gman