Like him at a distance... Hate him in person

[briancalihc]

Any of you have this problem where you are smitten by a guy because of your phone calls, emails and Skype conversations, but when you have them over for a stay you realize you can't stand them in person?

[briancalihc]

And the one you Love in person you can't stand being away from them....

[tyro]

Are you asking about a "working guy"?

T

[Diverdan]

Brian,

Fortunately, I never have invited someone to stay over based on just phone calls, skype interaction, etc. I always have spent some time in a social setting with someone before such an invitation, as it prevents a lot of grief. But even then it doesn't always work out. Spending a lot of time together either cements a bond or dissolves it fairly quickly, IMHO. I am happy to report that I have had very few of those negative experiences.

DD

[briancalihc]

Yes, a working guy

[briancalihc]

Public Setting, thats a good idea.

[Diverdan]

Brian,

You have the right idea. Having dinner with someone, or going to some event, concert, play, etc. followed by coffee or drinks in an upscale bar will give you a very good picture of what more time with that person is like. I have been very lucky to have spent some wonderful times with companions in those situations and eventually traveled with them for several days at a time.

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

Any of you have this problem where you are smitten by a guy because of your phone calls, emails and Skype conversations, but when you have them over for a stay you realize you can't stand them in person?

 

Not quite the extreme that I couldn't stand him, but did have a situation that after the visit there was no further interest in seeing him again. While his personality and body were fine, many topics came up that we did not have in common - - such as I enjoy the NFL and he never follows any sports, he was into rap and I prefer a melody I can hum along with.

[RockHard]

Unless he had chronic bad breath, I can't imagine why I wouldn't enjoy someone in person as opposed to the other options. Maybe it's time to question your intimacy issues?

[Guest]

Any of you have this problem where you are smitten by a guy because of your phone calls, emails and Skype conversations, but when you have them over for a stay you realize you can't stand them in person?

 

Since you're talking about an escort, I'm not quite sure I understand you. Are you saying that you didn't find him physically attractive in person although he looked hot in pictures? Or that you couldn't enjoy a session with him because he had a lousy personality? In what way did the escort not meet your expectations? What I especially don't understand about your question is the way you went from "smitten" to "can't stand them"... I can't imagine going from one extreme to the other unless his photographs were grossly inaccurate, either because they were pictures of someone else or photoshopped to death. I would need to understand how you went from being captivated by someone to being repulsed by him from a brief meeting.

[JT Brooklyn]

Any of you have this problem where you are smitten by a guy because of your phone calls, emails and Skype conversations, but when you have them over for a stay you realize you can't stand them in person?

 

Hell Yes!

[gallahadesquire]

Hell Yes!

 

I'll drink to that! Even his mother's serving caviar, champagne (after I sent flowers) didn't improve his in person personality.

Then again, I've had two people supposedly commit suicide after something i did. It might have happened, but I can't take responsibility.

[+ purplekow]

Then again, I've had two people supposedly commit suicide after something i did. It might have happened, but I can't take responsibility.

 

I call on Rick Munroe, punster extraordinaire and all others of a similarly inventive mind, to apply the appropriate groaner to this bit of garbled syntax.