Unprotected sex

[AdamSmith]

Thanks for the honesty. I am not all together sure that I agree with what you are doing, but it is refreshing to hear someone speak the truth, and make no apology. Your truth is the reality for more guys than most would imagine.

 

I don't agree with it either. But I am grateful for your understanding and acknowledging the spirit and point of my post. These discussions too often don't acknowledge some of the realities that make these decisions a lot more difficult than they ought to be.

[SteveEscort]

Can't we give it an honest break? Every time I'm with someone, I want to do the whole night raw. So far, neg. But I have been a bare top more times than I would wish to admit.

 

About 1 in every 5 guys I see would quite happily fuck me raw. I think it's the same with most escorts. They try and instigate a bareback session, some come out with it and tell us "I am married so I am safe", some just try and guage an escorts reaction to see if we're open to the idea, pardon the pun. I don't bareback with clients but I know plenty of people who do and clients will even tell you which escorts are up for it too, during their indiscreet storytelling.

 

The only risky thing I do is I swallow at their request plus I usually swallow with clients I particularly fancy the pants off. I have had many ask to do creampie sessions and fuck a cummy arse. If they want that I am happy to cum in advance of their arrival or when they arrive and let them use my cum as the creampie on me. There's nothing unsafe about that.

[doitb4ugo]

Thank You, Adam for your honesty. I don't have the courage here on the forum to speak my mind on this subject....

[AdamSmith]

Thank You, Adam for your honesty. I don't have the courage here on the forum to speak my mind on this subject....

 

You know you've already done so, more forthrightly and honestly than we deserve: small thanks you got for it. But I and I daresay others were grateful.

 

I think it hardly need be said to the forum that none of us is campaigning for death-wish practices. Just seeing if the dialog can be opened to the whole spectrum of experiential truths.

[RockHard]

given that the mortal span is short in any event

 

Yes, the "mortal" span is short. But what about your moral span?

 

we do balance these existential choices

 

Maybe your existential choices are a circus act filled with risky jugglers. Perhaps you choose to be the barebacking ring-leader. Some of us see no other choice when it comes to protecting our well-being and the well-being of others who share our company.

 

I'd prefer to keep on learning as opposed to prematurely terminating my education.

 

I, too, am a very curious fellow. I enjoy life (and dreams) too much to let any 12-second orgasm get in the way of my plans for the future. I've never been fond of swallowing pills.

 

These discussions too often don't acknowledge some of the realities that make these decisions a lot more difficult than they ought to be.

 

I certainly never liked condoms. They desensitize my cock, making it more difficult to sustain an erection. It took me years to find something I could call comfortable, but I'm sorry to say, there is no condom that feels like skin-against-skin. Technology is improving.

 

For the sake of my health and the health of those men who surrender their ass to me, I make a sacrifice. I fuck with a condom. It's not just HIV. It's STDs as well.

 

Now, I admit, it's getting more difficult to sustain an erection, and I am concerned about my sexual viability as a hard-but-tender-driving-top in the years to come. I know if I threw away the condom (and the anxiety that comes with that), my sex life as a top would stand a better chance. But the truth is, my truth, I care more about a healthy life than I care about being a performing top. The decision for me is not difficult.

 

All is not lost when penetration ends. Gay fucking can be a lot of work, especially if you're not a scat queen. And I know several gay couples who love each other deeply, enjoying pleasurable sex lives, and never engage in penetration activity. Some guys just aren't into ass, and when two meet and fall in love, they find other ways to enjoy sexual intimacy.

 

My doctor recently introduced me to a new (hard cock inducing) medication. I tried it once and it worked really well with no unpleasant side effects. I really dislike Viagra, and Cialis did not work for me, but there's still hope. If I have to take a pill to fully enjoy my performance as a top, then I'll deal with that. For me, it's a small price to pay to keep fucking-with-a-condom in the picture. If there comes a time when that doesn't work, then maybe I'll learn to settle for those teeth-gnawing blow jobs.

 

No matter what, when I consider all the loving male friends and lovers I've lost to AIDS, there is no way I will ever place that much importance on bareback sex again. I sacrifice to honor them.

[Xander]

The trojan bareskin condoms are my favorite. They aren't good if you can't stay hard because the condoms are more tight than most, but they are also very very thin. They are more expensive than most condoms, too

[+ Travis69]

Everyone's idea of "safe" is different. Some would say fucking with a condom is also a risk they are not willing to take. Some would say taking "hard-on inducing drugs" is a risk to their health. We all judge based on our own preferences.

[RockHard]

We all judge based on our own preferences.

 

Not true. My preference is to take no pills. Period. It would never occur to me to take prescription medication without consulting my doctor. Furthermore, I didn't make any inquiry into "hard-on inducing" medication. I gave up on it years ago, and I'm not paying attention to new science in this arena. When my doctor asks about my sex life, which he does about every 6 months, I tell him what's going on. After that, he recently added, "I have something new you might like. Here's a free trial pack. Try it and let me know what you think."

 

Many of us "judge" our decisions based on intelligent analysis and smart, professional advice. Where issues of morality might play a role, some of us consider our moral code.

 

What I "prefer" is not always an option. I prefer to fuck bareback, but that ain't gonna happen.

[AdamSmith]

RockHard, nothing you said can I differ with. When we've argued, I've always loved and admired your intellectual honesty about whatever it was.

 

So in this discussion, to return to my opening, I agree.

 

That is the conundrum. I agree with you, yet I think my thoughts have something to them. Can you, without launching into further stentorious 1-dimensional diatribes, shed some light? One would, genuinely, be grateful.

[+ Travis69]

Rockhard - Since condoms sometimes break go with a even higher moral code and don't have anal intercourse at all.

[bigvalboy]

You know you've already done so, more forthrightly and honestly than we deserve: small thanks you got for it. But I and I daresay others were grateful.

I think it hardly need be said to the forum that none of us is campaigning for death-wish practices. Just seeing if the dialog can be opened to the whole spectrum of experiential truths

 

Well said...and I to am grateful for the open and honest dialog.

[RockHard]

When we've argued

 

Maybe my memory is shorting out. One more thing to cause concern. I don't recall any arguments with AdamSmith.

 

I've always loved and admired your intellectual honesty about whatever it was.

 

Very sweet. Thank you.

 

Can you, without launching into further stentorious 1-dimensional diatribes, shed some light?

 

Stentorius? I believe that word no longer exists. Anyway, none of what I wrote was in caps, so I don't see how I was loud.

 

1-dimensional? I'm one guy. The way I choose to lead my life is a singular perspective. I'm not a cult leader and nor do I wish to be one. I specifically wrote, "my truth." I knew it was unfair to assume everyone would share it.

 

Diatribes? I thought my posts were fairly succinct. I'm not a fan of sound bites, and given the complexity of the subject, I worked hard to choose my few words with care.

 

Shed some light? The only light I follow is my own. I trust my gut, and I've always believed in God. IMO, God is love, and there's nothing greater than love. I don't regret many personal choices I've made.

 

Since condoms sometimes break

 

I've been using condoms for almost 30 years, and I've had plenty of sex. I've ripped a few with my fingers, but I've never ripped one on my cock while fucking. People say a lot of things, but I use my personal experience to guide me in these matters.

 

Life is not without risk, and I see no morality in choosing to lock yourself in a cave.

[Diverdan]

Rockhard,

Can you share with us what the medication was that you took instead of Viagra or Cialis that worked for you? I have tried both V and C and don't particularly care for either one, but at my age a little extra help is welcome... :-) Thanks, and if you prefer, please send me a PM.

DD

[jimboivyo]

The trojan bareskin condoms are my favorite. They aren't good if you can't stay hard because the condoms are more tight than most, but they are also very very thin. They are more expensive than most condoms, too

 

an escort friend of mine intro me to kimono ultra thin poly and I love them

[AdamSmith]

an escort friend of mine intro me to kimono ultra thin poly and I love them

 

Agree. The best, bar none.

[+ LIguy]

Has anyone here ever used Caverject for ED?

[bigvalboy]

Has anyone here ever used Caverject for ED?

 

Yes...loved it. I used it off and on for years. I would get it from my friend for free. Interesting though, it has been years since I last used it. I need to research and make sure that there are not any side effects, especially since I am older now.

[Jaker27]

Has anyone here ever used Caverject for ED?

Never done it myself but I watched a guy do it after doing the ed pills which weren't having much effect. After the shot he was UP and ready for action.

[AdamSmith]

Life is not without risk, and I see no morality in choosing to lock yourself in a cave.

 

My manners are following my wits in deserting me. Thank you for this thought above all. My business is consulting to engineers, and they remind us of this over and again: In the real world there is no eliminating risk, only mitigating and managing it. Strategies built on other propositions fail, sometimes spectacularly.

[+ Axiom2001]

He's handing you a line of propaganda which can only serve to benefit HIM. IMO this sort of person is careless and selfish, and really does not have YOUR best interests at heart.

 

Go with your head here, and NOT with your Boner... It CANT end well....

 

I'm goin' to be blunt! "No glove, no love!" Use a female condom and enjoy your time with this purportedly "hot man."