Observation/question from Jon Dean

[Guest jwraustin]

I have been noticing that a number of escorts around the country are also posting their personal ads and pics on several sites, such as gay.com. men4mansex, mantracker. These are not ads for the escort business, but just to hook up with someone in their spare time. (For the life of me, I don't see how they have the time (much less the energy) to play "off the clock" - but then maybe I am just getting old )

 

I have thought about doing this from time to time, but honestly, I don't have a lot of time to play on my own, and usually any prospective "date" I get winds up geting cancelled and/or postponed when a client calls.

 

Don't get me wrong, I get a lot of personal satisfaction from my clients, but there are times when I want a little "me" time. That's usually when I call up one of my buds, or in a rare case, hire some escort I have been slobbering over. (Easy)

 

My question is this to the clients out there: How do you feel when you see your favorite escort posting his personal ad on "meet men" sites? To me, it seems like saying 'I am available, but for you, it'll cost ya."

 

Maybe I am silly about this, but as always, my concerns for the feelings of my clients comes first. I would appreciate some input on this delema of mine......

 

Jon Dean

http://www.manfuck.net

[ted]

To me, it seems like saying 'I am available,

>but for you, it'll cost ya."

>

I think you nailed this one. You certainly do deserve a personal life though, and everyone needs some "me" time. I think a lot of clients consider their time with escorts their "me" time. That's definitely a contradiction. If your business is advertised on the net, maybe the personal should be a bit more discrete?

[+ deej]

>To me, it seems like saying 'I am available,

>but for you, it'll cost ya."

 

I'm sure some guys would react that way. They're the guys that don't have a ghost of a chance of hooking up through those listings or socially.

 

The few times this has happened, I've usually figured it was just an indicator that the guy I was considering had a REALLY high sex drive. That's not generally a bad thing when I'm considering hiring an escort. }(

[Guest jeffOH]

> To me, it seems like saying 'I am available,

>>but for you, it'll cost ya."

 

I've thought the same thing Jon Dean. I guess that's one of the reasons I VERY rarely go out to the clubs here Columbus, NEVER frequent any cruisy areas, never been to a bathhouse and never cruise online.

 

I don't mind running into clients in other settings, but I think it might be awkward to see each other in a sexual situation where looking to satisfy my own sexual needs. Kind of fucks up the fantasy.

 

There are clients of mine that I run into fairly regularly, a few frequent the gym of which I'm co-owner. I suppose I like to keep business life separate from my personal life, especially when it comes to the pursuit of my own sexual desires.

 

Reminds me of the Seinfeld episode where George was worried about "worlds colliding".

 

JEFF [email protected]

[chrismac]

>I'm sure some guys would react that way. They're the guys that

>don't have a ghost of a chance of hooking up through those

>listings or socially.

 

Actually deej, this situation happened to me. And it kind of left me with the same impression that Jon Dean mentioned: "To me, it seems like saying 'I am available, but for you, it'll cost ya."

 

The irony is that the escort was actually interested in me. I didn't know I had met him as an escort before (he didn't have an online pic, and a torso shot could be anyone). He figured out first, after several online exchanges, that I was a client. Then the date was off.

 

Yeah, I kind of felt weird about it. I'm sure he wasn't too comfortable either.

 

Incidentally, I've had absolutely NO problem hooking up with very hot guys online for free. I've chosen escorts in the past simply because I didn't want to deal with the game of "maybe he'll look like his pic, maybe he won't", or when I'm out of town, or I didn't want to spend the time hunting.

 

In San Francisco a couple of months ago, I met a hot latino guy and we hooked up twice. The first time, after we had sex and I told him where I was from, he asked me if I was an escort. I laughed and said, "Me?!" He said he used to live in my hometown and thought I was one of his competition when he was there.

 

Go figure.

[Guest Tampa Yankee]

> To me, it seems like saying 'I am available,

>>but for you, it'll cost ya."

>>

>I think you nailed this one.

 

Well, isn't this the truth??

 

Of the many escorts I've seen I've never been under the misapprehension that it would have happened without the 'transactional' nature of the meeting. That acute understanding hasn't interfered with my experience as long as I felt they wanted to be there with me under that circumstance. It is a differernt situation when I feel they don't want to be there but force themselves for the bottom line.

 

I have no issue knowing that these guys have a personal sex life and are willing to give it away free to some... I would too. Yea, I might be a little envious but I recognize who and where I am life and where they are. And I'm happy to share their time as a paying customer. If I wasn't, then I wouldn't.

[Guest Hijnx]

Escorts damn well better take some "me" time. And do so completely guilt-free and with wild abandon. Just like everyone else, you need to take care of your own desires and fantasies, your own hungers and needs for affection. It isn't healthy NOT to. As a client, there is no way I should ever feel jealous or slighted if I see an escort out and about on his own time, or see his postings at various sites. I can't imagine always having to be so totally "on" that you are constantly working. Take the time you want and deserve. And know that THIS client wants you to be as healthy, satisfied and content as a freshly fucked tribe member. Go for it and do so with relish!

[+ Cash4Trash]

I too am much more concerned about escorts who don't save a hunk

of "me" time for themselves. If I found you online searching for someone I'd probably play matchmaker and try to help you find the

perfect hookup. Of course later, I try to nudge out of you all

pertinent details. Your downtime is yours, have fun.

[Guest feisty1]

>My question is this to the clients out there: How do you feel

>when you see your favorite escort posting his personal ad on

>"meet men" sites? To me, it seems like saying 'I am available,

>but for you, it'll cost ya."

 

The only instances in which it gives me pause is when I see that an escort's personal indicates that he might not be what I was hoping for if I hired him. Say, for example, if a guy who advertises as a butch dominant top escort has a personal advertising himself as a submissive pussyboy bottom: That would probably make me reconsider hiring him for in his professional capacity because I'd be inclined to think he wouldn't really be into it.

 

I realize this is completely unfair, in and of itself. There's no reason why he couldn't perform both roles more than adequately, and in fact the ability to switch off probably makes him both a better sex partner and a better escort. But in the absence of other evidence (such as good reviews here), I'd probably end up looking elsewhere.

 

The same would be true if his personal indicated he is into guys completely unlike me, like if I'm small and he wants big, or hairy and he wants smooth, etc., I'd most likely pass him by as an escort, thinking that I'm so not-his-type that I wouldn't have a good time. However, it's also true that if his personal matched his professional ad in terms of what he is into, or that what he is looking for more closely describes my general type, that I'd be more inclined to hire him than if I hadn't seen the personal.

 

But I don't have any qualms along the lines of what you describe. We are all somebody's type and none of us are everybody's type. There are plenty of guys I wish escorted, whom I'd happily pay even if they had politely turned me down when they were 'available' (but not to me). And there are plenty of escorts I wouldn't have sex with if they offered to pay me. Having sex with people I'm not attracted to just isn't part of my skill set, and unlike many of the best escorts around, I can't find something to be (sexually) attracted to in a lot of different men. I quite admire that talent in good escorts -- the ability to provide a good sexual experience to lots of different kinds of people regardless of considerations that would give most of us pause. People with that skill could probably make a good living at it!

 

Utimately, I think it's interesting to know what an escort might be looking for when he's not on the clock, but the risk is that he ruins a potential client's fantasy of what the client's experience might be like.

 

--Michael

N.P. "Believe in What You Want" - Jimmy Eat World

[+ nycman]

>Having sex with people I'm not attracted to just isn't part of my skill set...

 

I laughed my ass off when I read this line. Don't get me wrong. I'm in the same boat. The wording is great.

 

On the topic at hand, escorts are entitled to a life outside my sexual needs and desires. No skin off my nose and more power to them. If you feel otherwise, I think you may be confused about the whole fantasy on which these transactions are based.

 

Just my 2 cents.

[Guest feisty1]

>On the topic at hand, escorts are entitled to a life outside

>my sexual needs and desires. No skin off my nose and more

>power to them. If you feel otherwise...

 

I don't feel otherwise at all; you're absolutely right. My point is just that, all other factors being equal, I'd be more inclined to hire an escort who's "off the clock" predelictions were in keeping with the professional services he offers than one who's seems to be looking for something completely different.

 

--Michael

N.P. "Come As You Are" - Nirvana

[+ nycman]

>I don't feel otherwise at all.....

 

Sorry...the second half of my post was addressed to the masses.

 

Now that I re-read it, I see it looks like I was still addressing you.

 

I apologize for the confusion.

[VaHawk]

>My question is this to the clients out there: How do you feel

>when you see your favorite escort posting his personal ad on

>"meet men" sites?

 

Well I don't really go to many meet men sites, but why wouldn't the escort use a handle other than his escort handle and a different email address than the one in his escort ad? BTW, nothing more than curiosity in this query.

>

>Maybe I am silly about this, but as always, my concerns for

>the feelings of my clients comes first.

 

Well this sure is a very good attitude, but in reality your feelings, needs and wants should be your first priority. I think if you're not meeting those then you probably would not be at your best. As the old adage goes "all work and no play, makes Jack a dull boy".

 

As a client, I would not be the least bit concerned with what you do in your personal life, as that would have no affect on our relationship. After all, I personally don't have any exclusive relationships with any one escort or non-escort, and enjoy being with both, so why should I expect different from an escort?