Humiliation...are you into it?

[Rick Munroe]

RE: Pithy (version two)

 

Franco, sometimes you're just a real bundle of fun. Thanks for playing.

[foxy]

RE: Pithy (version two)

 

Humiliation...why? I admit I've always been a little confused as to why humiliation is exciting. I understand that we all like a good catharsis now and then but it seems as though humiliation is somehow tied up with guilt. Am I way off-base? I'd really like to understand it better. I'm still trying to figure out vanilla sex so I may be a lost cause.

[Rick Munroe]

RE: Pithy (version two)

 

>I'm still trying to

>figure out vanilla sex so I may be a lost cause.

 

That made me LOL for real. :7 As for humiliation or any other so-called non-vanilla turn-ons, I don't think there's any one reason or explanation. We're all individuals with our own psyches, histories, genes, etc. I think in my case, I have a very healthy self-esteem, so it's hot to be treated like dirt...it's a fantasy; kind of like seeing how the other half lives. In "real" life, this cocky native New Yorker doesn't let anyone walk all over him & I know how to get what I want, so it's exciting to do the opposite in bed & let someone else use me for their gratification. HOWEVER, (and I can't believe I have to say this again but I do because a few people have already written to me about it), this is only one small part of my (huge) list of sexual turn-ons. I also love mutual respect & intimacy & passion...I love to fuck & get fucked, suck & get sucked, kiss, touch, hold, etc. I like it rough and I like it gentle. The only thing that never changes is that I like it safe.

[+ Lucky]

RE: (version two)

 

>The only thing that never changes is that I like it safe.

 

And we're glad you do!

[Rick Munroe]

RE: (version two)

 

>And we're glad you do!

 

So is Derek (glad) (and safe).

[+ Hoover42]

Hey Rick, I'm not into humiliation that much. However, I have similar weakness of my own. Namely, I really get off on being teased by hot, possibly unavailable, guys.

 

For example, I'm checking out some guy and his buddy on the subway and they catch me looking at him. But instead of getting mad, one of them smiles and winks, and the friend points at the other one's crotch then holds up his hands 10" apart. I then blush and rush off the train at the next stop.

 

That kind of thing...you know what I mean?

[Rick Munroe]

>That kind of thing...you know what I mean?

 

Not really, because I would never rush off the train. I'd be on my knees begging him to take it out and at least just let me see it...sniff it...lick it...whatever I could get away with. :9

[BobbyB]

RE: Pithy (version two)

 

>I admit I've always been a little confused as to why humiliation is exciting.

>I understand that we all like a good catharsis now and then but it seems as

>though humiliation is somehow tied up with guilt. Am I way off-base?"

 

Not entirely. I fully understand Rick's fascination with sexual humiliation, and he's right about the varied cases that may be responsible for such a fantasy. Thanks to an epiphany I had some years ago, I came to realize that my own fantasy with it was tied up with what had been going on when I was in the full throws of puberty.

 

Obviously, I was having some consternation dealing with my sexuality, understandable given the hyper-sensitivity & social cruelties of junior high and high school. At the time, I was attracted to boys who were much less naive than I was. In other words, the more aggressive of my age group who were what we would have called at the time, the "bad boys." In retrospect, they obviously were radiating tremendous sexuality that I was picking up on, and good GAWD did I want to have sex with at least one of them!!! Being shy, however, and uncomfortable with my own sexuality, I didn't have the wherewithal to make this happen, so I privately wished that one of them would just "take" me, i.e. abuse me. I just naturally presumed that he would also degrade me because I lacked the sophistication to understand that if he was having sex with me, it was because he wanted to, not because he would have been disgusted by it. (Hey, I was a kid; what can I say?) Naturally, I would endure this "humiliation" because, in fact, it was what I was really craving.

 

So in the throws of my youthful desire, a fantasy was born. Make sense?

 

-BobbyB

[BobbyB]

>>That kind of thing...you know what I mean?

 

>Not really, because I would never rush off the train. I'd be on my knees begging him to take it out and at least just let me see it...sniff it...lick it...whatever I could get away with.

 

That's DISGUSTING! At least put a newspaper under your knees!

 

-BobbyB

[jimmer]

I confess that I sent an outline of my response to Mr. Munroe, but decided to post it, too. I understand what Rick is talking about when he refers to "humiliation". It can indeed be a turn-on.

 

I was in Amsterdam, a few weeks ago, scoping out the cute twinkies that I ordinarily favor, and I see this incredibly obnoxious, tall, dark dude yelling at the bartender about an error in his tab. Since I was in Amsterdam, where anything is possible, I decided that I was going to have this tall, obnoxious dude for the evening.

 

He turned out to be an incredibly hung guy who has NEVER had a thought in his life. Just what I wanted that night. After making some comment about my blue eyes, he threw me on the bed. I was fingered and rimmed and fucked for hours, and there was not another word spoken between us.

 

I have never asked an "escort" for such an experience, but neither have I had such an hour of intense and totally meaningless pleasure.

 

Mr. Munroe is right. A little humiliation can be just the ticket for a hot time!

 

Jimmer

[BobbyB]

>>>I was in Amsterdam... incredibly obnoxious, tall, dark dude...he threw me >>>on the bed....I had such an hour of intense and totally meaningless

>>>pleasure. Rr. Munroe is right. A little humiliation can be just the ticket

>>>for a hot time!

 

Jimmer,

 

Woof! Now that's a great story! Thanks for sharing with the class. (Now where did I put my lube?)

 

-BobbyB

[Rick Munroe]

>I was fingered and rimmed and fucked for hours, and there

>was not another word spoken between us.

 

That sounds just like my first date with Derek (he's a hopeless romantic).

Hot story, Jimmer. Sometimes I love romance & tenderness & intellect, but sometimes I love it when it's primal & animal (just like in that Olivia Newton-John song). I'm sure you and I are not the only ones.

[jimmer]

>That sounds just like my first date with Derek (he's a

>hopeless romantic).

 

 

I'm so glad you said that Rick. Now you won't have to ask me any questions the next time I drop by for coffee on a Sunday morning.

 

Jimmer

[Rick Munroe]

I sometimes find it fucking hot to be degraded/humiliated sexually. I'm not talking about getting beaten up...I'm talking about feeling like I'm being used for someone else's pleasure, with no thought for my own.

 

Last night, I met a dominant hung guy on AOL who was looking for deep throat. He lived 2 blocks away and told me to come right over, so I did. As I walked into his studio apartment, he pushed me to my knees & proceeded to fuck my face so deep & with such force that I had to stop him a couple of times (the fact that I never gag makes some guys just want to pump fast & rough...but I don't want to lose a tooth or cut my lip). He then put me on the bed and got on top of me and fucked my mouth like it was an ass. He then laid back on the bed and had me kneeling over him & sucking...while grabbing my hair & making my head bob up and down. Finally, he was ready to shoot & pushed me off of him, jumped up & shot a nice load on my chest. Immediately, he went into the bathroom (presumably to wash my whore mouth off of his dick). He came back out & I had taken out my dick & was jacking off. I asked, "Do you mind if I cum?" and he said, "Just make it quick & no mess." I shot just as he said that & then he said, "OK, I have to get up early tomorrow. Can you leave?" So I pulled up my jeans & out the door I went, with his & my loads sticking to my shirt. I was in fucking heaven. }(

 

Anyone else find it hot to be treated (or treat someone) this way?

 

**Now...I should add that I am into this scene, but, as is usually the case, I have to still be in control. That is, I have to want it & I have to want it from certain guys (in other words, I'm not giving the green light to potential clients that I in any way want to be treated this way. It's just one aspect of my sexuality that, when I'm looking for sex on my own, I sometimes seek). I add this disclaimer because I had a job in LA last year, where, after a nice, intimate, friendly couple of hours, the client was ready to leave and he threw the $$ at me in a disgusted way & made me pick it up off the floor. I was shocked & pissed off. Later, I found out (in an email) that he'd read a post where I'd said that it would be hot to be treated like a whore & have the john toss some bills on my spent, sweaty body on the bed. Oops. It was just a passing thought; not what I'd really wanted. I've since tried to be careful in my posts, but that's hard because I'm...J.A.D.W.