handling a bad experience with an escort?

[rdwyer78]

Other than writing a negative review here, how do you go about communicating a bad escort experience? The pics and description were spot on, I clearly outlined what serviced I wanted, he performed them, but I walked away without feeling satisfied or having a great time.

[bigvalboy]

Other than writing a negative review here, how do you go about communicating a bad escort experience? The pics and description were spot on, I clearly outlined what serviced I wanted, he performed them, but I walked away without feeling satisfied or having a great time.

 

There are many many seasoned members here who might have additional thoughts on this, however my thoughts are when I read this, is first I am unclear exactly why you feel a need to write a negative review or communicate this bad experience further. It is certainly your right to do that, but you have not made it clear exactly what you felt went wrong. What was it that made the experience so unsatisfying? If the pictures were accurate, he performed what was outlined, often it just is a matter of chemistry. That certainly happens. Escorts are suppose to be professional, but they are not robots, and to think that every escort will have the same connection with every client is just unrealistic in my view.

 

Without knowing the particulars, it is difficult to give advice. Personally I have a rule when it comes to reviews. I only write a negative review when I felt that I was scammed in some way, as an example, he did not perform as promised, or the pics were inaccurate. If the pics are inaccurate, I never go in, but I will mention the inaccuracy in a review. If I did not have a good time simply because of chemistry between the two of us, and the escort sincerely tried, then I won't post that lack of chemistry in a review, because someone else might click fine with him, and also I would not want to hurt the escorts business.

 

If you really feel a need to communicate the bad experience further, outside of posting a review, there is not much else that I can think of that you can do. Posting a review in the Message forum is against the T.O.S. If others ask for advice on the escort in the future you can send them a pm, other than that to be honest it sounds a little like you are seeking some sort of revenge, or that you want the escort to know that you were not happy. You can tell him directly, he may even be unaware of your dissatisfaction, or you could just let this whole thing go, and just consider it a lessoned learned, and do more vetting in the future.

[Kevin Slater]

Very well thought out and expressed.

 

Kevin Slater

[Walker1]

Other than writing a negative review here, how do you go about communicating a bad escort experience? The pics and description were spot on, I clearly outlined what serviced I wanted, he performed them, but I walked away without feeling satisfied or having a great time.

 

Perhaps, I misunderstand you? The escort was as advertised. He looked exactly like his pics, he performed exactly what you asked him to do. But for whatever reason, you are not satisifed and want to write a negative review and spread the word about him??

 

I am not getting it, he not only looks exactly as pics, he also did what you asked of him. I am aware there are nuances-were you rushed, time cut short-what exactly did he not perform?

 

Just trying to understand.

[wnybear]

Other than writing a negative review here, how do you go about communicating a bad escort experience? The pics and description were spot on, I clearly outlined what serviced I wanted, he performed them, but I walked away without feeling satisfied or having a great time.

 

I don't think you are justified in writing a bad review. As has been pointed out: he was exactly as described, matched his pictures exactly, performed the services you requested.

As I see it, he did what you contracted him for. Maybe what you communicated to him wasn't exactly what you wanted. Doesn't sound like you let him know that.

I think a bad review would be unfair on your part, as well as uncalled for. Just get past it and move on.

[rvwnsd]

Other than writing a negative review here, how do you go about communicating a bad escort experience?....

 

A review is the best and most efficient way to communicate about a bad experience to a wide audience. Another effective way is to post a reply to a "411" request here on the forum. However, that method can be tricky because reviews are not allowed on the message forum. You could also send a private message (PM) to another forum member who inquired about an escort.

 

The pics and description were spot on, I clearly outlined what serviced I wanted, he performed them, but I walked away without feeling satisfied or having a great time.

 

So, if I am reading this correctly, your negative review would read something like this: [General, Physical. Activities, Rates, and Session sections omitted]

 

"Experience: The minute I saw Escort A's ad pics, I knew I wanted to meet him. I contacted him and explained everything I wanted. He agreed to do all the things I asked for and we set up a time to meet. When we met, Escort A looked just like his photos. His body, demeanor, voice, and style were all exactly as he described in his ad. He did everything I asked for and exactly how I asked for it. Still, I was neither satisfied nor happy. I really had a bad time. Be forewarned: Escort A is exactly what he says he is."

 

Frankly, a negative review of what sounds like a great experience will say a lot about you, and not in a good way. I would suggest you do some introspection and determine why you felt unsatisfied. Perhaps, as others have suggested, you did not really want what you asked for.

[Steven_Draker]

Since some of these hires are done in secret, I think that some clients need to "vent" about the experience.

 

It looks to me the OP needs an outlet and a friend to talk to.

[MiamiLooker]

Other than writing a negative review here, how do you go about communicating a bad escort experience? The pics and description were spot on, I clearly outlined what serviced I wanted, he performed them, but I walked away without feeling satisfied or having a great time.

 

I believe you can discuss the experience here in the forum as long as you do not identify the escort (or provide info that could easily identify the escort).

[Steven_Draker]

I believe you can discuss the experience here in the forum

 

You can do that if you want to get eaten alive ...

 

http://www.bowden.info/photos/Mission_to_South_Africa/2005-08/Wild_Dogs_Eating.jpg

 

or you might consider handling this in private. There are a few well-intentioned people/clients who would lend an ear.

[jjkrkwood]

Other than writing a negative review here, how do you go about communicating a bad escort experience? The pics and description were spot on, I clearly outlined what serviced I wanted, he performed them, but I walked away without feeling satisfied or having a great time.

 

There are multiple facets and purposes of a review, which you have clearly touched on. Firstly did the party represent honestly and fulfill his duties promised which basically is "factual" info, and secondly your personal feeling about the session as a whole, how it made you feel, and would you repeat.... If you are honest in your presentation of this information, you have done your part, and then its up to the readers to process your information for THEIR purposes. Feelings are a personal thing. you may have objected to something that might be acceptable to someone else, but as long as you present the information truthfully and without prejudice, theres nothing more you can do... Expectations play a big part in the formation of the total experience, and can often destroy it IF the expectation was too high. It is better to approach these things with an open mind, although its difficult and most of us have preconceptions of what we Expect. In your current situation, the escort did NOTHING wrong but he just didnt live up to what you hoped it would be. However, if indeed you consider a repeat with this guy, some dialogue with HIM about what the issues were might remedy the next encounter ?

[BgMstr4u]

I had an experience the one described. Everything was as expected, but it wasn't quite what I had hoped. It was me. In between setting up the encounter and meeting, something happened and I was not in the best frame of mind for our experience. I suppose I could have loaded my feelings on the escort, but that didn't seem quite fair to him. So I went through with it, and it was fine. Except for me. I suppose that would have happened no matter what I was doing. It certainly was not the escort's fault, who was charming and effective. If anything, he probably sensed something and put extra skill into it. I saw him again, in a better frame of mind, and we had a great time. I apologized to him for being distracted the first time, and he said he could tell something was wrong, but didn't want to pry. He said he had left feeling a little bit of (completely undeserved) doubt about himself. I am so glad we met a second time. It was a fantastic experience, and perhaps because of the honest exchange, deeper and more personal.

 

Bottom line: if it's yourself that's the problem, be honest, take responsibility, take heart, and give the guy a second chance. It worked for me.

[seeker630]

I think BigValleyBoy & others have summed it up pretty well.

 

The important thing is for you to determine why the experience was unsatisfying - what was missing from the experience? If you can do that, perhaps you either select someone more compatible or communicate your requirements more completely at your next hire.

[AdamSmith]

Just forget it and hire another. Or hire this guy again, if you think that you want to know him and that it might go different this time, and see what circumstance brings. As noted, neither you nor he are robots. Circumstance can misfire, for good reason or for no reason on either person's part.

 

Above all, don't obsess. Remember, we pay them to leave.

 

Or not, as the case may be.

[unsub2O17]

OP, if you do post a review, you will need to be much more specific. And the escort will have a chance to respond. Then the members will be able to decide for themselves.

[jimboivyo]

Above all, don't obsess. Remember, we pay them to leave.

 

maybe you do, but speak for yourself.

[Bart]

I was just discussing this sort of thing with a gentleman today about a so-so experience I had several weeks ago. First several years ago I and one of the gentlemen commenting here had an experience as you described he returned a year so later, peturbed I did not have as good time as others had I contacted him again and explained my position. His response was very accepting and did in fact relate an issue that had come up during the experience I was unaware of. He made an adjustment and we met a couple of afterwards all to the positive, no negative review required. In fact I had a great time with him.

 

Now that does not always work, case in point the current conversation I had today. Again puzzled why a meeting did not work out. I did get some balls again and contacted the gentleman and he did explain what was part of the problem and he really did want to meet again. Okay doing fine, BUT he had to keep going "Also it was rainy and dark outside so I sort relaxed and fell asleep" for an hour and half. No he did not stop there a text later in the day informed he was hopeful I might book a room in Chicago and then maybe meet on a regular basis so I can help him move out on his own, since he is sharing a place with 3 others. Ahh no, DELETE and good bye.

 

So I think you should find a polite way of communicating your issue with the gentlemen in question.Express your concerns about the meeting and see how he responds. His response will give clearer road to travel than anything else you do.

[Michael Wayne]

need more info...........

[SteveEscort]

Other than writing a negative review here, how do you go about communicating a bad escort experience? The pics and description were spot on, I clearly outlined what serviced I wanted, he performed them, but I walked away without feeling satisfied or having a great time.

 

Without being judgemental here, the fault may lie with you and not the escort. A disappointing apppointment isn't always the fault of the escort. I have many many many appointments with guys I wouldn't wish to know in real life, some with lovely guys and quite often with blokes so hot I question why I am being paid to enjoy myself, I don't like guys to walk away disappointed but even with me, who had been doing this a long time, some will love me and some may not. I think, however that a review may not get you the answer you're looking for and may harm his work level and I don't think by reading your post that you really want to do that.