I don't advertise my rate and you can't ask me either.

[jawjateck]

I do not contact guys who won't post their hourly rate. While I rarely hire for a single hour (perhaps once or twice in 12 years), I look for that piece of data in the ad. If it is missing, I just assume there may be ala carte pricing on his menu or he feels he's worth more than his local market. True, he could be undercutting his market or have a fixed rate, but if so, why not just advertise it? I can understand not publishing numbers for extended appointments, since there are many variables that can affect the pricing, but the hourly rate gives me an upfront clue to decide whether to connect or not.

 

And I never ask an escort twice what his rate is for a proposed appointment. If his response to my question about rates does not come back with a specific answer, then my contact with him ends immediately, whether he's a newbie or an established pro. I don't have time for that BS.

[citylaw1]

Right on. A friend who works at Judith Lieber selling $7000 handbags and such reports that Trump et al. come in and invariably haggle like the devil. As they should, and are expected to.

 

What a nutcase hooker, refusing to name a price even when asked.

 

P.S. In case it needs clarifying, this is not to advocate haggling with your hooker. Making two separate points above.

 

I love the way you write Mr. Smith, and I so appreciate the directness and sensibility of RockHard.

[wnybear]

here is an old saying that I learned doing retail sales in college from my district manager: "If a customer has to ask how much then he or she cant afford it."

 

A long time retail store in my area always used the slogan, "an educated consumer is our best customer." The rich did not get that way, or stay that way by being foolish with their money. Especially those who did not come from wealthy families.

[instudiocity]

To say I was flabbergasted is an understatement. Has it become uncommon to ask the rate you're paying for a service prior to receiving the service? Obviously, I won't be hiring this charming individual, but thoughts

You didn't say whether or not you stated you wanted to hire him specifically for an appointment. If you didn't, he might have assumed you were just shopping. We don't have complete info to understand what happened. If I were emailing him for a rate, I'd be describing what I was looking for and asking, what would your rate be for that.

[instudiocity]

here is an old saying that I learned doing retail sales in college from my district manager: "If a customer has to ask how much then he or she cant afford it."

I like FAST,CHEAP, GOOD, you can only have two of the three - so if you want it good and cheap, it can't be fast. If you want it fast and good, it won't be cheap and if you want it cheap and a fast, it won't be GOOD!

[Lohengrin1979]

You didn't say whether or not you stated you wanted to hire him specifically for an appointment. If you didn't, he might have assumed you were just shopping. We don't have complete info to understand what happened. If I were emailing him for a rate, I'd be describing what I was looking for and asking, what would your rate be for that.

 

The OP asked for an incall rate and the escort responded for an insult. Even if the OP were just shopping,or the escort perceived it to be so, it doesn't excuse the classless response on the part of the escort. Would it not be more professional for the escort to simply state that he cannot help the client but thanks for the inquiry?

[Boston Guy]

Sean was young and funny a long time ago. He is no longer young and he has apparently become bitter and biting.

 

I knew him at one time. A while back, I contacted him under a different email address than I used to use. I saw his ads and curious about what he was up to and considered getting together. He didn't recognize the new email address and responded in a way that was so totally classless that I lost all interest. Consider yourself lucky.

[+ Shoreboy]

You can get some great deals at Wal-Mart if you need a coffee maker or a mixer...but obviously this escort was using it as an insult and I too agree that I would have quickly moved on to someone else.

 

99.99% of the time I skip over ads that say "ask me" when it comes to rates. However, not too long ago there was an ad for an adorable man very close to my area, which is rare, and when I emailed him and asked his rate he told me it was $300 an hour and I had to pick him up and then take him home.

 

I politely answered him and told him that was too high and since I had to traverse the Garden State Parkway, pay for gas and tolls that my maximum was $175.

 

I jokingly used a "Driving Miss Daisy" quip and he emailed me back and had no idea what I was talking about and answered me simply by saying "you're an asshole".

 

Oh well....I will stick to my rule of not looking at guys with "ask me" for their rates

[leanbtm]

here is an old saying that I learned doing retail sales in college from my district manager: "If a customer has to ask how much then he or she cant afford it."

 

That origin of that quote is commonly attributed to JP Morgan. When somoeone asked him how much his yacht (i beleive named North Star ) cost Mr. Morgan replied, "If you have to ask how much you can't afford one".

[Michael Wayne]

Rock hard. please read entire quote and then comment. I was saying that I DID NOT agree with it. that it was stupid. Read my entire post. I was saying the client should ask the rate and the escort should post his rates. oftentimes on here guys type a response before reading the whole post. I feel like most aLL OF US AGREE here on this one. good day to all....

[RockHard]

Rock hard. please read entire quote and then comment. I was saying that I DID NOT agree with it. that it was stupid.

 

I know how to read. I read the entire post before I wrote my reply. I could tell you were suggesting that the "old saying" may have little merit, but the way you presented your attributions did not convince me.

 

Nowhere in your post did you say that the "old saying" was "stupid." In fact, you began your post by suggesting that the "old saying" contributed to your education in retail sales. And even though it may "not ALWAYS" be true, you suggested that it sometimes is true.

 

I suggest you reread your post and figure out a better way to write it next time.

[maxwellissmart]

I suggest you reread your post and figure out a better way to write it next time.

 

Off topic, yet still thematically similar to the above comment—I thoroughly enjoyed the Juan Vancouver-length response from Josh Brandon, which was both epic and awesomely composed. My hat is off to you.

 

Now, on with the countdown. Number #22!

[+ FreshFluff]

It's negotiation 101 that the other guy should open his kimono (propose a price) first, and this guy may understand that on some instinctive level. But insisting that the customer name a price comes off as unprofessional and arrogant.

[instudiocity]

... There is a reason why the vast majority of wealthy people consider themselves conservative. ...

HUH? REALLY? Are you sure? Seems to me Mr. Obama was in my neighborhood recently and 150 people paid $39,600 per plate to have dinner with him under a tent on George Clooney's home tennis court.

 

It may be happening, but I haven't read of Mr. Romney having $39,600 per plate fundraisers, at least around here.

[maxwellissmart]

HUH? REALLY? Are you sure? Seems to me Mr. Obama was in my neighborhood recently and 150 people paid $39,600 per plate to have dinner with him under a tent on George Clooney's home tennis court.

 

It may be happening, but I haven't read of Mr. Romney having $39,600 per plate fundraisers, at least around here.

 

I would tend to agree with RH about being conservative—I don't know any wealthy people who aren't. And that $40K is an investment—but you know that.