Nevrous first timer needs advice

[Guest niceguy]

I am a 45 man who never had sex with a guy. I really want to hire an escort in New York City - so many of them turn me on - but my hestiation is simple - I am really nevrous. This might sound silly but I can't seem to get the courage to make the call and enjoy myself. I am a really nice guy, very professional, friendly, great sense of humor, well off and generous. I am your average 45 executive type - just a little overweight. I imagine I would have a great time and treat any escort very like gold. I booked an appointment once and canceled it at the last minute. I contacted the guy, apologized and at my insistance sent him $500 in the mail. Needless to say the escort was impressed and called me a "gentleman" which I pride myself in being. I am sure I am not the first guy to hesitate like this. Any advice? Any escorts that would be better to handle my situation? Thanks to anyone who has a kind word or two. (I even nervous about writing this!)

[Guest JustANametoPlay]

OK, there is nice, then there is something else. While I think sending the escort some cash was great, $500 was a bit much IMHO.

 

Having said that, being nervous is understandable. Treating an escort with respect is also great. I think far to many that hire treat escorts as sub human which is sad.

 

The best advice I can give you as someone who hired for the first time just over a year ago is relax. Also remember to be clear on what YOU expect from him and if he does what you like. If you like kissing make sure he kisses, if you like to see the guy release, make sure he does that. Just like clients every escort is different in what they will and won't do.

 

Yes treat the escort well, but remember YOU are the client and the session is about your happiness. There are many great escorts in NYC, and many not so great ones. I highly reccomend Rick Munroe or Erik Ross, both really sweet guys.

 

You may also want to head out to Stella's and see who is there. If you see someone you like, send him a drink. This will get him over to talk to you and you can see if you are comfortable with them.

 

It isn't easy, but well worth the effort if you find the right guy!

[Guest LOVEHANDLE27]

Honey,

 

Call the Brazilian hunk Matheus, he's reviewed here and is worth every penny you'll spend on an escort and more!

[Rick Munroe]

Excellent answer, Justaname. I guess we should call it the 3R's: Relax, Respect, and (take) Responsibility. Those really are the keys to a successful encounter. You've been a good student, Grasshopper. :*

 

By the way, it's Derek Ross, not Erik. I may pick on some of his faults at times (as a spouse is supposed to) but a lack of a big 'D' is not one of them. :9

[+ Lucky]

I think of the two nevrous first timer threads we have going, this one is the least interesting. Can we have a picture, Les?

[CT Dick]

>You may also want to head out to Stella's and see who is

>there. If you see someone you like, send him a drink. This

>will get him over to talk to you and you can see if you are

>comfortable with them.

 

Just, I agree with you 100% except on this one point. Stella's is marginal enough for an experienced client, I don't think it is appropriate for a newby. He needs someone he already knows he can trust (and these reviews do it for us all) and someone he has negotiated with before the evening.

 

One thing I would add is to tell the escort that it is your first time and ask if he is comfortable with that.

 

Dick

[Guest JustANametoPlay]

Of course it si Derek what was I tinking! Your name is easy..Rick..Dick..LOL