Announcing a final resignation from message forum...(not daddys reviews)

[JoeyBryant]

I've met some great people from here over the months I've spent here (Micheal V, Mikey, Kevin S, Mark Gordon, NateSF to name a few) but I just feel I need to move on. I'm not doing it for attention, or to get a rise. I'm doing it for me.

 

My main thing is that obviously there is a wide age disparity among myself and other members here. Most members are at different stages in life, have different things in mind than I do. So because of that, we're not going to see eye to eye on a lot of subjects. It's not about what's right or what's wrong, it's what will work for me and what I'm comfortable with and likewise for you.

 

In addition, I'm at a point in my life where I won't say I'm in a 'crisis'...but there's been so many changes, and so many things I want to change and am working to improve. It's hard to discuss these things on other forums because as an escort, people like to use that as a reason for every problem a person will ever encounter. However, why come here and discuss these things if every time I bring up a topic, someone's going to make it out as if I'm the problem or the issue and made to feel as a person who doesn't even know what I want?

 

And I remember, most of the things I mention can easily be searched out on google. Someone somewhere has said or experienced the same thing. But my downfall is I'm the type of person that when things are going awry, I come here and talk about it..and then leave off feeling even worse about the matter.

 

With that said, this is no longer my place anymore. When I sit down and think about what I'm getting from it, the benefits don't outweigh the disadvantages. I'm not getting paid for my opinion, nor am I asking to. It's not helping to change my current status. Obviously since I tend to mention controversial things at times, I don't think I entice clients to hire me more than my blog or ads. And everytime I say something that doesn't digest well with someone, I get the whole "I wouldn't want to hire you with that attitude!" As if you ever had any intentions of doing so to begin with. So why am I here?

 

I'm sure some of the things said has been good advice, but it hasn't been given to me in a way I can receive it. It comes off abrasive and I leave feeling more offended than enlightened. It's kind of hard to receive things thru this medium anyway. Something that may not be offensive in person, may come off that way here.

 

Before anyone says it, no I'm not going to create some kind of alias and post under that. I'm done. I'm moving on. Being here is not making me a better person in any way.

[jackhammer91406]

I want to preface my remarks with the caveat that I mean well in my response so if it seems hurtful in ANY way, it is not how I mean it.

 

I didn't respond to your thread about the end of a relationship and the difficulty in starting to date again. Not because I didn't have a reaction, but because I felt that anything I said would perhaps cause more pain than good. Clearly anyone going through the unsettling experience of breaking up is in a most vulnerable state and emotions are close to the surface. Like offering condolences to a friend when they have lost a loved one, I find it's sometimes hard to find the right words or even words that offer comfort.

 

I would tho, offer this advice: At this time in your life with what you are going through, it might be better to not do or say (or even blog) anything that is absolute. With emotions so frayed, and feelings so tender, leave all you options open. No telling how some time and perspective will make you feel.

 

Also, you might try to remember that it is as easy to misinterpret things others say on a message board in response to you as it is to have your statements misinterpreted by those who read them. Message centers, forums and blogs are one dimensional mediums. There is no inflection, no tone of voice, and no physical gestures which can amplify and reinforce original intent.

 

In addition to my medical and physical challenges, I am going through what appears to be a termination of a relationship, or at least a redefinition. It's painful and I hope I can take my own advice and not do or say anything that becomes too absolute. Once said, some words are hard to walk back.

 

I wish you peace and comfort in the days ahead and hope sometime you will bring your lively and opinionated self back here for some more fun.

Jack.

[gallahadesquire]

RE: The preceeding two comments: Best of luck to you both, gentlemen. I have been impressed by the thought and care that have gone into your posts.

 

Bless you.

[Lookin]

RE: The preceeding two comments: Best of luck to you both, gentlemen. I have been impressed by the thought and care that have gone into your posts.

 

Bless you.

Same here.

[Diverdan]

I "third" the motion that Jackhammer and others have put so well... physical, medical, relationship and emotional situations can make it difficult to sort out in one's own mind what is important in life, and regardless of past feelings or expressions on this site, I think we all are supportive and want what is best for each other, at least that is the way I feel. So to Joey and Jackhammer and anyone else here on the Forum who is having difficulties, please know that we wish you nothing but the best for you in the future.

DD

[robberbaron4u]

The old adage of "picking up and carrying on". is, I think, applicable to the poster's situation. In my own experience, the "pickin up" can be a hard thing to accomplish, but, once done, the "carrying on" down life's road can prove an enjoyable experience.

[Epigonos]

Joey I will sincerely miss your colorful comments and opinions. I am much more than a full generation older than you but have ALWAYS enjoyed the slight edge that has frequently accompanied your posts. I’m sorry that you are going through a difficult time right now and hope that things quickly resolve themselves. I have always regretted the distance between Denver and Southern California because I’m convinced that spending an evening with you would be great fun. Please continue to post your travel plans and if and when you are in my area we MUST spend some time together. Take care and best of everything to you.

[jjkrkwood]

I'm on the fence with this one guys. While I also wish Joey luck in his future endeavors, I think its silly and juvenile for him to pick up and leave merely because he didnt get the response he was looking for in his previous post, which said alot about him and his personality that didnt sit well with alot of people. If you are in business and value your business and clients, some things are better left "Unsaid" and Joeys commentary on "older guys" and the privilege of being with him just didnt sit well with alot of us here. So be it, kudos to the guy for his honesty, but sometimes its wise to THINK before you speak.

 

While many of his contributions have been quite interesting and valuable, most were just alot of "venting". Yes this is a venue for "venting", but it does get old, and I would think twice about hiring an escort with so many issues.

 

I have always believed if you are gonna LEAVE, just leave. I am not sure why Joey needed to write us a farewell letter, or explain his departure? People that do that are simply looking for a reaciton, so my reaction is that his Post was unnecessary. People that are looking for him surely know where to find him.

 

Farewell Joey and good luck. I hope this experience was meaningful AND educational.

[bcohen7719]

Joey is leaving because there are are a small handful of forum members who have too much to say about anything.

 

They analyze and pick apart any phrase that it uttered. Some people don't like that because they are looking for positive reinforcement.

 

I'm sure this response will also generate "smart ass analysis." Some of this analysis is actually highly intelligent, but in the end--not really helpful to anyone.

[jjkrkwood]

Joey is leaving because there are are a small handful of forum members who have too much to say about anything.

 

They analyze and pick apart any phrase that it uttered. Some people don't like that because they are looking for positive reinforcement.

 

I'm sure this response will also generate "smart ass analysis." Some of this analysis is actually highly intelligent, but in the end--not really helpful to anyone.

 

Sorry bcohen, your defense of Joey is Noble, but remember, HE put the words out there for us. How can you give positive reinforcement to hatred and disgust, which is mostly what his post was about? On the surface he made it seem like it was about "relationships", and then went on a tirade about Old guys and his belief that he felt he should be PAID to spend time with these people. Unbelieveable and unforgivable.. There was nothing to analyse, it was a factual statement of his beliefs.

 

Please remember bcohen, just because someone says something, you are NOT obligated to agree with or pander to them. Thats what public sites are about, different opinions. YES joey is more than entitled to his opinion, but that doesnt mean it will be met with open arms, especially since his statements were "obviously biting the hands that feed him"....

[bcohen7719]

JJ:

 

I agree with everything you say.

 

BC

[Guest Wetnwildbear]

Venting Hurts Renting

 

I'm on the fence with this one guys. While I also wish Joey luck in his future endeavors, I think its silly and juvenile for him to pick up and leave merely because he didnt get the response he was looking for in his previous post, which said alot about him and his personality that didnt sit well with alot of people. If you are in business and value your business and clients, some things are better left "Unsaid" and Joeys commentary on "older guys" and the privilege of being with him just didnt sit well with alot of us here. So be it, kudos to the guy for his honesty, but sometimes its wise to THINK before you speak.

 

While many of his contributions have been quite interesting and valuable, most were just alot of "venting". Yes this is a venue for "venting", but it does get old, and I would think twice about hiring an escort with so many issues. . . .

 

Farewell Joey and good luck. I hope this experience was meaningful AND educational.

 

Agree with all of the above - So . . .

 

[corndog]

... because there are are a small handful of forum members who have too much to say about anything.

 

They analyze and pick apart any phrase that it uttered.

 

bcohen, I completely agree with what you're getting at here. Unfortunately, there are also many thin-skinned posters who fixate on the negative comments and take them to be the prevailing opinion of all members. This negativity shuts down many potentially interesting conversations. In fact, it seems rare to find a post that has gone more than three pages that hasn't turned into some kind of bitch-fest that is totally unrelated to the original topic.

 

I don't know about y'all, but my mother taught me "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all."

[jjkrkwood]

I don't know about y'all, but my mother taught me "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all."

 

Silence is the Greatest injustice. So corndog, if we take your quote literally, it would mean that comments about hunger, poverty, hatred, injustice etc, which would ultimately be negative should be left unsaid ? If that were the case, there would be NO attention to or resolution of these injustices. Saying something is pivotal and often can bring about change. Of course the issues raised here often are not of the scope I mention, but they beg comment regardless.

 

Remember what the original post was. To summarize the OP who is an escort said that he hated being with old guys, was embarrassed to be seen with them, but he was Happy to take their money and be their arm-candy. i think thats a comment that incites a reaction .?

[rvwnsd]

JJ, I agree with the points you raised and will add one to the mix. One of the side effects of repeated venting in an online forum is the establishment of a pattern. If a client (or escort) wants to vet an escort (or a client) and he knows the escort's (or client's) screen name, he can find the posts pretty easily. If every post is a rant, the pattern is one of a ranter. As you mentioned, who wants to spend time with someone who rants all the time? Even if the poster is even-tempered in his non-forum life, he has portrayed himself as being angry and having many issues. I can't see that leading to a positive encounter.

 

Perhaps Daddy should put a sticky post on all the forums reading "Kudos to you for your honesty, but sometimes it is wise to THINK before you post." Of course, we would want him to credit you for the quote.

 

PS: I also agree with you regarding the announcements of leaving the message board. With a few exceptions where long-standing members stated hey had to attend to health challenges or were embarking on a new relationship, the announcements seem like a final shot of self-aggrandizement.

[bcohen7719]

Corndog means that if you have nothing to say except something that is personally hurtful, don't say it at all. This has nothing to do with commentaries about tragic or devastating topics.

 

Corndog, you are the best.

 

BC

[seeker630]

Silence is the Greatest injustice. So corndog, if we take your quote literally, it would mean that comments about hunger, poverty, hatred, injustice etc, which would ultimately be negative should be left unsaid ? If that were the case, there would be NO attention to or resolution of these injustices. Saying something is pivotal and often can bring about change. Of course the issues raised here often are not of the scope I mention, but they beg comment regardless.

 

Why would a discussion about poverty, etc. be 'negative'? I think you've twisted the meaning.

 

And, depending on the 'noise' being made, silence can sometimes be the greatest gift.

[wayout]

bcohen, I completely agree with what you're getting at here. Unfortunately, there are also many thin-skinned posters who fixate on the negative comments and take them to be the prevailing opinion of all members. This negativity shuts down many potentially interesting conversations. In fact, it seems rare to find a post that has gone more than three pages that hasn't turned into some kind of bitch-fest that is totally unrelated to the original topic.

 

I don't know about y'all, but my mother taught me "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all."

 

I don't belong to or participate in any other message boards/forums on the net so I don't know and always wonder if this forum is really any different than other anonymous boards that deals with such a wide variety of issues as is covered here. But I do know that this forum is a very important part of my life, for whatever reasons, and without overstating its importance I do feel a bit sad whenever a member doesn't get what they are looking for by participating and decide to leave, especially on bad terms. I have always thought that everyone brings something a little different to the party and while I may not always (or even frequently) agree with some members, I do believe diversity of viewpoints (and personalities) is critical to having a healthy forum. No one always makes a perfect post or doesn't make a few faux pas over time but that is what makes it so interesting. So the departure of a member is something to be lamented as a loss to the whole community because of a loss of a unique personality and perspective. This is especially true when the member is an escort as we need more of them, not less, participating to understand their side of the business better.

 

So I feel a bit saddened at the departure of Joey but wish him the best of luck. If he ever decides to come back, I for one will welcome him with open arms and won't try to make him feel bad for a decision he took that he felt was right for him at the time but later decided to reconsider.

[jjkrkwood]

Corndog means that if you have nothing to say except something that is personally hurtful, don't say it at all. This has nothing to do with commentaries about tragic or devastating topics.

 

Corndog, you are the best.

 

BC

 

bcohen, noone was being hurtful to Joey, they were merely responding to a post which basically was about THEM. If anyone is guilty of being hurtful here, its Joey, but at least we got to SEE that side of him, and in the future can act and react accordingly.

[jjkrkwood]

Why would a discussion about poverty, etc. be 'negative'? I think you've twisted the meaning.

 

And, depending on the 'noise' being made, silence can sometimes be the greatest gift.

 

Seeker, noise often brings about change. If a persons ears are sensitive to noise, they have the option of NOT participating. Right ?

 

BTW, regarding poverty, its negative by nature. I really cant see a discussion about poverty being "uplifting"... Anyway, this doesnt need more discussion, its not what the thread is about.

[bcohen7719]

bcohen, noone was being hurtful to Joey, they were merely responding to a post which basically was about THEM. In anyone is guilty of being hurtful here, its Joey, but at least we got to SEE that side of him, and in the future can act and react accordingly.

 

I'm sorry, now I don't know what you're talking about. It's too complicated.

 

BC

[jjkrkwood]

I'm sorry, now I don't know what you're talking about. It's too complicated.

 

BC

 

Perhaps before you come to a persons defense, you should aprise yourself of the facts of the issue ? It might give you better insight ?

[corndog]

That, jjk, is exactly what my mother was talking about.

[orbital sander]

I am curious as to why anyone would announce their departure from this forum. It seems odd (unless they are terminally ill).

 

If you are done, just go as so many folks have done and good luck to you.

 

I guess there is some weak "perceived" value in getting in the last word, but overall I think that those who have to "announce" their departure are just hoping for some form of attention.

Whether it be "please say it ain't true" or "don't let the door hit you in the ass", I think those who need this attention will most often return in one form or another.

 

I wonder how long it will be before the "Mocha" incarnation returns?

[+ glutes]

we have heard it all before Joey...

 

From the Right Reverend Mikey Nola:

 

http://www.companyofmen.org/showthread.php?83766-Goodbye-to-this-forum!

 

Heard it all before

you know you messed up you got to know you messed up

You got to go now say what you want

But your lies ain't working now look who's hurting now

See I had to shut you down (I had to shut you down)

Played the fool before

I done change the locks on the door, yes i did and you ain't welcome no more

But your lies ain't working now look who's hurting now

See I had to shut you down (I had to shut you down)

 

See I heard it all before

 

Sunshine Anderson