"Why Survive?" - Gay Aging

[bcohen7719]

In a separate thread, Charlie brings up the painful subject of (gay) aging and its special stresses/fears.

 

The new documentary film "Gen Silent" addresses some of these. A trailer is below.

 

I always wondered how many middle age or older forum members

felt that engaging with the escort world helped them cope with aging,

or how complicated that question might be. Would anyone care

to share their feelings about this?

 

Thanks, guys!

 

BC

 

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[jjkrkwood]

I think interaction of ANY sort helps cope with Aging. I am not sure being specific to Escorts has any special power. Its just the road the person chooses to take for various OTHER reasons.

 

I would think that the cost of HIRING in old age would make it prohibitive for most seniors who may no longer have the disposable income they once did. Others like many on THIS site have no problem with money, even in retirement, so they would be the target audience for this question, however NOT representative of the masses.

[+ Charlie]

I actually engaged much more with escorts when I was younger. Somehow having sex with guys who could be my children or grandchildren isn't very appealing to me.

[shadowcatzxxx]

That can be a problem. I'm not into twinks for the same reason. I've set up sessions with a couple of 20 year-olds who, when they showed up, looked exactly like their pictures, or even better, but in person (as opposed to in pictures) they seemed more like kids to me. One of them fielded a call from his mother just after he entered my room. They were speaking in Spanish but I could understand it, and it totally blew the scene for me. Not into grandchildren at all! I gave him his full fee (No misrepresentation or failure to perform on his part), chatted with him for a while, and said thanks and goodbye.

That's why I've set a general rule for absolute minimum age around 25, and usually don't go younger than late 20's ... 30 year-olds look prime to me now. Of course, there are some 22 year olds who look much more masculine/mature than their age, and for them I would consider making an exception.

[adriano46]

When I was a decade or so younger and 40 pounds lights and more muscular, I did not mine escorts in the early 20's -- in fact I enjoyed them immensely, but after turning 55, all of a sudden my taste in escorts changed (or expanded??) and now while I can appreciate a young hot guy on the street or in a gym or at the beach, my preference when I hire is for guys in their very late 20's (in real years) or for the more elusive and harder to find men in their 30's to 50's who escort. They do exist, and in every case, I find the hours shared with them much more fulfilling and enriching (both emotionally and sexually).

[Epigonos]

I really fail to see the connection between aging and hiring escorts.

 

I’m 71 and I’m most definitely aging. Nearly every day it pisses me off that many of the things I was able to do easily, some years ago, I can’t do at all today or if I can they are one hell of a lot more difficult. All of my contemporary aged friends and family members find themselves in the exact same boat. We compare notes and most often laugh about the entire fucked up aging process. Whoever called these years the golden ones was an absolute dumb fuck.

 

Yet at 71 I still find myself hiring escorts. I have never been into twinks. I have always preferred MEN thus I have “usually” hired “mature” escorts. After hiring my first few guys I came to realize a number an important facts. I learned that experienced escorts have seen it all. They have spent time with clients who look far worse than I do so I gave up worrying about my appearance a long time ago. For my age I look just fine. I also learned that by respecting the escorts I hire and treating them like the valuable human being I believe they are goes a very long way toward creating a positive atmosphere and an outstanding experience. I always share a meal with the escorts I hire and book sufficient time after the meal to relax and have fun. Only once in the ten years I have been hiring has an escort cut off communication when I gave him my age.

 

 

I will continue to hire escorts as long as I have fun doing so. The instant it is no longer fun I will stop but right now I am still enjoying the entire process.

[Phil_musc]

Epigonos, you never cease to inspire me. You are one helluva man as far as I can tell. Great attitude, great perspective. Of course, it helps that I share some of your ideas - I too prefer "mature" escorts. I'm not hiring for conversation, but I'd like to know that my guy has been around at least a little bit and can talk about something other than recent dance trends, fashions, or some such trendy crap that I have no interest in whatsoever. There is something weird in my book about hiring someone who is young enough to be my son (we don't have children at an early age in my family) or - god forbid, grandson.