Is he serious ???

[seeker630]

But passion, like faith, is not an exercise in rationality. Even with the brain being the largest sex organ, rationality somehow doesn't factor in the equation.

 

That was my point, Phil. But when passion wanes, rationality sometimes contradicts it.

[leigh.bess.toad]

JJ, I can't believe it but were we actually separated at birth? My long-lost twin?! Tell me, by any chance, was your mother named Rosemary?

 

Rosemary's Baby? Yeah, that explains a WHOLE lot.

 

[leigh.bess.toad]

Just be careful JJ and don't become Mike.

 

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/12/07/investment-manager-embarrassing-email_n_1135279.html?ref=mostpopular

[Guest Spanky]

JJ - well, you met the guy at a sex club, so his hormones were raging at the time and he wanted to get his rocks off. He meets you, you have what was apparently mind-blowingly good sex, and he thinks "gee, this would be a great guy to hang out with." So then he goes home. So now he's sitting on his couch catching up on the latest Survivor episode and eating his pesto chicken salad (or grilled tofu, I don't know), his rocks have been gotten off, his urgency for sex has abated, and with it his desire for something more has floated merrily down the stream. So he looks at your digits/email and his interest in an LTR morphs into "yeah, great sex...next time I want to get off I'm definitely gonna call this hunk of burning love stud puppy." So in about two weeks, when his time of the month rolls around, be prepared for an onslaught of phone calls and emails wanting to hook - which he will want to happen at the same sex club.

 

If it doesn't happen this way, I'll cover your next escort session.

[jjkrkwood]

JJ - well, you met the guy at a sex club, so his hormones were raging at the time and he wanted to get his rocks off. He meets you, you have what was apparently mind-blowingly good sex, and he thinks "gee, this would be a great guy to hang out with." So then he goes home. So now he's sitting on his couch catching up on the latest Survivor episode and eating his pesto chicken salad (or grilled tofu, I don't know), his rocks have been gotten off, his urgency for sex has abated, and with it his desire for something more has floated merrily down the stream. So he looks at your digits/email and his interest in an LTR morphs into "yeah, great sex...next time I want to get off I'm definitely gonna call this hunk of burning love stud puppy." So in about two weeks, when his time of the month rolls around, be prepared for an onslaught of phone calls and emails wanting to hook - which he will want to happen at the same sex club.

 

If it doesn't happen this way, I'll cover your next escort session.

 

You are Absolutely right Spanky. But JJ doesnt play like that, and its easy for me to say NO !!!! I had no expectations at the beginning, then got my hopes up after being sweet talked, but quickly came back down to reality when I told MYSELF exactly what you just told me.... For now, ill just stick with the guy I am seeing, and in between, back to the sex club... LOL

[Guest Spanky]

When he calls just tell him - this homey doesn't roll like that. Well, I guess in your case it would be this homo doesn't roll like that.

[JackTwist]

JJ,

Go with your gut feeling. Experience has proven to me that my gut instincts about people are pretty damn accurate--not always so, but usually. You obviously are having red-flags about this guy, as I would have too if he says he's relationship-oriented, but still hasn't provided you his phone number. Trust your own intuition on this one and be careful. Good luck to you!

[Phil_musc]

The guys are giving you good advice, JJ. Meanwhile, Spanky, that's a very generous offer you made to JJ. Tell me, if I come up with some sort of bullshit scenario with a lot of unanswered questions and hopeful sounding phrases, might you spring for my next escort session?! As someone earlier on said, "'tis the season," (and god knows, it would certainly make me jolly)

[+ purplekow]

JJ why ask us? Ask him. You have his e mail. Usually you are blunter than Bob Marley's special cigarettes, hard to fathom why you not be that way here. My guess about this is: the sex was good, he had a little fantasy moment with pictures of wedded bliss and hot sex, he asked for the digits and then snapped back.

[jjkrkwood]

JJ why ask us? Ask him. You have his e mail. Usually you are blunter than Bob Marley's special cigarettes, hard to fathom why you not be that way here. My guess about this is: the sex was good, he had a little fantasy moment with pictures of wedded bliss and hot sex, he asked for the digits and then snapped back.

 

You are right, Case Closed !

[jgoo]

Any new developments after a week to report JJ? Did you take the direct approach as many of us suggested and ask for his digits? Still in email contact? Is the budding romance at an end or still being nurtured with hopes of a full bloom in spring (or sooner)?

[jjkrkwood]

Any new developments after a week to report JJ? Did you take the direct approach as many of us suggested and ask for his digits? Still in email contact? Is the budding romance at an end or still being nurtured with hopes of a full bloom in spring (or sooner)?

 

It is still existing via email. No phone # given. He is being the agressive one contacting ME, but he's not able to get together because he's busy for the holidays. (good, I dont have to give him a gift) I am concentrating on this other guy I have been seeing for months, but there are issues there too.... So, I guess life is Normal ? lolololol

[+ Gar1eth]

Sigh at least you have a lot of options. I have one guy who seems to like me, but he is 1600 miles away and in a relationship he says is open on both sides- but which he has to be careful to keep me away from hubby. I'm wondering if he thinks they are open and the partner doesn't. Or if the partner said- you can do what you want as long as you don't rub my nose in it.

 

Then I have met a guy on Grindr- at 1st he thought I was moving too fast. We've gone out a few times and he reconsidered. He's a really nice guy- but more effeminate than I like. It's a failing of mine- especially since I'm not the most masculine guy in the world. But this guy on Grindr only occurred after I tried chatting with literally over a 100 guys. He was one of the only ones to respond. I've pretty much given up on bath houses as out of probably 15 or more visits over the space of 3 years- I have hooked up only 4 times. The rest of the time it's been like I'm kryptonite and everyone else is from krypton. I admit I haven't aged well. Unfortunately I doubt anything will change. I have just never been strong willed enough to make a lasting change. Good resolutions are carried out for a few days- but never in the long run. In general I don't make resolutions because I never keep them.

 

So I envy you guys with choices.

 

Gman

[+ azdr0710]

keep going with the email and see how it goes....at least HE's contacting YOU, you say....when he wants to do something more, he'll say so....after all, you guys met in a sex club....he's probably being very discreet for his own privacy

[+ Axiom2001]

Afterwards, he says he likes you and would like to exchange info before he leaves. You agree and eagerly write your name a phone #...

 

Apparently, he was merely goin' through the motions or felt obligated to say and to act as he did on your first meeting. If I were you, I'd forget about this dude unless he follows through and makes the next move! From this point onward, just "bask in the glows and the memory" of this man when you were with him in your sexual liaison!

 

He hands you a slip of paper with his email address. Several days pass with no contact so you figure OK, ill be the one to make the first contact. You email him and he replies that he was just gonna contact you since he was thinking about since that first nite.

 

Several emails back and forth over the next few days, but still no phone # offer from him.....

 

The question is: what do you guys think the deal is with this guy? IS HE SERIOUS, or just looking to be an online player? PS, he has never yet CALLED my number....

[jjkrkwood]

Afterwards, he says he likes you and would like to exchange info before he leaves. You agree and eagerly write your name a phone #...

 

Apparently, he was merely goin' through the motions or felt obligated to say and to act as he did on your first meeting. If I were you, I'd forget about this dude unless he follows through and makes the next move! From this point onward, just "bask in the glows and the memory" of this man when you were with him in your sexual liaison!

 

He hands you a slip of paper with his email address. Several days pass with no contact so you figure OK, ill be the one to make the first contact. You email him and he replies that he was just gonna contact you since he was thinking about since that first nite.

 

Several emails back and forth over the next few days, but still no phone # offer from him.....

 

The question is: what do you guys think the deal is with this guy? IS HE SERIOUS, or just looking to be an online player? PS, he has never yet CALLED my number....

 

I am in TOTAL agrrement with you AX. In my book, he's a player. When I go to these clubs, I NEVER expect to meet anyone who wants to exchange numbers and was shocked when he asked to exchange INFO... And as he has been rather persistent via email, I thought MAYBE !

But I have more or less written this one off now...