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So here's a question....

 

have you ever had the experience of somebody you hired or otherwise tell you either subtly or not-so-subtly that "You are not gay?" for one of a myriad of reasons?

 

I had that happen once or twice and wondered how people handled it.

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So here's a question....

 

have you ever had the experience of somebody you hired or otherwise tell you either subtly or not-so-subtly that "You are not gay?" I had that happen once or twice and wondered how people handled it.

 

Did he tell you that while his dick was in your mouth or ass ? Just wondering......

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I have the opposite issue. Several Escorts have tod me that I was clearly gay when I think of myself as very straight acting etc. have lived in a straight world my whole long ife and as somewhat surprised that these 2 guys would view me as gay....Shows you 2 things....How we perceive ourselves is just that, a perception...and secondly how labels don't really paint a very full picture....

 

I woul love to be seen as gay in the gay world which I visit from time to time but wuld be equally pleased to be seen as straight in the straight world I inhabit.....a victim of the time I grew up in and the experiences which make up my life...

 

Thanks for the interesting posts you bring to the forum an I appologize in advance if I've screwed up this post for you by reversing the observation....

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Iv had it happen a few times. Iv met females as friends then mention being gay and they say no way. had 2 males say it. these people where platonic friends not dates. I had a friend once say he was going to take away my gay card. He actually said it a few times

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u didnt

 

You didn't screw up the posting at all. This is forum where everybody can share and exchange ideas. It's always great to hear from other people and learn their points of view as well.

Gcursor

 

I have the opposite issue. Several Escorts have tod me that I was clearly gay when I think of myself as very straight acting etc. have lived in a straight world my whole long ife and as somewhat surprised that these 2 guys would view me as gay....Shows you 2 things....How we perceive ourselves is just that, a perception...and secondly how labels don't really paint a very full picture....

 

I woul love to be seen as gay in the gay world which I visit from time to time but wuld be equally pleased to be seen as straight in the straight world I inhabit.....a victim of the time I grew up in and the experiences which make up my life...

 

Thanks for the interesting posts you bring to the forum an I appologize in advance if I've screwed up this post for you by reversing the observation....

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There is NEVER any doubt that I am gay, and it really never comes up with escorts during a session. My money is green and thats all that matters. Also, it is often said that we HEAR what we want to hear.... Something to ponder.....

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We use to have this gay club in Athens near uga. With it being near uga allot of str8 females would go there and take their bfs to the drag shows on sat night. First time I went one of the drag performers asked if I was there with my girlfriend or if I was friends with one of the gay guys there. I never really cared.

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I'm Not Sure

 

I have the opposite issue. Several Escorts have tod me that I was clearly gay when I think of myself as very straight acting etc. have lived in a straight world my whole long ife and as somewhat surprised that these 2 guys would view me as gay....Shows you 2 things....How we perceive ourselves is just that, a perception...and secondly how labels don't really paint a very full picture....

 

I woul love to be seen as gay in the gay world which I visit from time to time but wuld be equally pleased to be seen as straight in the straight world I inhabit.....a victim of the time I grew up in and the experiences which make up my life...

 

Thanks for the interesting posts you bring to the forum an I appologize in advance if I've screwed up this post for you by reversing the observation....

 

Ok I'm not sure. My situation is I am closeted. But my entire family knows I've never had a girlfriend or really dated-- so they must know. I have a mainly e-mail penpal whom I have met in person several times who says it is obvious. On the other hand, I have recently made the reacquaintance of a classmate of mine from high school. Except for a brief meeting at a high school reunion, I had not seen him in 30 years. 'George' is gay but wasn't out in high school. George and I have met several times over the last 3 years, but don't see each other frequently. My penpal friend said it would be obvious to George that I was gay--I am not sure whether Penpal thinks this because I 'act ' gay and have it written all over my face, or whether he only thinks it's obvious from my non dating history. But I recently emailed George, and did the Big Reveal!! He said he had no idea. He had realized that I didn't talk much about past /current'relationships', but he just thought I was private.

 

Gman

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IMO a mother always knows regardless of a persons demeanor. Just a motherly instinct. They may not accept it or will be in denial but I think they know

 

I'm not sure I agree with that Joseph. The fact that I'm still breathing makes me certain my mother never suspected. Because if she did, I sincerely doubt I'd still be on this lovely journey called life.

 

As for gcursor's original question, I've never had it happen. Either someone assume I'm gay when I was in my straight world or someone believing I was straight now in my gay life. I guess I'm just too non-descript to create much of an impression either way.

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I'm not sure I agree with that Joseph. The fact that I'm still breathing makes me certain my mother never suspected. Because if she did, I sincerely doubt I'd still be on this lovely journey called life.

 

As for gcursor's original question, I've never had it happen. Either someone assume I'm gay when I was in my straight world or someone believing I was straight now in my gay life. I guess I'm just too non-descript to create much of an impression either way.

 

Lee, you are many wonderful things.. but "non-descript" is not one of them!! :)

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If you or I or both of us are in a "gay bar" or a "gay venue"----meaning a male strip club, gay beach, etc. etc. it would be fairly obvious that we are either gay or at least gay-friendly, gay-curious.

In straight venues or in everyday life---meaning work, restaurants, beaches, waterparks, etc. etc. most people probably don't really think about whether the people they are encountering are gay or straight, unless something obviously gives your sexual preference away---two women holding hands, kissing; two men who are behaving in a way which draws attention to themselves, and it could be innocent but might be interpreted as sexual.

All that in introduction to what I am going to say: I think whether we are gay or straight, we would like to be seen as what we project: if you are a closeted gay male, surviving in the straight world---you want to be seen as straight. If you are living in a gay-dominated area of a large city you want to be taken and seen as gay.

It's taken me a long life time to STOP worrying about what others think of my appearance and whether I'm this or that, but I am almost there, and it's a great place. If an escort tells me I don't "act gay" fine---he could be saying that because he thinks that's what I want to hear. If an old high school pal says "it's obvious you are gay" that's fine---doesn't prove a thing that I didn't already know. Go to the head of the class dufus, you get a "recognition medal." Put it where the sun doesn't shine.

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