Do you wish you were straight?

[Leap Year]

After reading the "gay for pay" thread, I got to thinking... I am a gay guy who loves straight guys. I don't know why, nor do I care why... I just do. In thinking about this, I started thinking, "do I wish I were straight"? The answer is "yes". I know and accept that I am gay, but I do wish I were straight.

 

I know this is controversial, but being truthful, I have always wished I were straight. It is not because I was teased or bullied as a kid, I wasn't. I had a great childhood. I guess, when I think about it, I wish I had the whole straight package, wife, kids, soccer games, house with the white picket fence.

 

So, are there others like me? Do you wish you were straight, or are you totally content with being gay? Please don't make this judgmental. I think everyone should feel comfortable with who and what they are, but that doesn't mean we can't wish we were something else. Hell, I wish I were a billionaire too (a little plug for Travie McCoy!). So, please keep the discussion civil.

 

Thanks

[Guest greatness]

Sometimes I think it would be easier for me if I were a straight woman. I always wanted to be a stay home mom and home maker. I love making breakfast for my loved ones leaving for work and school, taking care of my children and etc.. I love this scene in Pretty Woman where Richard Gere surprises Julia Roberts with a beautiful necklace and takes her to an opera. I am happy as being gay and who I am, however. I think happiness comes when we make the best out of what is given. At least I can dream.. Maybe that's why there are so many novels and movies...

[mmk123]

HELL NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

I am very happy being gay. Yes, it was hard growing up with different feelings than what everyone else had and it took awhile to come out but I truly would not trade being gay for anything. I am very happy with my life and lifestyle and if reincarnation exists, I better come back as a gay man in my next life.

[Guest Merlin]

I suspect most gays go through a period, when they are young, that they wish they were straight. There are definite disadvantages to being gay in ours or probably any other society. But eventually it becomes so much a part of your nature that you probably would not change if you had the chance. You reach an age were you would not attract beautiful young females anyway, so what would the purpose be? Who wants to become attracted to middle aged women?

[Guest TBinCHI]

I "wished" that I was straight for 45 years and thus lived the "straight" life. Now that I have accepted that I am gay I am happier than I have ever been. I have no desire to be anything other than who and what I am and wish only to be the best man that I can be to my friends, my family, and my community!

[Guest Spanker01]

No I do not want to change at this stage of my life. I am a gay man with a fetish, and while it gets lonely at times, overall I like the way I am. Most people assume I'm straight visa vis the way I present myself, so I can socialize in both worlds, and have.

[leigh.bess.toad]

I "wished" that I was straight for 45 years and thus lived the "straight" life. Now that I have accepted that I am gay I am happier than I have ever been. I have no desire to be anything other than who and what I am and wish only to be the best man that I can be to my friends, my family, and my community!

 

Perfectly said TBinCHI.

[josephga]

I wished it allot of times. I like children if I was str8 i could have married and had kids. Its more difficult for a gay male too get kids unless your wealthy or a celb. also i think women treat men better than men do. not always but more often

[KMEM]

Who doesn't wish they were something else at one time or another? I wish I were young again. I wish I were skinny again. I, like many others, wish I were many things I once was or would like to be. Who isn't lonely at some time or another? Being straight and having children, a wife, etc. is likely something we all have wished for at least once in a while but do you want a mortgage, paying a lot of money for private schooling, dealing with a "wife" who wants so many things you do not, etc., etc.? Of course, SO's of any description might be the same pain in the butt.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[dfw2sfo]

No

 

I would not rather be straight. In some ways it's the best of both worlds. I can enjoy the (predominately straight) world as an out gay man but also enjoy places that cater mainly to gay men. Fewer straight guys do the reverse. Plus, it's relieved me of any expectation of having children. My (straight) sister's home life is spent largely taking care of four children with a rare night for herself. Not envious at all.

[+ Charlie]

Well said, KMEM. And frankly, there are many other things I'd have as higher priority wishes than being straight.

[ChiTown]

"Perfectly said'

 

I "wished" that I was straight for 45 years and thus lived the "straight" life. Now that I have accepted that I am gay I am happier than I have ever been. I have no desire to be anything other than who and what I am and wish only to be the best man that I can be to my friends, my family, and my community!

 

Thanks TB . . . As a gay married man with kids, I totally agree with Lee's post - "perfectly said". Its' not easy, but I'm working on it. I hope someday to be totally out and "be the best man that I can be to my friends, my family, and my community!"

[+ Gar1eth]

I don't want to not be me-- on the other hand, yes I'd like to be straight-- very much so. Of course knowing me, I'd probably ruin being straight much the same way I'm ruining being gay.

 

Gman

[Epigonos]

I have never been a pie in the sky type of person. To say I’m a realist is the understatement of understatements. When I was young there were time when I didn’t understand why my sexual interests and desires were different than those of most other people but I muddled along. As I grew older and came to understand myself better and what being gay meant I made certain life style compromises and built myself a happy and a fulfilling life. Honestly I love being what I am right now. Meeting many of the guys on this site has been a wonderful, joyous, and enlightening experience. It is exhilarating to sit around with somebody and openly talk about how much we enjoy our current life style. I am extremely fortunate at 70 years of age to be able to say that if I had my life to live over again I would do the same things all over again with only a few VERY minor changes. Being a 70 year old cock sucking w---emonger is just plain fun.

[NYTomcat]

I "wished" that I was straight for 45 years and thus lived the "straight" life. Now that I have accepted that I am gay I am happier than I have ever been. I have no desire to be anything other than who and what I am and wish only to be the best man that I can be to my friends, my family, and my community!

 

Amen and a hallelujah. Never want to go back

 

But I love being a father. Had not done that first. I most definately would have had regrets and would have been searching for adoption or longing to be str8. My kids while a time money and emotional sponge are the greatest gift I've ever been given. And have made me the man I am. Its hard to imagine what I would be like if I had not learned that caring for others is so much more important and fulfilling than caring just for yourself. Some people find that on their own. I didn't. I needed kids to teach me that lesson.

[Guest greatness]

oh my

 

Tom you sound so sexy~~~ I love guys who love kids~~~ You are a wonderful father~~~

 

Amen and a hallelujah. Never want to go back

 

But I love being a father. Had not done that first. I most definately would have had regrets and would have been searching for adoption or longing to be str8. My kids while a time money and emotional sponge are the greatest gift I've ever been given. And have made me the man I am. Its hard to imagine what I would be like if I had not learned that caring for others is so much more important and fulfilling than caring just for yourself. Some people find that on their own. I didn't. I needed kids to teach me that lesson.

[ChiTown]

Amen and a hallelujah

 

Amen and a hallelujah. Never want to go back

 

But I love being a father. Had not done that first. I most definately would have had regrets and would have been searching for adoption or longing to be str8. My kids while a time money and emotional sponge are the greatest gift I've ever been given. And have made me the man I am. Its hard to imagine what I would be like if I had not learned that caring for others is so much more important and fulfilling than caring just for yourself. Some people find that on their own. I didn't. I needed kids to teach me that lesson.

 

Tom, I can't imagine my life without having the amazing kids that I have either. You're a good man and I'm sure a great father. Thanks

[+ sf westcoaster]

TBinChi has expressed my sentinments exactly. I don't regret having live a "straight" life for many years, for without that I would not have the wonderful children and grandchildren that I have. However, now living as and enjoying life as a gay man, I could not be happier.

[NYTomcat]

Truly I often feel my life twice blessed. I may have gone str8 for the wrong reasons and from pain. But I leave with wonderful children and a great experience. And now I am very excited about discovering me as a gay man.

 

But I guess to answer the o.p. question. I wished it so hard I made it happen. But like all fantasies it can't last and sheer will was not enough to overcome nature. And now that I accept who I am. I could never and would never want to look back.

[doitb4ugo]

Being as submissive as I am in my life, I have never wanted to change much about me....in my dreams, I want the world to change around me to accomodate me as I am....It does not occur to me that I can be different than I am...Oh, I can change behavior which is a good thing but the "me" needs to remain "me"....

[Guest greatness]

sf westcoaster, you seem to have everything.. You are so blessed~~~

 

TBinChi has expressed my sentinments exactly. I don't regret having live a "straight" life for many years, for without that I would not have the wonderful children and grandchildren that I have. However, now living as and enjoying life as a gay man, I could not be happier.

[josephga]

Sometimes I think it would be easier for me if I were a straight woman. I always wanted to be a stay home mom and home maker. I love making breakfast for my loved ones leaving for work and school, taking care of my children and etc.

 

I like doing that too, cooking cleaning keeping a house up, dinner on the table when the guy comes home.

[Guest greatness]

Oh my Joe you are so romantic~~~

[Rick Munroe]

I wish I had the whole straight package, wife, kids, soccer games, house with the white picket fence.

 

You can have all of that with a man!

[GoodFella69]

Just As I Am.

 

My personal struggle to accept myself has helped shape me into a more caring and compassionate person with a perspective on the world I could not otherwise have. It has brought me opportunities and friendships that I could not have known about or been prepared for. I love my two teen-age sons and they accept and unconditionally love me. I now am truly secure in the man I've become, and I thank God for making me gay. I don’t ever want to be anything other than who I am today.

 

Goodfella