Why do some escorts decide to do bareback?

[Guest Merlin]

I agree with rosstheboss. While you should assume that everyone is positive and practice safer sex, accidents can happen. The condoms can break, cum can splash or get transferred by hand etc.

If you want to reduce the risk further, avoid sex with those whom you know or suspect many be positive. Sometimes you do know, as some escorts advertise that they are positive or with code words: sometimes safe, anything goes, few limits and similar phrases. In signing for Rentboy, they are confronted with the choice of always safe, sometimes safe, never safe, or they can skip the question. Clients are entitled to draw an inference from the failure to indicate "always safe".

No one has suggested that you can rely on "always safe" and practice unsafe sex. Of course not. But you can choose to rely on the escorts refusal to say he is safe, by avoiding him. It is quite logical.

[josephga]

I agree with steven i think you should assume everyone is hiv + I don't think the term always safe in a escort ad truly means always. my definition of always safe is a condom for anal 100% of the time regardless of the circumstances. I think always safe in a escort ads means condoms always with the clients. who's to say they arn't fucking the bf of 10 years back home bb. who's to say they arn't doing bb porn. they could be going to bb partys a few times a year and still put always safe in their ads.

[uwsman2]

Always play safe, regardless with whom you are having sex. That's the only way to be sure. An escort can honestly think he is negative and advertise that way, but actually be positive, even if recently tested.

[corndog]

I agree that we should always assume that everyone is HIV+, however, I still prefer men who take safe sex seriously, as I do. I want to have confidence that the person I'm having sex with is equally committed to keeping it safe, so if a condom slips off, breaks or is otherwise compromised, it won't be my sole responsibility to monitor the situation. When someone advertises "sometimes safe," I'm going to assume that if the condom slips off or breaks, they might keep going.

[uwsman2]

Good point. It is undoubtedly a good idea to have a clear understanding between escort and client that under no circumstances does client consent to being exposed to HIV by escort, even accidentally.

[Brian Barnes]

I am always surprised when I receive a request to bareback from a client. I insist on safe-play every time; it is just common sense in our business. I always try to explain, in a nice way, that I would not have been in this business for the few years that I have, if I were to make a habit of bare-backing. If I were to become HIV+, I would leave the business immediately. But, that is just my way of thinking.

I have had potential clients offer more money for the bareback experience, but I had to turn them down.

Yes, condoms suck and I wish we didn't have to use them, but isn't the peace of mind worth it?

I do not understand why two men who are strangers and spending sexual time together would be willing to take the risk of not using condoms. Lust? Drugs? Alcohol? Lack of inhibition?

Condoms are very, very effective.

In response to lasvegasguy4twink: female condoms can be a good alternative if you want to top, but are not good with wearing a condom. But, whomever is bottoming for you will need to know how to insert it properly and the sensation will be a little different for you, as you will still have the sensation of rubber around your cock, though the condom will be inside of your partner and not wrapped around your cock.

[nycguy]

A thread about escorts and barebacking appears every so often. Barebacking is everywhere and is not going away. Yes, many “safe only” escorts bareback and let the client make the decision to suit up or go raw. Yes, many “safe only” escorts have personal profiles on sites looking to give or take loads. Sex is a powerful force that consumes us. It can take us to places outside of ourselves. It is the ultimate interaction. It is the most powerful “drug” ever. There are escorts who are completely out as bareback escorts who are criticized for being “irresponsible”. Why? I feel there are clients who want the seal of negativity stamped on the escorts hot bubble butt or large throbbing cock. They can be the pigs they want to be and slurp down on cock until they get the massive loads spurting in their mouths. But they are “responsible” because they’re not taking up their asses. I am negative and I try ever so hard to play safe. There have been a very few times over many years when I could not resist – my tongue jammed deep in a hot hole, opening it up, until neither could resist my plunging right in and shooting a load deep in him. It has happened just a few times, but it has happened. Let’s be honest with ourselves. Let’s not criticize where sex takes us. Sex transports all of us. For some, it only takes us to the “holier than thou”, “safe” places. For others, it takes us to a much deeper level. Cock and cum are powerful forces and we all have different levels and deep needs of giving and taking them. Play the way you want to play but recognize that other guys do not come with a guarantee of safety or negativity that lets you go where you want to go while attacking others for pursuing the needs and cravings they have that might be different than yours.

[jimboivyo]

nyc, it's not that simple. What you describe sounds more personal. When you're dealing with an escort, especially an escort who says they're negative, you're putting your trust into him. This is a business. Selling sex also means that you should be selling a clean, healthy body and if that's not the case, be up front and honest about it. There ar e many who aren't. It's a damned shame that they continue the charade.

[nycguy]

nyc, it's not that simple. What you describe sounds more personal. When you're dealing with an escort, especially an escort who says they're negative, you're putting your trust into him. This is a business. Selling sex also means that you should be selling a clean, healthy body and if that's not the case, be up front and honest about it. There ar e many who aren't. It's a damned shame that they continue the charade.

 

Actually, I did not say anything about escorts who say they are negative when they are not. I suppose that is another discussion entirely. And how many clients are continuing the "charade" that you speak of? If you hire an escort, meet someone on-line or in a bar, you cannot rely on honesty. You can argue that it should be that way but it isn't.