old, fat, and balding?

[+ newatthis]

In the thread on older clients, PK wrote

I think that escorts should assume that new clients are old fat and bald and the client should only describe himself if he is not. Let's face it, there are lots of different clients, hiring for lots of different reasons, but old bald and fat is probably the group you would profile if you were a Jersey cop looking to find an escort's client.

which got me to wondering what percentage of the time that Jersey cop would be correct. Any escorts out there willing to hazard a guess as to what percentage of their clients fit that description? (If we were doing a scientific survey, we'd have to define our terms, but that would lead this thread somewhere I don't want to go.)

[SteveStacks]

Not so much

 

I tend to notice (and be turned on by) things like a person's sense of humor, the way they speak and their way of viewing the world, the way they treat myself (and other people - like waiters or cabbies) and random things like they way they sit, walk or hold their head in a certain way. So maybe I'm not a good representative to ask since I tend to get a bit distracted from the physical by other things, and I can only speak entirely for myself, but in my experience clients run the gamut in age, body type, race and even gender. I've got regulars from their early twenties to their seventies, and all up and down the range of weight and hirsuteness.

[+ purplekow]

In the thread on older clients, PK wrote which got me to wondering what percentage of the time that Jersey cop would be correct. Any escorts out there willing to hazard a guess as to what percentage of their clients fit that description? (If we were doing a scientific survey, we'd have to define our terms, but that would lead this thread somewhere I don't want to go.)

Just to be clear, this response was a glib response to the post prior to it in which that poster said he has no problem describing himself as old, fat and balding. I have used that same set of adjectives in many posts so it would save me time if escorts would just assume that to be the case. My statement about profiling, particularly here in Jersey, the crossroads of the east, does pertain. I would bet that a majority of the clients are at least one out of the three. But as one who is three for three, I would like to add a fourth, that is: Sexy as hell. lol.

[Juan Vancouver]

I find this kind of funny...

 

This question is still trying to make the assumption that I meet someone and write "Old, fat and ugly" in my notebook. Now, it is not that I refuse to play with those terms or that I am afraid of showing "reality" or that I have to convince prospective clients that I am the Phallai Lama. (The Dalai Lama of Phallus) If I cannot answer your question in the terms you ask is because I don't see people -nor my profession, in those terms. That's why I really celebrate Steve's answer.

 

Sincerely I am a little bored and tired of the old "Oh, I am a humble service provider and I am here to stand the horrid challenges my profession poses and make sacrifices because I am good and I only think of my client's wellness."

 

Well, That's not me.

 

I am selfish.

 

If I do this profession is because I love it. Because I have tons of fun, because I meet tons of fun, hot, interesting, sexy, appreciative people and because I always wanted to be an escort ever since I found out about the profession. (Six years old.)

 

My very good friend Kevin and I are starting to do duos again, and sometimes he calls me and says: "Do you remember John Doe, the one with the electric blue eyes and huge hands? We met him at so and so place and he has perfectly round white ass."

 

I, more often than not know exactly who he is talking about, because we had the chance to be with that gorgeous man with the electric blue eyes... and so on.

 

It is possible that if we showed this guy's picture on the internet and asked people to describe him we could get an entirely different angle on exactly the same person. Maybe John is very fat, or maybe he is 75, or maybe he is balding, or maybe he is in a wheelchair, or.... blah blah, blah. But the reason for which my profession is so fulfilling is because I have learnt to thoroughly enjoy whoever I am with and celebrate his or her individuality and incredible beauty.

 

I have nothing against this cop from Jersey, but I am certain that because of his poorly trained mind he may be likely to think about the world in very cliched, limited ways. I am sure he would not be able to imagine that incredibly beautiful young models hire hookers, or that what he perceives as old fat and ugly men can (and do) find willing, passionate, fun, sexy partners.

 

I am neither a saint nor a helpless guy who has to do things he doesn't want to do. It is a thrill for me to meet new people. Lack of respect, lack of hygiene, not respecting our mutual agreements, unsafe practices, insufficient confirmed information prior a meeting are a few of the many reasons for which I will simply say "no thanks", zip up and leave.

 

And ok, fine, if you want a more direct answer: No. What people think about the kind of people who hire escorts is not correct. Even if different escorts have different markets, (Twinks tend to attract older clients, for example) there is absolutely no correlation between socially perceived beauty and the desire to hire escorts.

 

Steve, I am so happy that you answered. You seem to have found a secret about beauty that most of us haven't.

 

Aren't people delicious?

[+ newatthis]

I find this kind of funny...This question is still trying to make the assumption that I meet someone and write "Old, fat and ugly" in my notebook...

Hi Juan --

 

I used the term "hazard a guess" deliberately -- I didn't really think escorts keep statistics. For myself, obvious physical characteristics are the first thing I notice (it would be hard not to notice those things across a room). As I get to know someone, they fade into the background and others -- the kind you and Steve have written about -- take the foreground. I think I would still recall those physical characteristics if asked, even after they've become irrelevant to me.

[Juan Vancouver]

For myself, obvious physical characteristics are the first thing I notice (it would be hard not to notice those things across a room). As I get to know someone, they fade into the background and others -- the kind you and Steve have written about -- take the foreground. I think I would still recall those physical characteristics if asked, even after they've become irrelevant to me.

 

I am a little different than Steve, in that I do (as well as you) notice physical characteristics as soon as I meet someone and I tend to remember people by them.

 

I am not talking about becoming blind to anything, but perhaps of giving different intepretations to what we see.

 

In the past week I had a session with a guy who kept apologizing for being fat. All I could do was turn him around so that I could revel in the incredibly strong and perfectly rounded ass that he had.

 

He saw a fat guy. I saw a guy with one of the most delicious asses that I have seen in a while.

 

You say it would be hard not to notice, and I agree. How could people not immediately be enraptured by the sight of that ass? How do they ever have time enough to think about his midsection and then pronounce him fat?

 

That is beyond me.

 

That is why I am happy to be an escort, and that's why it is good that you are not. Nothing is better than nothing else, We are all different, and we are perfect.

 

I hope that you will keep meeting with hot, sexy, muscular guys and will keep having a riot with them.

 

I hope that I will keep meeting with hot, sexy, unique guys and will keep having a riot with them.

 

It is delicious to be different.

 

Big hug to you!

[SteveStacks]

Bodies and their history

 

A few days ago, on the flight to NYC, I watched a TED talk given by Temple Grandin, the autistic woman who revolutionized slaughterhouses. She showed an image like this (it was slightly different formatting, and without the periods, which I had to enter to get the formatting to work...*sigh*.... but you get the idea)

 

H.....H

H.....H

HHHHH

H.....H

H.....H

 

She talked about how autistic people would see the small letters first, whereas most people see the large H first. This conversation reminds me of her example in a way.

We all look at the same thing but we see things differently, or see different things first.

 

I guess I "see" people's physical traits, but I just tend to find other things about them more interesting than the traits that seem to jump out for others. Things like the way a persons treats others tell me a lot more about how they will respond to my touch or touch me, than their waist size does. And things like the way they hold their head tells me more about how they will move in bed than their facial structure would.

 

Like Juan, I'm a little unnerved by the "Saint escort who only cares what's inside a person" routine. Like Juan, and everyone else, I have my own way of seeing the world.

No one's is "better" than anyone else's, and I just feel VERY lucky to have found a profession that allows me to put my way of "seeing" to good use, and very grateful to all of the clientele who are interested in sharing their time with me.

People are fascinating, and I feel very lucky to get to work with them in the way I do.

Viva la difference!

[+ newatthis]

...That is why I am happy to be an escort, and that's why it is good that you are not.

That's the least of the reasons why it's good that I'm not an escort!

 

I hope that you will keep meeting with hot, sexy, muscular guys and will keep having a riot with them.

I have nothing against hot, sexy, muscular guys, and even get turned on by them, but they're not the ones who grab my attention first from across the room. What I have learned is that the guys who are instant turn-ons for me are not necessarily the ones I have the most fun with.

 

Big hugs back to you!