Client "fantasy" vs. Escort "routine"

[Guest ncm2169]

Hey Guyz! My first post here, altho I've been a BIG fan and avid reader of this site since I discovered it about a year ago.

 

I'm about to have my second escort experience (the first was several years ago and was, unfortunately, VERY forgettable). I've chosen the escort (he has several excellent reviews here), and we've emailed and IM'ed several times. Because our meeting will be from 3 weeks to 6 weeks away, I have not yet gotten into the "nitty gritty" specifics of how I envision our meeting happening (I have, of course, told him generally what I'm into, and I've verified his "scope of activities" with him).

 

Here's my question (and I'd appreciate answers from BOTH escorts and clients): In your experience, "all things being equal", are clients better served by (1) telling escorts explicitly what and how they want the meeting to "flow", or (2) letting the escort begin his "routine" (eg. starting with a massage, shower, etc.) and then having the client "tailor the scene" as he wishes? (Is that TOO convoluted??...LOL).

 

Hey THANKS guys...I hope to be a more frequent poster in the future!

[Guest elwood]

ncm...my advice is...after you have done the initial work in checking out and contacting the escort...don't be too scripted.Let it happen. Of course...I am assuming you have read reviews and contacted the escort with a description of your general scene.A good escort will take it from there and with a less than good escort it won't make much difference how specific you are.

From this site I have met some pretty impressive escorts and it has all been very spontaneous from my viewpoint and the fact that it seemed so spaontaneous to me is a sign of how professional these men can be. good luck.

[Losgatan]

I totally agree with Elwood. "Scripting" an encounter deprives the escort of the opportunity to be inventive and creative -- and, with a good escort, those are the two qualities you will prize the most.

 

You also need the opportunity to explore the escort's hot buttons and to push them hard when you find them. Truly hot sessions result when both client and escort are able to adapt to the other's wants/needs.

[OneFinger]

RE: Client

 

This is a good question and I'm glad you posted it. I normally use a local escort who knows what I like. However, I'm going out of town on business and am hooking up with a new escort or two. Here's how I handled the situation.

 

I e-mailed several potential escorts giving them a brief description of me (age, weight, etc.). I then told them a few things that really turn me on and made sure to emphasize "requirements" such as kissing, mutual oral, etc. I told them what was "off limits" (i.e., I will NOT bottom).

 

I also made sure to tell them that I wanted them to be assertive (but not agressive). I told them to be sure and make suggestions or guide me on positions or "tricks" that I may not have tried before.

 

In short, I told them my boundaries and hinted that I wanted them to take the lead. (After all, they are the professionals and probably know better than me what will make for a good session.)

 

In addition, prior to e-mailing the guys, I thoroughly read their reviews. That really helped me decide which ones to consider and gave me a flavor for how they interact with clients.

 

Hope this helps.

[Guest dstud4hire]

RE: Client

 

I totally agree with this last post!

 

While you don't want to 'script' the event, by the same token, you don't want to be in completely different books about how the evening will go. I love it when the client tells me up front what they are looking for....because it gives me invariably another opportunity to enthusiasticaly sell myself, so to speak. Generally, most are looking for affection, kissing, etc etc, on top of everything else. Well, I LOVE to kiss, so will be able to expound on that in a response back. Plus, by opening the lines of communication, you will get a better sense of whether the 2 of you will connect. (if it's only for an hour, that might be less important, than ssay, someone you want to develope into a regular or an overnight)

All that said and done, what is best left 'unscripted' , (unless you want a certain ;'scene') is the actual conversation, initiation, etc of sex etc once the 2 of you meet. Sometime, the client can be the most assertive and confiednt guy on line, but when we met, he's very nervous. If I am doing my usualy professional job, I will know exactly what do to, and be sensitive to his non-verbal cues as to how fast I should approach it, who should initiate it, etc etc.

 

That;s just my 2 cents worth. There have been many times that the client was real vague in what he wanted, and I just adapted and seemed to please him nonethless...so it can go both ways and work just as well.

[BuckyXTC]

First, a hearty welcome to the board!

 

I agree with all the previous posters, that it is good to lay out what you want and don't want in the meeting. While some "surprises" can be nice, others can be a bummer. I love oral sex, and once met up with an escort who "surprised" me with the fact that he would not allow anyone to suck him unless he was wearing a condom. In light of what I like, I would have been better off sucking on a dildo at home for free than dealing with this unexpected requirement. If I had known this upfront, I wouldn't have hired him. But, since I didn't ask, I really can't put the blame on him. That's where reviews at this site can be helpful. You can sometimes eliminate escorts with strange ideas like this because someone else already mentioned it in a prior review.

 

Scripting a session seems like overkill to me, but I suppose certain scenes might require more of that. For the most part, I like the spontaneity factor when I meet a new escort. It's pretty sexy to see where things go naturally.

[Will]

RE: Client

 

Welcome! You're bound to have added an invaluable element to your life if you've decided to let M4M guide you into the ins and outs of the wonderful world of escorts AND clients.

 

There's nothing I can add, except my welcome and my hopes that you'll have a great time. It sounds to me as though you've been perfectly clear about what you hope for. As for the rest, remember that before an escort is an escort, he is a human being. And you are a human being. You're going to have an intimate human encounter that you know ahead of time will be sexual. You've agreed on whether you're going to be playing on a basketball court or a golf course. So why not leave all the rest up to the Games Director? Let Eros take charge: after all, he -- not we -- is the divine choreographer of naked romps.

 

Have fun and be sure to write a review!

[+ Charlie]

Although I agree with most of what others have said here about leaving the session "unscripted", it is important to be clear with the escort when explaining what you really want. For instance, terms like "top" and "bottom" may refer to psychological relationships for some people and to specific sex acts for others. If you tell him you are looking for a "top", because you want someone who will be aggressive about cuddling and kissing you, but he thinks "top" means you just want someone to fuck you, you will both be disappointed. We are often afraid to say exactly what we mean when we discuss our sexual desires, but it is best to be explicit, at least about what turns us on or turns us off.

 

If you have good, comfortable sex the first time, and he seems intelligent and flexible, then give him a real script for the next time (but remember that an imaginative escort probably wants some leeway to be creative--a good actor never simply reads his lines).

[Guest ncm2169]

Hey guyz! Thanks for all the really good advice. I especially appreciate the comments about giving the escort leeway to be creative...that's a very good way to put it. And, of course, I'll write a review, being as explicit as possible...after all, isn't that half the fun of this site??...LOL. Oh, and I'll BE SURE to include accurate info about "cut/uncut". (Drives me nuts when I read an escort's reviews and 8 of them say he's cut, and then some client comes along and talks about his "beautiful UNCUT cock!" Seriously guyz, is that soooo "hard" to figure out?...LOL).