"O"mg. why didn't you all tell me more forcefully

[NYTomcat]

Ok so repressed 40 year old flirtingwith passion and all of a sudden something just changed.

 

You guys were supposed to warn me about these things.

 

So I go into my normal passionately romantic weekend. Thinking warm fuzzy thoughts. Then all of a sudden something snaps. No more hinderences. Im like a junkie needing a fixand all the warm closeness is replaced with pure adrenaline driven lust. And why?

 

Well all I know is im bottoming and suddenly my eyes are rolling back into me head my body is quivering like im detoxing. And im thinking oh God dont stop. And it didn't. Hello. It took me over an hour to recover. Walk straight? I couldn't stand my legs were like rubber.

 

So yes This sweet innocent newbie just snapped some restraint. I can't tell you if the restraint lifted and I peaked or I peaked broke the mental restraints. Chicken or egg who cares. But I can tell you a very nervous top and inexperienced bottom just became the Guy who cannot wait to feel that again and God now that I know. I can't wait to bring someone else there again.

 

All I can say is im glad I finally let Romann just take the reins. Yahoooooo

 

Life is good today. Real good. Is it always like that Or is the first time just really special?

[Guest DuchessIvanaKizznhugg]

"Why Jane, you ignorant slut!"

 

[+ Oliver]

... Is it always like that Or is the first time just really special?

 

It all depends on the "who". And if you choose the"who" rightly, most of the time it is. I'm so glad you chose rightly the first time.

[AdamSmith]

You guys were supposed to warn me about these things.

 

Tried to! But no way to really understand except to live it.

 

Is it always like that Or is the first time just really special?

 

Yes, to both.

[Guest greatness]

Wow

 

Congratulation Tom! Romann must be a great top to make you feel that way. Romann is so dreamy and so perfect. You get to hire all the hot guys, Tom and they like you too because you are hot too. What a great combination.

[Juan Vancouver]

Nice!

 

Welcome to life, stud!

 

Isn't it strange how one day you are going about, living in utter ignorance and the next minute nothing ever looks the same and you want to scream and tell people in the streets, you want to call your mother or write an press release?

 

I am so happy that you have this message center to share your "discovery". They say that a pleasure shared is a pleasure re-lived.

 

Yes, when you learn to relax and allow yourself to simply melt into your top you can reach heaven every time. (Of course, it being the first time that it happened makes it really special, not to mention that you were in really expert "hands".)

 

I wish you joy and ease in this journey of discovery.

 

Big hug!

 

Juan

[NYTomcat]

"why Jane, you ignorant slut!"

 

Oh yeah baby. Thats it oh baby. Wait. What was That? Hey I used to work for Lorne Michael's. I can get that on a tee shirt and no one would know; -)

 

It all depends on the "who". And if you choose the"who" rightly, most of the time it is. I'm so glad you chose rightly the first time.

 

Talk about walk me through it until he knew I was ready. Prepped warmed ready set and go. I sound like an old father here Though. There was nothing like sharing that experience with someone you know and really have a connection with. Especially the first time

 

 

Congratulation Tom! Romann must be a great top to make you feel that way. Romann is so dreamy and so perfect. You get to hire all the hot guys, Tom and they like you too because you are hot too. What a great combination.

 

Its not just his hotness Which is extreme or mine which is (edited LOL) but I felt safe comfortable and able to be me. Everything just relaxed and boom. What a rush. When you want a job done right hire a professional. Especially one with eyes worth staring into LOL. Im sure in fact I know there are others out there with just as much talent. We have heard it here before. But he is definately my brand of poison

[NYTomcat]

Tried to! But no way to really understand except to live it.

 

 

 

Yes, to both.

 

Thank Christ.

 

Welcome to life, stud!

 

Isn't it strange how one day you are going about, living in utter ignorance and the next minute nothing ever looks the same and you want to scream and tell people in the streets, you want to call your mother or write an press release?

 

I am so happy that you have this message center to share your "discovery". They say that a pleasure shared is a pleasure re-lived.

 

Yes, when you learn to relax and allow yourself to simply melt into your top you can reach heaven every time. (Of course, it being the first time that it happened makes it really special, not to mention that you were in really expert "hands".)

 

I wish you joy and ease in this journey of discovery.

 

Big hug!

 

Juan

 

Juan I can't thank you Oliver Bart Adam and all the other hoovillians out there who have watch and heard my inane chatter to this point. Honest to God I felt like I found myself again. First time in 20 years. I am finally getting to understand my own sexuality that I have my own wants and desires. I had lost them for a long time. Thank you Romann from the bottom of my heart. Pun intended. And I promise your next big Guy.

 

I can only say that today I felt like the luckiest man on earth. I found myself. Im just sorry lucky isn't here to share it.

[+ sf westcoaster]

Tomcat, I know exactly how you are feeling - it is so darn exciting and liberating! In my case it just seems to be getting better and better.

!

[NYTomcat]

Tomcat, I know exactly how you are feeling - it is so darn exciting and liberating! In my case it just seems to be getting better and better.

!

 

Thank you SF. I think you know this is all rather surprising to me and I sometimes feel like I really am exploring a world I know nothing about. There is no doubt this has been journey of small steps but I really love sharing those steps with the.men here who help me make sense of it all guide and. Like today. Celebrate a milestone. The fact it just gets Better makes that all the sweeter. Thank you

[whipped guy]

Tom Cat = Super Man!!!!

 

Well know you know how it feels to be Clark Kent... or any other super hero of your choice for that matter!

 

You are now ready to conquer the world...

 

Watch out world!!!!!

[Guest socal30]

Thanks for the post. I guess there is hope for me. I just supressed my sexuality for a long time . I did hire an escort for the first time many years ago, but it was overkill. I hired someone for an overnight and he was a major fetish escort. So the first time did pretty much every kind of fetish and I was too much of a newbie to say no to any suggestions. He was good though, just way too much for me. Didn't go back for a few years-well almost a decade. Just stuck with regular erotic massages with a little extra.

 

But I think I am not getting any younger and need to release this fear and embrace it more. Just me I have so much baggae from when I was raised-I think time to drop the bags! But thanks, it is nice to read such posts!

[Racketjock]

Tom,

 

Congrats on feeling and rightly so on top of the world. The journey of sexual discovery whereby we explore and are liberated is indeed joyous. To share that journey with someone you admire, feel safe with, and share a connection makes it that much sweeter. Thanks for sharing this part of yourself here in Hooville. Cheers!

[NYTomcat]

Thanks for the post. I guess there is hope for me. I just supressed my sexuality for a long time . I did hire an escort for the first time many years ago, but it was overkill. I hired someone for an overnight and he was a major fetish escort. So the first time did pretty much every kind of fetish and I was too much of a newbie to say no to any suggestions. He was good though, just way too much for me. Didn't go back for a few years-well almost a decade. Just stuck with regular erotic massages with a little extra.

 

But I think I am not getting any younger and need to release this fear and embrace it more. Just me I have so much baggae from when I was raised-I think time to drop the bags! But thanks, it is nice to read such posts!

 

I have been taking it slow working just the romance and feeling the bond with a man. Its taken a long time just to get there for me. I had repressed any sexual feelings for so long. But I was truly lucky enough to hire someone in Romann who saw even when i did not the slow pace i needed. I then had the great privilege of meeting/hiring some really wonderful men to broaden out from that and let me face some of my darkest worries. Men like Raul Manzo and David SF were just the perfect choices to really push my limits and know that I was comfortable.

 

This latest hire weekend with Romann was just a milestone. not an end to a journey but truly the begining of sexual discovery. Your post socal 30 is why i write about my journey here. please take heart that repression can and is a cage and you can get free. with time... patience.... and help. and if you need some PM me

[uwsman2]

Congratulations

 

It's been a long time, but I can understand your feeling. That first time of totally surrendering to being penetrated and feeling all full and connected, and receiving your top's power.... it's unbeatable.

I've held off from setting up an appointment with Romann because I thought he was exclusively a bottom!! (That's certainly the message I seemed to be getting from reviews...) But your posting suggests he is also an excellent top, so I may try to make this connection in the future. Thanks for sharing.

[NYTomcat]

It's been a long time, but I can understand your feeling. That first time of totally surrendering to being penetrated and feeling all full and connected, and receiving your top's power.... it's unbeatable.

I've held off from setting up an appointment with Romann because I thought he was exclusively a bottom!! (That's certainly the message I seemed to be getting from reviews...) But your posting suggests he is also an excellent top, so I may try to make this connection in the future. Thanks for sharing.

 

Well I can't say I have gone totally bottom. You bring out a point I dont think I really said. The title did but I dont think I elaborated. "More forcefully" what I found was an aggressive streak That I either never knew existed or just didn't want to acknowledge. Part of me that really liked being wanted to the point of being taken. But also part That wanted to see the pleasure in someone else when you physically just dominate them. I guess I found some versatility. LOL. More in fact Cause its not That I want that everytime. I still love the slow passionate prelude that may never turn overpowering and just allows for mutual relaxed orgasmic release. Easy and slow just passionately enjoying the body and mind of another person. What I found was a multifaceted awareness of myself and yes an escort who read me and responded to me even before I saw it myself.

 

As to your seeing Romann all I can say is contact him and ask. I think as I always have its a matter of connection. I said it once. The first time I met and reviewed him. This is a Guy who gets turned on by the way he makes you feel. So....

[whipped guy]

Bingo!

 

What I found was a multifaceted awareness of myself and yes an escort who read me and responded to me even before I saw it myself.

Yes! Yes! Yes!

 

That is the key! When someone knows what you need even before you know that you need it yourself... the really good ones are capable of somehow "knowing" and drawing it out of you and bring you to exactly where you need to go!

[NYTomcat]

Honestly given my background I would never have even considered it possible. It was so far removed from my mind to link any aggression with sex. Well surprise. Surprise surprise. What I didn't see he did from day one. So yes whipped you said I would feel like Superman. I do. With a little darker bent. Say perhaps a bit jeckle and Hyde.

[whipped guy]

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So yes whipped you said I would feel like Superman. I do. With a little darker bent. Say perhaps a bit jeckle and Hyde.

 

I really think that we all have a bit of the proverbial dark side as part of our personality... though for some it is hidden in the deep recesses of their psyche so that they are not even aware that it exists.

 

Now as far Tomcat is concerned... his avatar alone seems to be hinting... dare I say screaming... "I have a bit of the prince of darkness in me"... and whether he realizes it or not, his Pandora's Box has been opened.. so God help us all!

[NYTomcat]

OMG was I that obvious

 

For fun I went back to my very first newbie post. I had never seen the avatar that way whipped and I truly do not know what made me choose it but are you ever right. So I looked back to where I started

 

Better still look at the song I choose for what I wanted my first night with romann

 

 

 

and what i wanted the next night:

 

 

I always say more with music than i do in real words

 

Dear God I was screaming FUCK ME LIKE A PIG. LOL I should be so embarassed. Not a chance.

[Guest jstlooknthx]

You know I read this thread and once again I just wonder what everyone is talking about. I have passed the milestone of 50 now and just figured at this point in my life I would just never experience this particular pleasure. When I was young I tried it a few times, from boyfriends I loved to hot tricks and and quaaludes. No one and nothing could sexualize that area for me. I see the pleasure many guys experience and I always wondered what the big deal is. I guess I have definitley missed out.

[+ purplekow]

Some men are not wired for anal intercourse. I have very sensitive nipples and so it is hard to understand why nipple play is not exciting to my partners. I have to ask because it is my natural assumption that everyone can be brought to near orgasm by playing with their nipples. Similarly, I had one partner who could and indeed did on several occasions have me reach orgasm without touching me any more than kissing and biting on my neck. While my neck is definitely an erotic area for me, no one else has been able to raise the level of excitement from neck play that this partner did.

I know this is almost heresy, but there was a time when oral sex did little for me. With some concentrated effort and with the work of some excellent partners, I cant wait for lips to meet my cock.

So it seems to me, there is the naturally erotic areas, which are different in all of us.

There is the skill of the partner in eliciting response. There is the educated responses we have learned along the way.

If reaching ecstasy via anal intercourse is something you want jstlooknthx, it seems you are not blessed with a frenetic natural response in that area. So you have to get a great partner and practice. Or, you can just do what you love doing and keep on doing it.

[NYTomcat]

You know I read this thread and once again I just wonder what everyone is talking about. I have passed the milestone of 50 now and just figured at this point in my life I would just never experience this particular pleasure. When I was young I tried it a few times, from boyfriends I loved to hot tricks and and quaaludes. No one and nothing could sexualize that area for me. I see the pleasure many guys experience and I always wondered what the big deal is. I guess I have definitley missed out.

 

Well im nobody's expert. But I can say I never thought It would happen. When it Did. I was Just trying to relax enough to make any bottoming experience work. I have had some great discussions with experts here who shall remain nameless. Hey guys. And I was just trying to breath my way through the initial pain. Once I got there. I could feel some thing. My legs quivered. I barely noticed at first. Then it just started building out Of the blue. Maybe you wont but maybe the answer is dont look for it and just Enjoy the feeling of pleasing someone else. And maybe thats the key. I dont know. But that was it for me

[+ azdr0710]

always enjoy your fun posts, tomcat......

 

but I hope the law practice isn't suffering from your near-constant presence here!!!

[NYTomcat]

always enjoy your fun posts, tomcat......

 

but I hope the law practice isn't suffering from your near-constant presence here!!!

 

It might make you think twice about what your attorney is typing while your on the phone with him:)