Why Do so Few Respond?

[+ Shoreboy]

I travel too much for my work and one of my pleasures is to visit a new City and hire someone for fun and to take my mind off of work. I book my hotels well in advance, make my travel schedule well in advance and also like to schedule my "fun" well in advance.

 

I use this site and others to inquire about various escorts, their availability and if they fit into my realm of fun.

 

What has me baffled is that out of say 10 escorts that I make initial contact with 8 never even bother to respond. Why? Mind you the initial response is sometimes the simply sending of my email address, name and which City I would like to see them. This is not limited to one city, but sadly universal.

 

I have had some that have responded to me well after I have returned from my trip apologizing saying that they "rarely check their emails".

 

I am hesitant about using Craig's List but sometimes it seems they are the only escorts that respond.

 

I know that many escorts hold down a day-time job and escorting is a second job, but why is this problem of not responding so prevelant?

 

I would love some honest answers by escorts.

 

I had to smile from one response from an escort who (finally) responded to me three months after my initial request who saod "sorry but he receives hundreds of emails per day and it takes him time to go through them".

 

Thanks for listening to my mini-rant

[Guest Merlin]

I am a client, not an escort, but I suspect part of your problem is writing too far in advance without specific info about time and place. Some escorts will guess that it is too indefinite to bother with. Not a genuine inquiry. I recently hired an escort in LA.I really wanted to see him, so I sent an initial request for appointment a week ahead of time. Gave him the hotel, the date and the time frame in which I would like to meet him. and said I would phone him when I checked in. He responded affirmatively. I confirmed it the day prior. Then on the agreed date I called him, and he did not seem to remember. But we met and he said that he did not take my requests seriously because most guys who contact him that far in advance never pan out.

I suggest a week ahead, if you are traveling. Be as definite as possible and give him a suggested time and place etc. If you say "I am thinking...", "maybe" etc, and if you ask questionsabout his appearance, photos, etc., he may not think you are serious enough.

[+ Charlie]

In addition to the specifics that Merlin suggests, if there is a review for the escort on this site, mention that you have read it: it puts him on notice that his response, or lack thereof, may be discussed here, and he may get a review if you do get an appt. with him. Also keep in mind that info on escort sites (as well as in the reviews here) is often out of date; he may no longer be using that email address, or may not even be escorting any longer. Lots of escorts seem to disappear quickly after they advertise.

[whipped guy]

I am a client, not an escort, but I suspect part of your problem is writing too far in advance without specific info about time and place.

Another client here... Yes, most guys can't think very far in advance. I also like to schedule diversion as soon as possible as I usually book my hotel and other commitments well in advance. However, it only generally works once you have established a relationship with the escort in question... and only if the escort knows his own travel schedule that far in advance. The only exception to that rule would be very popular escorts who are well organized and need to book that far in advance, but those are few and far between. At any rate, it would help to be as specific as possible and then hope for the best... either that or take your chances closer to your travel dates... but if you are like me you hate uncertainly... but then again it can at times result in an exhilarating last minute surprise.

[AdamSmith]

Agree, as a client, with all the above. In addition -- I keep saying this even though many feel otherwise -- USE THE PHONE. Very often the guy picks up live. When not, I get much more prompt response from voicemail than from email.

[seaboy4hire]

Since none of the working guys have chimed in yet I will. Without knowing specifics you put in your email I am guessing that some of the working guys might think that you are the Algerian scammer. I would suggest when contacting a working guy to put in specific date(s) and time you are looking for like April 23 at 230pm for 3 hours, put in the exact city or neighborhood you are going to be visiting and don't go into a lot of detail sexually. I hope that some of these suggestions help you out and I hope that some of the other working guys chime in to add suggestions.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[+ Shoreboy]

Thay are all good suggestions, but I usually use the site RentMen.com which only allows you to type in your name, email address, telephone number and city where you would like to meet. These are the ones that rarely, if ever respond.

[Guest Merlin]

I suggest that you use Rentboy.com, which is clearly the best, and which allows you to send a message. In my opinion it has a better selection and since it charges by the month, guys who are no longer active get dropped quickly. Men4Rent.com also does not allow a message and allows inactive guys to remain for a long time. I have had mostly non-responses there. I have not used Rentmen.

[+ David-SF]

are you sure you dont mean M4RN.COM

 

Thay are all good suggestions, but I usually use the site RentMen.com which only allows you to type in your name, email address, telephone number and city where you would like to meet. These are the ones that rarely, if ever respond.

 

I get lots of emails from Rentmen.com and they are full of details contact info and much more sometime 3 or 4 paragraphs.

 

I dont know if you need to have a free account in order to do that but I have never gotten an email from rentmen.com that was limited like I do with men4rentnow.com

There must be some mistake.

as a matter of fact all my emails that I receive from rentmen are forwarded to my email on yahoo also.

 

I often dont get emails from men4rentnow that amount to anything other than an inquiry a response from me and never hear from that email address again.

I answer all emails asap if I dont its possible it has been sent to my spam folder and was overlooked.

 

but I check my spam folder every couple days so its strange to me why an escort available and in service would not at least confirm he got your email.

 

Phone calls from an unblocked number always get answered when I am free to answer the phone.

It may benefit you to go back and try to call these guys that did not respond to your email and ask them what happened.

[Mark Gordon]

Thay are all good suggestions, but I usually use the site RentMen.com which only allows you to type in your name, email address, telephone number and city where you would like to meet. These are the ones that rarely, if ever respond.

 

You are confusing Rentmen with Men For Rent Now. Rentmen allows you to enter a subject line and up to 2,000 characters of text. In your initial email, M4RN only allows you to enter your name, email, telephone number and city where you would like to meet. The trouble is that there are a lot of inactive ads on M4RN and it is not immediately apparent to clients whether the ad is current. On the right hand side of the page, there should be a 'Contact Info' box. If this has disappeared and the 'Location' box has moved up to below the 'Services Offered' Box, then the ad is inactive. You can still email the escort using the button at the bottom, but the escort will not receive the email unless he reactivates his ad.

[Bart]

Funny this thread came up because I have had similar problems in the past.

Now mind you I do get about a 50% response from Men4rent. Where I get the worst response lets see, it would be rentboy.

 

Two of the gentlemen who have responded here know me and know I am quite specific about who I am, what I want, my location and an approximate date. I make the date approximate so that it gives the gentleman an opportunity to check the schedule without being buttonholed into one date and time.

 

As of late there two gentlemen who post on the forum regularly I have tried to contact via personal message here, their direct email and even through rentboy, not even a not interested. So basically they are now off my list. Usually I give a guy two chances.

 

Now if you are wondering why not follow up with a phone call, sorry not my bag and I like to be specific about my interests and I am just uncomfortable talking about that over the phone with someone I have never met. In that respect I am a rather shy person. There are a few who know me personally and are laughing at that one but it is true about someone I have never met. So I am specific about most everything but still no response.

[body2body]

I have had very good experiences with RentMen. I have been able to send detailed (though not graphic) descriptions of what I am looking for in our encounter, along with my window of availablilty for our meeting. I have not yet run out of available characters, and have had all but one guy reply. RentMen also allows you as a client to post a profile in which you can detail what you like, and the escort can view it. I find sometimes that I have looked at a profile, and checked the next day and found that the escort had looked at my profile. Twice, they have dropped me a message saying that they think we would have a good time. In one instance so far we did.

 

Men4RentNow is a crap shoot for me- I only occasionally get a reply.

 

RentBoy in the "New and Improved" version is dreadful to navigate, makes my computer freeze, and I have all but abandoned them, but in the past guys usually replied.

 

All that being said, and my comments all being from the clients viewpoint, I still find that that antiquated device known as the telephone is the best way to contact an escort. We both get a chance to interact in a way that can (but does not always) give us both a little more insight into our compatibility when we actually speak to one another.

 

I have one complaint though, almost every ad says "no blocked calls". I often find if I leave a message, and they return my call, they call from a blocked or "private" number. That courtesy needs to work both ways Gentlemen.

[Mark Gordon]

Blocked Numbers

 

I have one complaint though, almost every ad says "no blocked calls". I often find if I leave a message, and they return my call, they call from a blocked or "private" number. That courtesy needs to work both ways Gentlemen.

 

It is hard to see why an escort who is advertising his number online would be concerned about blocking his number when he calls clients. I suspect what they are trying to do is block their name. When I make a call, the call display comes up as Unknown Caller with my number. I use the same number for business and personal, so this is the best solution. Some guys may not realize that they can make this arrangement, or perhaps their cell service provider does not allow it.

[dapurplebear]

I am glad RentMen works for you.

 

I have not gotten very good responses - though I must say I like the site better than rentboy - there are just a lot fewer ads...

[doitb4ugo]

Great Discusssion

 

This thread has been very informative. A great discussion of something I've been wondering about as it has happened to me numerous times in just my few months of activity...Many good suggestions here. Thanks

[JoeyBryant]

Please note that I'm not describing most of the guys in this business. I'm mainly repeating what someone from an escort agency told me and I wonder if this might be an answer to your question.

 

Right about the same time I started escorting...I also applied to 'take calls' for an agency for straight women. The owner told me the same thing, that the girls would be calling "when the time came for their rent check". So you arent in error by that comment LOL.

 

As for making email appointments in advance, I agree on if its made too far in advance some may blow it off. But at the same time, I've had instances too where it was very far in advance...but Im glad I didnt ignore them.

 

Its all about planning ahead. If someone doesn't think they'll hear from you or is just living for the moment...oh well. At the same time, specifics do help. I get texts and emails saying, "coming to town next week". Its Hard to really respond to those. But something like, "will be staying at the Mariott Rivercenter on....will you be available that day?" gets me to responding. (not because of the hotel, but because the specifics!)

[Guest OCBeachbody]

I know the few times I called for someone, is that blocked numbers seem to be frowned up or even e-mail contact by some is not permitted. Unfortunately this happens with some of the masseurs too. Usually I when traveling my practice is to get a disposable phone for the weeks I am in there and use that device for calls. It does cost anywhere from $19.99 to $49.99 extra, but it keeps your privacy and leaves an open number for your contacts!

[JoeyBryant]

I know the few times I called for someone, is that blocked numbers seem to be frowned up or even e-mail contact by some is not permitted. Unfortunately this happens with some of the masseurs too. Usually I when traveling my practice is to get a disposable phone for the weeks I am in there and use that device for calls. It does cost anywhere from $19.99 to $49.99 extra, but it keeps your privacy and leaves an open number for your contacts!

 

I recently had to run that by a client who was going thru a separation, apparently he never knew of the concept. A disposable phone is definently something to utilize (although I never heard the term 'disposable phone'...good one though LOL)

[devonhunter]

odd... i PREFER doing everything in advance, so the comment that we don't think far in advance seems strange... i specifically do not give my number out to force clients to plan in advance, because when they contact me less than a week in advance they are much more likely to cancel... hm. everyone has his own experience i guess.

[Mark Gordon]

Why doesn't the OP respond?

 

2 weeks later, I note that it is the OP, Shoreboy, who has not responded to the comments and solutions suggested. Did my suggestion help to resolve the issue for you?

[+ Shoreboy]

All of the Suggestions were great

 

Greetings....yes indeed I meant M4RN which only allowed me to put my name, email address, phone number (optional) and city where I would like to see the escort...I did not realize that if the escort has an inactive account that he could not access his emails.

 

I have also noticed that M4RN have changed and you can now write some words in there rather than a bland, vague email...good change for them but if the escort is still "inactive" has the problem been solved?

 

Interestlingly enough I am presently in Boston, emailed the escort only two days in advance on M4RN, got an email back, set something up, called him when I checked into the hotel, arranged a time, made sure I was all ready at the designated time, and alas he never showed up and never answered any calls after his designated time....I just don't understand it??

 

There should be some way to explain to others a "no show" escort since all it does is leave me horny, alone in a hotel room and becoming best friends with my left hand

[+ Shoreboy]

Ooops one more thought

 

Devon Hunter has been on my radar for some time now and I just may book him well, well, well in advance since he really does it for me and now that I know he likes advance bookings I will certainly look at my calendar

[BearDad58]

I too find it amazing that so many escorts, even well reviewed ones do not respond to mails or reply days/weeks later with the vague excuse they rarely check emails. Perfect example was last month on a trip to Chicago. I contacted several well reviewed escorts about a week in advance. I was very specific as I mentioned a time and date, hotel and even mentioned one reason I was contacting them was for their reviews. Other than saying I was a older white guy I didn't even mention my stats or age, so that couldn't have been a reason they didn't respond.

 

Only one even bothered responding before I arrived in Chicago, and he was a no-show. I sent follow up letters to the three escorts who didn't respond saying I planned to return to Chicago at a future date and were they still in business. One of them eventually responded saying they rarely check email.

 

How hard is it in this day and age for a escort to get a phone that receives email? It would cost them $20-$30 more a month for data/email service, a amount they could recoup a hundredfold by just setting up a few calls with their new access to instant email.

[+ Shoreboy]

Therein Lies the Problem

 

BearDad therein lies my reasons for being baffled...Case in point...I just traveled from Atlanta to DC, now in Boston and then onto NYC...I had no problems in Atlanta. DC was like death-valley with two now shows after trying many others who did not even respond. Boston was another bust with all arrangements made, phone calls exchanged and then yet another "no show" and then onto NYC...where I am sure I will finally get laid and have some fun.

 

If I ran my business like some of these escorts I too would have to escort!!!

[BearDad58]

Shoreboy, it's funny that you say you had good luck in Atlanta as last summer I had just the opposite as almost no one answered my mails and I had two no-shows. When I first started hiring I sent out one mail to a escort I was interested in as I would not send out mutliple mails to different escorts all at the same time. If I didn't get a reply in a few days I would move on to the next one that interested me and if no reply, then to the next one and so on. Trouble is that approach took a lot of time waiting days for each escort to reply or not reply.

 

So I refined my approach somewhat and now pick out a group of escorts that might interest me including my first, second and third choice and send out a batch of mails all at once. Then depending on the replies I pick out the one that seems best and I am most attracted to. In the case of Atlanta I sent out 8 initial emails from Rentboy ads, got back 3 replies and made 2 appts both of which turned out to be no-shows. The only way I even managed to get laid was to make a last minute choice from Craigslist which turned out to be actually quite good.