Proper way to handle question....

[+ overeasy]

Last Friday, spoke with a traveling escort who would be in my area this Friday, and agreed to a mutliple-hour meeting this Friday. Since that time, other demands on my time have surfaced that are fairly pressing. Have always wanted to meet this man, but need to meet other obligations as well. ...not to mention the fact that he would now need to fill a rather large void in his bookings in fairly short order. Is there a concensus view on how to handle this four days out? Should I just meet with the man for a shorter time and pay him for the originally agreed time frame? .. or is it acceptable to outright cancel at this point? Advice?

[jimboivyo]

I'd go for a shorter appointment and pay him what you feel is right: Always remember that his time is as important as yours. I think we clients sometimes forget that escorting is a job and that many guys make their sole living from this line of work. Canceling does happen (it's happened to me), but how you handle it can be the difference between an ongoing relationship for a later date or two angry people.

[doitb4ugo]

Half-way

 

I'd go for a shorter appointment and pay him what you feel is right: Always remember that his time is as important as yours. I think we clients sometimes forget that escorting is a job and that many guys make their sole living from this line of work. Canceling does happen (it's happened to me), but how you handle it can be the difference between an ongoing relationship for a later date or two angry people.

 

I agree with jimboivyo, on this one. Do the best you can to make it come(cum) out right for both of you....Perhaps have a dialog with the escort letting him know that you are willing to meet him half-way....I believe he will appreciate it.

 

My last comment: If you were comfortable stiffing him, you wold not have posted your thread...Go with your gut. Trying to do "right" by your actions speaks tons about your character.

[Epigonos]

In dealing with escorts, as in dealing with people in general, honesty is likely to provide the best solution to a problem. Talk to the guy, explain the situation, and see what you can work out TOGETHER.

[+ overeasy]

Have a lot of respect for these men, and understand that it is their source of income. Plan was to still have a shorter encounter and pay for full agreed upon time frame...for my peace of mind....

[Guest countryboywny]

Have a lot of respect for these men, and understand that it is their source of income. Plan was to still have a shorter encounter and pay for full agreed upon time frame...for my peace of mind....

 

That's a plan that I would think would please the escort, and it speaks volumes about you!

[Romann]

Hello-

 

I'm not advocating canceling on your chosen escort by any means but if you're unable to connect with him due to other obligations that need your attention, then you must do what is right for you personally/professionally. Schedules get scary and grow legs of their own so some consideration should be made in that respect within reason.

 

I think your choices are pretty clear as to: cancel the appointment completely, shorten it to fit your schedule without having to cancel the appointment all together or reschedule an alternate date if applicable though it doesn't sound like this last option is in fact an option - please correct me if I'm wrong. I would like to think that escorts would certainly be understanding and very grateful to have some time with you rather than none at all. **IF** your schedule permits, by all means I would recommend connecting for a time frame that works for both of you. But, if your obligations need your attention, a 4 day notice to the escort (IMHO) is an appropriate amount lead time for them to make the necessary adjustments to their availability.

 

Putting myself your chosen escort's the situation and making the hypothetical statement that you were my client in this situation confidently can say that I would be comfortable with the 4 day adjustment/cancellation notice but again I'm only speaking for myself. On the OTHER hand, your very generous offer of sticking to the agreed upon donation level for the original appointment is a very kind gesture and speaks directly to your character indeed!

 

Hope this and advice from the other posters is helpful.

[jeepman]

Give the guy a call and explain the circumstances to him and let him be part of the decision as to whether you cancel outright or amend your original plans for a shorter session. I would think he would appreciate the courtesy of letting him be part of the decision making process. But that's just my two cents worth. Good luck.

[Okliehomo]

Of course, you have to handle it the way that makes you most comfortable, but if it were me... I personally think that 4 days notice is enough time to cancel. Especially since you said that he was a travelling escort that was going to be in your area anyway. It's not like he was making a special trip to see you and now, what does he do?

 

Over the years, I have had to cancel for numerous reasons (work, weather, health, bad vibe) and they have also cancelled on me (camera shy, boyfriends, broken leg, dick caught in zipper... to name a few)... Things come up. They are professionals and I think most of them factor the cancellation variable into the equation. Just like I do when I book an airline ticket. It can be a bit of a gamble, but I have certainly won more than I have lost.

 

Okie

[Romann]

Agreed!

 

and they have also cancelled on me (camera shy, boyfriends, broken leg, dick caught in zipper... to name a few)...

 

I would like to think getting your dick caught in the zipper is good enough reason to cancel.

 

They are professionals and I think most of them factor the cancellation variable into the equation.

 

I agree 100%. When I travel outside of TX each month, I already have an assumed number of cancellations that will occur but that figure varies from city to city. Some I've never had a cancellation and others I've had more than I would like to admit to. It's a risk of doing business but if you track that information, you can make a more informed decision for future visits and length of time that will be spent in the city of question.

[doitb4ugo]

Another Question

 

Can I ask a followup question?

 

If Overeasy is going to either cancel his appointment or discuss this with the escort. Is it poor manners to use e-mail to do this i.e., should it be handled with a phone call...I realize no one is dumping a lover here but somehow the e-mail method seems to impersonal....

[NYTomcat]

I would like to think getting your dick caught in the zipper is good enough reason to cancel.

 

 

 

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OK, been there, done that, and I can say YYYYEEEESSSSSSS

[Romann]

Right!

 

OK, been there, done that, and I can say YYYYEEEESSSSSSS

 

Somehow I feel your pain.

[Alan]

uwhh! that hurts like hell. it's a good reason to always wear undies.

[jimboivyo]

Email. Give him the courtesy.

 

4 days for SOME is far too short a notice. You've got to remember that there are escort out there who book a month or more in advance. That's not nearly enough time to find someone new to see (on the escort's part).

[Guest skrubber]

I would like to think getting your dick caught in the zipper is good enough reason to cancel.

 

 

 

I agree 100%. When I travel outside of TX each month, I already have an assumed number of cancellations that will occur but that figure varies from city to city. Some I've never had a cancellation and others I've had more than I would like to admit to. It's a risk of doing business but if you track that information, you can make a more informed decision for future visits and length of time that will be spent in the city of question.

 

Romann I would think you know all about the dick zipper thing.

[+ Tygerscent]

appropriateness

 

If you need to cancel do so.. ASAP... that way you have the time you need for things and he can reschedule or post. Thank god it's not a holiday where it might be difficult for him to get hired since people might be already in festive/family/holiday mode.

Don't wait for last moment/morning of... He is trying to earn a living... communicate that it might be better or best to reschedule perhaps~

 

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[Guest Jonas]

Just state firmly you'd like to make a change in the appointment. No need to be overly sentimental in the email / during the call: unexpected things happen. There are more escorts than cleints so you have the upper hand anyway.

 

We (I?) expect losses of all booked time(~10%). A notice as early as possible will greatly alleviate the problem.

[doitb4ugo]

Bad Teeth

 

uwhh! that hurts like hell. it's a good reason to always wear undies.

 

 

Or pants without nasty, cruel zippers.

[Dave]

email or call?

i think this depends on the escort. some guys prefer phone contact, some prefer email. if you're not sure what he prefers, then do what you prefer first. but regardless of what method you choose, do make sure that you hear back from him! for example...

in my case, if i have to have a cancellation, i prefer to get it over the phone. now let's say someone sends me an email. if they don't hear back from me in, say, 24 hours (or less if the cancellation is imminent) then they should phone me. there's a chance that i didn't get that cancellation email (ie, maybe it went to my spam folder) - in which case, i would be waiting for him and conclude he is a "no show."

ditto for voicemail messages left.

bottom line: if you have to cancel, make sure the escort actually gets your cancellation message.

[JoeyBryant]

Have always wanted to meet this man, but need to meet other obligations as well. ...Advice?

 

 

 

Thats understandable. We all have other things in life to tend to. Whether it be a meeting, finals , or turning firelogs.

 

However, I wouldn't care if someone had planned a meeting with the Ambassador of China...I give everyone 1, maybe 2 chances for cancellation. Thats not to be impatient or not understanding...but for the sake of knowing Im not being jerked about and that you understand that my time is just as important as the Ambassador of China.

 

For example, the other day a client I met with once; great guy...lots of fun. He cancelled the 2nd booking he made and cited being busy with work. Understandable. But then, he makes another appointment, says he's not sure if he can make it...then cancels.

 

At the point, I told him not to email anymore...and that if he's interested in seeing me again that he'd need to call me if and when he was ready to meet that moment as I wouldnt be taking anything from him in advance until we met again.

 

Few days later, he gave me a call...and we had a wonderful booking and everything went great.