How many text messages or Emails do you consider within reason?

[JoeyBryant]

Another thing about texting, whether it be personal or business; is that its easy for anyone to do when they're bored at home or in a meeting just trying to kill time.

[Romann]

OH GOSH! After reading this thread, I pulled up my mobile records to see how many text messages I send and receive. Wow... this past month was 2216 and my average is 1875. The shame!

 

As you can see, I love texting within reason...

[+ newatthis]

...i love texting within reason...

lol

[+ honcho]

Making texting less time consuming?

 

It takes me far longer to compose coherent email than it does to say the same thing

by voice over the phone, and it's likely almost another order of magnitude slower and more frustrating to try to bang out a text message on a cell phone key pad.

 

That being said, there are services by which you can *send* a text message by

typing from a computer into a web site (which would make it only as slow as

sending email).

 

If you receive a text message, I believe most phones will show the telephone number

of the sender.

[HoseMaster]

I’m a little frustrated with my new favorite well-reviewed escort, in that texting seems to be his favorite form of communication. He is a great guy, but texting to me is so time consuming, and leaves out the meaning, emotion, and several other aspects of the conversation. The only time I use texting is when I’m in a classroom setting, a movie, or any other place I can’t talk. Texting also takes so long to get across a point that could be covered in a fraction of the time, simply by just talking to each other. Although I always reply promptly to his texts, it bugs the crap out of me when I reply with open-ended questions and get no response. It leads me to believe that I offended him, or that I’m being ignored.

 

After having two overnights with him (which were great), I mentioned to him while he was lying next to me about hiring him to go on a vacation (which he agreed) at some near point in the future. With some of the “no responses” I get from him, it kinda scares me to buy tickets for somewhere, and not get a response from him when the departure date gets close. Also, after his last overnighter with me, he had mentioned (and even texted) that “we could go to a movie sometime”, and “if you ever want to just talk…” When I decided to take him up on his offer, I texted to him about a week later about a quick chat or actually going to see a movie, but got no response either. I hate developing these negative feelings when the guy is so great in person, but it makes me believe he doesn’t follow through with what he says he is going to do (which brings the “planning a vacation part” back into question).

[Guest greatness]

well

 

There are a lot of guys like him in my opinion. Please don't be frustrated. I think what you expect out of him is different from what he expects from you. Please do not take it personally or take it as your fault. If you want to talk about it please private message me. Take care.

 

I’m a little frustrated with my new favorite well-reviewed escort, in that texting seems to be his favorite form of communication. He is a great guy, but texting to me is so time consuming, and leaves out the meaning, emotion, and several other aspects of the conversation. The only time I use texting is when I’m in a classroom setting, a movie, or any other place I can’t talk. Texting also takes so long to get across a point that could be covered in a fraction of the time, simply by just talking to each other. Although I always reply promptly to his texts, it bugs the crap out of me when I reply with open-ended questions and get no response. It leads me to believe that I offended him, or that I’m being ignored.

 

After having two overnights with him (which were great), I mentioned to him while he was lying next to me about hiring him to go on a vacation (which he agreed) at some near point in the future. With some of the “no responses” I get from him, it kinda scares me to buy tickets for somewhere, and not get a response from him when the departure date gets close. Also, after his last overnighter with me, he had mentioned (and even texted) that “we could go to a movie sometime”, and “if you ever want to just talk…” When I decided to take him up on his offer, I texted to him about a week later about a quick chat or actually going to see a movie, but got no response either. I hate developing these negative feelings when the guy is so great in person, but it makes me believe he doesn’t follow through with what he says he is going to do (which brings the “planning a vacation part” back into question).

[+ newatthis]

... Although I always reply promptly to his texts, it bugs the crap out of me when I reply with open-ended questions and get no response. It leads me to believe that I offended him, or that I’m being ignored. ...

I have a friend like that. It took me a long time to learn that there are many reasons he does this, most of which have nothing to do with me. The sheer volume of text and emails he receives for one thing; for another, his unconventional hours and sleep schedule, which means he might respond to my first message when he gets up to go to the bathroom, and then not see my followup response until 5 hours later when it's no longer relevant.

 

I'm not saying I'm not frustrated by this. I'm just saying that there's no reason to conclude that he feels you did something wrong, or that he's angry with you for some hidden reason.

[HoseMaster]

Thanks greatness and newatthis for some outside insight! Appreciate it!

[Guest greatness]

Good luck

 

I'm glad it helped. Anytime.

[+ newatthis]

Thanks greatness and newatthis for some outside insight! Appreciate it!

I can also do inside outsight. No extra charge.

[+ Lucky]

ffdave- You text at the movies? I hate it when people take out their big bright blue screens in a dark theater as if no one will notice. I'm there to see the movie, so keep your screen off! Thanks. Now back to the thread...

[Guest SwordSwallower]

My experience is that if you call an escort you almost always get voice mail and most of them just heve the phone number as an introduction, not their voice name or anything. I will not leave a message because I am not sure who will hear it.

 

Email is the way I go, I can tell him what I am looking for, plus I feel more uninhibited about what I want when I email.

 

Oh and escorts when you respond back please send more than a one line response. I have had guys agree to my needs and then when we get together it is like they never even read my email.

[HoseMaster]

ffdave- You text at the movies? I hate it when people take out their big bright blue screens in a dark theater as if no one will notice. I'm there to see the movie, so keep your screen off! Thanks. Now back to the thread...

 

Rarely, if ever. I keep my phone on vibrate in the theater, as I am a fireman, and sometimes we are put on telephone standby, or possibly an overtime might come up, etc (in which case I would get up and answer the phone near the theater door if no one's around). If I absolutely must text (which I don't care to do anyway), then I would keep the screen down and do it to not bother anyone.

[Kevin Slater]

My experience is that if you call an escort you almost always get voice mail and most of them just heve the phone number as an introduction, not their voice name or anything. I will not leave a message because I am not sure who will hear it.

 

Most escorts use the same phone (and voicemail) for personal and professional life. Announcing either their given name or their stage name would confuse half the callers.

 

"Kevin Slater"

[+ deej]

Most escorts use the same phone (and voicemail) for personal and professional life. Announcing either their given name or their stage name would confuse half the callers.

 

True, but there's no need to leave the impersonal "voice" provided by default by the telco.

 

My own greeting doesn't give my name, but it does at least say "Please leave a message" in my own voice.

[gregkidman]

Sexting...

 

I just had a guy get angry because I asked him to please call me instead of text. Thisis is after several hours of back and forth two and three word questions that called for two or three word answers, almost all of which were already answered in my ad.

 

First off, the angry guy is an idiot -- I think he was comparison-shopping, try to find an escort from a list. Once he goes through the list, he would narrow it down but forgets where he found the ads. Hence the calling around asking questions to everyone to figure out who would be best.

 

Second, I would like to add my perspective on emails/texting/phoning. I totally understand that escorts would wish to speak to a client on the phone -- to glean if the client's speech is slurred or sounding a little crazy. However, I have been very, very lucky to have really nice escorts. You see, I have a hearing loss and I wear hearing aids. My hearing loss is such that I cannot use the phone very well. Not only that, I was born with my hearing loss so my speech sounds a little odd. So I only have emails and text-messaging to work with. So it can be a challenge for me sometimes. Some escorts are not willing to meet with me since they need to hear my voice to assure them that I am not a cop, a druggie or a drunk. Well, with my odd sounding voice, what is the escort going to think?

 

I always post about my disability and ask escorts to work with me. One escort does not text at all except for me since he knows that I can't do it any other way. Some escorts don't understand and some escorts DO understand. I win some, I lose some.