Your Son

[Rod Hagen]

I'm mostly interested in hearing from those clients who are real schwarmy toward escorts, the opinions of the cynical ones like Sports/Spunk/Donnie/Reg etc are also important, yet I don't think their answers while really surprise us. I'm looking for the ones who honestly believe that there have been an escort or two who've changed their lives. Furthermore, I'm sure that some in that group actually feel quite fatherly toward an escort. I understand the feeling actually, there are one or two clients that I have a very strong, strange of course, but strong Son-like, attachment toward. It's strange, but one guy in particular I sleep with often very much reminds me of my dad. Let me repeat that, I imagine that the sex I have with this man would be similar to the sex I would have with Dad, were I so inclined (Ok, NEVER). I suppose the possibility of this type of relationship is why sometimes clients feel compelled to help out Escorts with gifts loans etc. Don't think we don't appreciate it. It's weird to be having sex with an imaginary family member, but it's also undeniable.

 

Those who fit this category-have strong perhaps fatherly feelings toward an escort-do you have a son of your own and what would you feel if your son was escorting and you, with your background of being sexual with someone you felt fatherly about, found out. Would you nevertheless be disappointed?

[Guest LG320126]

>I'm looking for the ones who honestly believe that there

>have been an escort or two who've changed their lives.

>Furthermore, I'm sure that some in that group actually feel

>quite fatherly toward an escort. I understand the feeling

>actually, there are one or two clients that I have a very

>strong, strange of course, but strong Son-like, attachment

>toward.

 

I guess I am one of the people you are referring to. I have met 2 or 3 escorts that I have become personally attached to, but one in particular stands out more than the others and our relationship is almost 2 years old now. He has changed my life in the respect that he allowed me to be who I had not been up until I met him. He freed me of my inhibitions sexually and now we are as close as any 2 people who are friends could ever want to be. There is seldom a week that goes by that we do not communicate either via telephone, e-mail, or at least IM. He refers to me as his "stepdad" and he as my "stepson" and have actually introduced each other as such in mixed company. When we visit each other, it is not for an hour or an overnight, but spend entire weekends together doing the things that friends or fathers/sons might do. We sleep together and yet do not have sex unless we both just want to - it is not a mechanical thing anymore, not a client/escort relationship and we both love and respect each other greatly.

 

>I suppose the possibility of this type of

>relationship is why sometimes clients feel compelled to help

>out Escorts with gifts loans etc. Don't think we don't

>appreciate it.

 

I have helped this escort on numerous occasions, and yet it is not because he has ever asked me for anything, but more so because I knew he was either in need or maybe something that I knew would make him happy and therefore make me happy also as I enjoy bringing joy to others. As far as him being appreciative, he has always thanked me on numerous occasions both in person and maybe later in a follow-up e-mail. The smile on his face is usually all the thanks that I really need.

 

 

>It's weird to be having sex with an

>imaginary family member, but it's also undeniable.

>

 

I have never really felt "weird" about having sex with him as I enjoy it very much and yet we don't have as much sex as we did as client/escort I think just because we now love and respect each other in such a different way. Not to say I wouldn't jump his bod in a heartbeat. :-)

 

 

>Those who fit this category-have strong perhaps fatherly

>feelings toward an escort-do you have a son of your own and

>what would you feel if your son was escorting and you, with

>your background of being sexual with someone you felt

>fatherly about, found out. Would you nevertheless be

>disappointed?

 

 

Very interesting and intriguing question. I do have a son and after having the relationships I have experienced with a few "special" escorts I do not think I would feel any different toward him and in fact it might make us closer. I don't think I would experience any disappointment about it now. A few years ago I may have answered this question differently but I feel it is due to some escorts that I now answer as I do.

 

I will be seeing this particular escort in a couple of weeks and can honestly tell you that my anticipation of this is always high and the time I spend with him is priceless. I always return home with a better attitude and outlook on life after spending a weekend with him.

 

Hope this sheds some light on your question as far as my perspective goes.

[Rod Hagen]

Great response L, thanks. I really want people to think about this before answering. So let me add this: picture your son when he was 7 years old. Think about him sitting next to you in church or synagogue. He's wearing a suit, and a tie no less. He's terribly bored, but he's putting on the best face he can during the sermon. He's not even fidgeting...much. You look over at him while you think he's distracted, and stare for a long moment. His hands are tucked deeply into his pants pockets, and he's slouching a bit. and right then you feel kind of overwhelmed by the fact that he's yours, and you're everything to him. Goddamn, he's just perfect isn't he? You hope the rest of the world realizes how perfect he is and treats him accordingly; for the rest of his life. You're just so proud of him, you imagine an amazing future ahead for him and because he deserves it, you plan to help him any way you can so that he can totally reach his potential, which at that moment seems limitless.

 

Imagine all those feelings you had at that, or a similar, moment in time for your son. Now add 12 years to his age and put him in bed with a 67-year-old stranger who he's only going to know for about an hour. What does this juxtaposition between "best little boy in the world" and "temporary bed mate" do to your heart: break it, lighten it, something else?

[Traveler North]

I do see a guy quite often in his town, in my town and even when we are both traveling and our paths cross. Have been seeing him for over two years. I feel very lucky I have met him. He is beautiful

physically, mentally, emtionally , and he is hot sexually. I always have a warm feeling when I am with him. My special feelings for him, maybe they are fatherly, were highlighted recently when he faced a personal crisis in his life. I suddenly realized how upset I was that he was suffering from that crisis. I e-mailed him advice frequently on how to deal with it in hope this advice would help lessen the pain. To me, he is a very special guy.

[foxy]

Given the age differences between escorts and clients (at least, I would assume, the majority of them) there certainly seems to be a sort of father/son relationship. I had a 5 year relationship with someone who became more and more dependant on me. Not financially, but emotionally. It became uncomfortable after a while and I broke it off. I really felt as though I wasn't being fair to him since I was already in a long term relationship. I also didn't want to be his father. I preferred the fantasy that we were the same age. As long as I didn't see us together in a mirror it worked.

I guess the situation you set up makes me uncomfortable. It makes me think it's like having sex with a child and that eludes me.

Is it possible that some escorts seek out this profession because they are looking for a father figure?

[Guest Les]

This subject is so taboo! :7

The true secret to understanding gaymen is their relationship with their fathers...you'd be surprised at the number of them destroyed by these forbidden and mostly well hidden sexual desires.

The ultimate no-no.

[Guest JustStarting]

I think you're right about this taboo. Did you notice that on Mother's Day, HooBoy posted in big letters a reminder about Mother's Day on the front page of this site. No reminder on Father's Day was posted.

 

Some of the more classically educated here on the site will recall the ancient discussions of the various types of love (mother-child, husband-wife, so on) and the special relationship of older man-younger man (even boy). I read that in Afganistan, certain tribes had a tradition of the elder men taking on for sex a younger boy and that this tradition was surpressed under the Taliban and is now back again.

 

 

On some occasions, I think the older man has a fantasy of "extracting" the youthful vigor of bygone days from the younger. I now wonder (as the older man) if the escort doesn't resent his youth being sucked out of him (quite literally) by the old man.

[Guest Tampa Yankee]

I've never thought of myself as schwarmy ... and I'm not sure I want to or even know wwaht it means... but if others think the shoe fits...

 

This is a very interesting topic -- a lot of meat here I think (apt even if pun intended) -- as well as complex IMO. An extension of the frquently asked questions: Can an Escort be a friend? and Have you fallen for an escort??

 

This has the potential to push the envelope though because it asks to let the reader deep inside the head of the respondent and through his perception the head of the escort(s).

 

I am interested in the responses this thread garners -- lots of potential, easily for an extended article if not book.

 

As for me, I'm thinking it over after drafting a response still on the shelf. The reason: I have been pretty much an open book around here and it wouldn't take much for the regular reader to fill in any blanks intended to 'protect the innocent' . And my post goes into the whys and wherefors which depends on some intimate discussion/description (not sexual) of the gentlemen involved. While it is one thing to put myself out in the open it is another to put them out there for the sake of a post. And there is no way I can scrub the content to vitiate this concern -- I would have to erase a year or more of posts and minds that read those posts. FIrst time I have experienced an inhibition due to openenss. :-o.

 

Maybe more later...

[Bilbo]

I can see that you basically hijacked your own thread, R, when you included the (father-son vs. client-escort) question in your original post. The question you were building up to - Would you want your own son in this profession? - is interesting and getting ignored. From your second posting, it seems obvious that for you the answer is no. For me, I cannot be sure, never having had a son. I do know that I felt proud when my chowchow was hired to breed - but that is hardly the same thing, much as I call myself his daddy. And I do know that there is one of my nephews whom I would gladly advise on how to work his way into this profession correctly, when and if his time should come. (But he's not my son and I don't have one, etc.) I have trouble imagining myself suggesting such a course of action to that nephew, and aside from running into his advertising or seeing him on here I don't know how I would know that my advice would be needed. But I do know that if he or either of my grand-nephews ever could use that advice I would be proud to give it. (Of course, this is from an escort's point of veiw, and you were really asking the clients. I, too, am looking forward to what if anything they say regarding this specific question.)

[Rod Hagen]

>I can see that you basically hijacked your own thread, R,

 

I don't understand, how so?

[Bilbo]

Same way I have in the past. You actually brought up several question in the original posting instead of just one. The one that you answered and that I answered I am taking to be your main question, but everyone else seems to be answering what I am taking to be your subsidiary questions. }>

[+ deej]

I didn't answer the question because it sounded like baiting. :-)

 

I doubt I'd have a problem with my son escorting, so long as he wasn't in the Kirk/Voltaire league. I'd like to think I would've raised him better than that. Giving pleasure is not a bad thing to do with your life. It sure beats causing as much pain as possible!

 

Of course the likelihood of me having a son is somewhere around the likelihood of the moon reversing it's orbiting direction }> so it's a situation I could never be sure of. I'll never experience it.

 

I can just imagine an 18yo son coming to me and saying "Dad, some guy offered me $100 to have sex with him." I'd probably say something like "Not for less than $150, and be safe." :+

[Rod Hagen]

I never intended to bait anybody nor hijack the thread. Obviously my thinking on this subject is not very clear, and so it's unclear what I am asking. I don't even know what the question is. I know that it's not uncommon for escorts and clients to form father-son feelings. I certainly feel, and am treated, like the son by a couple of them. Further I take it up the chute from someone who REALLY "feels", in that warm-skin, Old Spice-scented way, like my real Father, and that's just so bizarre. And when he talks about the progress his own son is making in graduate school, the pride in his eyes makes me melancholy, and I have no idea why. If I had a shitty father, or if I suspected that something was missing from my childhood, perhaps these frustrating, warm, and cozy emotions would make more sense. I'd hoped that hearing from others who are simultaneously proud of their own sons and enamored of an escort or two, would be helpful for me. After all, this message center exists solely for me to work out my own neurosis. :-)

[Guest Kalifornia]

I would have mixed feelings if my son were to become an escort.

 

If he became an escort out of desperation or without any further plan then I would be against it. My feelings would be hurt if he did not come to me if he found himself in such dire straits.

 

Should he decide to escort because it would be something he enjoyed and there were future plans set (outside of escorting) I would not have a problem with it.

 

My biggest concern would be the risk of him being harmed.

 

Mark -Kalifornia

[Guest mplsmn]

I've been a "spectator" reader of the various threads off and on for awhile, but have never joined in because I often held the same views and opinions of those already expressed. I find this topic of special relevance since I have a son 22 and a son 25 and for the past couple years I have been a regular client of an escort who is mid - 20's. I was not drawn repeatedly to the escort strictly because of his age or the likelihood of a father/son role. Rather I enjoy our time together physically, intellectually and emotionally. I have found, however, over the months and years that we have seen each other that the escort developed a trust and comfort level with me that resulted in his confiding many of his personal struggles with me. I consider it a compliment that he trusts my counsel, suggestions and assistance. He has never asked for help financially and I am not sure how I would respond, if he did. Perhaps he confides in me because his own father was/is distant both geographically and emotionally. I respond to him in a way quite similar to the way I would with my own two sons when they want to talk something over. Now to another issue raised in this thread: although it is hypothetical, at least to my knowledge so far, "how would I react if my son wanted to escort?" I believe that I would respond in the same way as if he wanted to be a soldier or a surgeon. I would discuss the reasons and the risks and be sure he had gone through a rational process of making a concious decision. I would be just as much a "whore" as he would be, if I were to fault him for his choosing that line of work. Certainly the client is just as key to the success of this industry as the escort! BUT...again I would respond just as if he wanted to be a soldier or a surgeon: I would insist that he be damned good at it!