when should I worry about a noshow?

[firsttimer]

I'm new to all this and it's the first time I contacted and scheduled something for my upcoming visit to Los Angeles. He has been reviewed here in the past but not recently. He was very good at emailing me with information and setting up an appointment this Sunday but I haven't heard from him since 8/29. I've emailed him back twice without any response. I know that he may be busy with other clients, but I'm wondering when should I worry that he may not show? I just don't want to be stood up. Maybe I am just freaking out since I'm new and just need to give him more time. Thanks for your advice!

[AdamSmith]

Phone him!

[+ sf westcoaster]

Try to contact him on Saturday by telephone. If not on Saturday then early Sunday. If there is no answer, you should probably be prepared for a no-show.

[firsttimer]

I can't phone him now because I'm trying to be discreet.

But I finally got another email back just now from him. Wish me luck this Sunday =X

[Lookin]

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Perhaps easier said than done on your first hire, but I'd suggest not worrying at all. Figure out what's the worst that can happen, and prepare for it. If he doesn't show up, have three other guys that you're going to call. If nobody's available, treat yourself to a nice meal and hook up with somebody better the next day.

 

Some escorts say they get bad vibes from a client who communicates too much before an appointment. They may not know you just have the first-time jitters, and they're not prepared for a lot of hand-holding up front. Maybe it's best that you don't get one of those guys for your first time.

 

Maybe the first time won't be the perfect experience. Maybe it will be the second or third time. But it will happen, and probably sooner if you go into it relaxed.

 

Good luck!

[EXPAT]

I would also be aware that of all the markets where I have lived and hired, the LA market is the worst for escorts flaking on clients. For whatever the reason it happens here a lot.

 

One escort told me that this is also a horrible market for clients as well for the same reason. So who knows.

[Guest Merlin]

I recently went to LA and contacted an escort several days in advance about a specific date and time and he agreed. When I arrived and contacted him he was mildly surprised. He said he really expected me to flake out as 90% of guys who contact him days ahead of time never pan out.

[KMEM]

We all have preconceived notions that aren't always correct, don't we?

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[+ purplekow]

We all have preconceived notions that aren't always correct, don't we?

 

Best regards,

KMEM

 

 

I do not and I have always known that about myself.

[KMEM]

I do not and I have always known that about myself.

 

So, you have always been spontaneous and knew you were going to be in advance?

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[+ purplekow]

So, you have always been spontaneous and knew you were going to be in advance?

 

Best regards,

KMEM

 

 

Exactly, During the week I always schedule some time to be spontaneous.

[KMEM]

I applaud your advance planning if not your hindsight.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[firsttimer]

so sadly I'm sitting here at the hotel and can't get a hold of him so I guess this is going to turn out to be a no show despite our previous planning.

[Guest greatness]

oh I'm sorry

 

That happened to me a couple of times. Well try to go with someone well reviewed here next time. Think of it as a good way. You saved your money. If an escort can honor your time then his service will likely be lousy anyway.

 

 

so sadly I'm sitting here at the hotel and can't get a hold of him so I guess this is going to turn out to be a no show despite our previous planning.

[+ purplekow]

Hey firsttimer. Try going to rentboy and see if there is someone that appeals to you and on line right now. Call him over and fuck your brains out. No tears for the schmuck who didn't show.

[Guest RianB]

I recently went to LA and contacted an escort several days in advance about a specific date and time and he agreed. When I arrived and contacted him he was mildly surprised. He said he really expected me to flake out as 90% of guys who contact him days ahead of time never pan out.

 

that does happen...I remember reading an ad from somewhere saying "no advanced appointments, you must be ready when you call". Probably due to that. For a awhile I would get bugged about people who cancelled advanced bookings, but then it can also happen with same day bookings too. I wouldnt want to be unprepared for either one so I take each one as if it were.

 

Phone him!

 

You said it succinctly...Notice how he said 'phone' rather than 'text'

[firsttimer]

I did phone him and after three calls he finally picked up and came (hours late but showed up at least). Thanks for all your advice. As a first timer it was so nerve wracking.

[Txpaytoplay]

Bummer!

 

You know....I had a similar experience, but when he finally called in, he said he was in an accident getting out of his garage out of the apartment building he was living in. Needless to say, I said we would reschedule but I haven't yet. Guess the sting is still with me.

[buckguy]

Worrying about a no-show

 

Most guys will have a procedure for reconfirming an appt made several days before (and sometimes even for the same day if the appt is much later in the day. I always ask what that is, partly to be provide a way of communicating that I'm serious abt hiring and expect the same in return. So, once the appt is made I'll ask, "let me know how you want to reconfirm" or closer to an appt. "what's the best way to get your hotel info".

[Romann]

For myself, I have made it a practice to always ask for a contact number as a detail to seal the deal and lock in a date and time for the appointment. I always let the client know that the reason I'm asking for the number is so that I can personally call and confirm the appointment the night before if it's an early booking or the morning of. I follow that up by asking if it is okay for me to voice mail if he's unable to answer - don't want to get anyone in trouble. Most of the time, the client was already aware that I would be calling the morning of and accepts the call without any issue. As a courtesy, I will usually call (or text if they prefer) that I'm on my way to their hotel and that I would see them shortly.

 

From the time of booking to the actual appointment date and time, I try to keep in contact with the client assuming the booking was made in advance.

[Guest RianB]

I always let the client know that the reason I'm asking for the number is so that I can personally call and confirm the appointment the night before if it's an early booking or the morning of.

 

As a courtesy, I will usually call (or text if they prefer) that I'm on my way to their hotel and that I would see them shortly.

 

Calling or texting someone while en route is a good idea. If its a longer trip, I may call a couple of times, before I leave the house and before I walk up.

 

My only thing is, when it comes down to calling a client, especially a new client to 'confirm' a booking Im reluctant to do so. I just feel calling a client uninvited (even to simply confirm a booking) may come off as 'forward' or 'pushy' when it comes down to an advanced booking. In addition I've never had much success doing so either. The times I've broken the rule and did so, they either cancel on the spot or say yes, but then dont show up. I've also seen it happen to others as well, mainly people who take incalls.

 

I dont mean to imply that what you or anyone else is doing is wrong, but for me I just dont do it. I also tell clients I wont call them either unless Im invited to. I just think if they really want to go forward with it, they have my number. And I ask them to call me by a certain time to confirm, and if they dont I move on. The exception is if I happen to miss their call within a few minutes, then yeah I'll text or ring back.