New to this hobby, looking for friends to hang out in NYC

[Guest gam4sex]

Bluboy

 

Thanks for your post.

 

I would assume that people who frequent this forum are either escorts or someone who is interested in hiring escorts, so I am surprised to read your post advising that I should stay out of this circle.

 

I have never felt this way before, but now it seems like hiring an escort is the only thing I look forward to doing......it is possible that I had a lot of time off in December and thus my mind wanders easily....

 

I have tried the dating scene many many years and had no success. I have gotten really frustrated and tired of dating.

 

Somehow I resorted to hiring escorts for comfort and it really gives me something to look forward ... I admit for the most part it is just lust and good sex ...... but still it beats hanging out in a bar for hours hoping that I can meet someone.

 

 

Thanks for your advice, I do have a lot of issues I need to sort out......

 

 

Happy New Year.

 

GAM4SEX

[Guest gam4sex]

Hi

 

I am new to this hobby of hiring escorts...and I am totally obsessed with it now, I hope this is not the beginning of something tragic..... cause I have been spending an excessive amount of time and money on escorts this month and I don't seem to be slowing down at any rate.

 

Anyway, I am looking to hang out with other guys in NYC who is into hiring escorts....perhaps a night out at RED ...... I have several issues about hiring escorts and would love to exchange ideas with others who live in nyc.

 

If anyone interested, please email me or post here, I have pics to trade if that helps.

 

ME, asian 35 y.o,

 

[email protected]

[Guest bluboy]

Don't do it. Get out while you still can preserve your common sense, your dignity and your W2-- addiction at the end of this road is not a good thing. blu

[marc anthony]

I don't think blu was advising you not to hire escorts at all... you are correct that most on this site are either escorts or johns. I think he was telling you not to get consumed by it.

 

I love hiring escorts myself, and do it alot when I travel. But I always put money on the side for it as I save up for trips, and stick to a budget (albeit a sizable one). But like anything else that is fun, it will rapidly become NOT fun if you let it control your entire life.

 

Off to my New Year's Party... and there will be no escorts at it either. Have to have balance in life, you know.

[+ Lucky]

Marc, you went to a NY Party without escorts? What was it,a senior-citizens club?

[+ Charlie]

When I first discovered the joy of sex with escorts, I was obsessed with it: I hardly thought about anything else, and I spent every cent I could scrape together on it. Of course, I had behaved pretty much the same when I first discovered free sex with men twenty years earlier. And each time, when I had had enough, I learned to slow down and indulge more reasonably.

 

Although I understand the advice given by blu and marc, I'm not convinced that escorts are the same kind of addiction as drugs. Some people need to overindulge in a pleasure at first in order to get perspective on it. Just try not to do something that will truly damage your future, such as using money that you really do need for something else, or destroying a good career for lack of attention, or engaging in unsafe sex acts because someone is willing to do for money what you couldn't get for love.

[Guest Tampa Yankee]

>Marc, you went to a NY Party without escorts? What was it,a

>senior-citizens club?

 

LOL............ goo one, brought my first smile of the new year, Thanks Lucky

 

:-)

[Boston Guy]

Gam4sex:

 

Welcome! You've already gotten some terrific advice above; I hope you'll consider it carefully.

 

There have been many discussions here about why men (or, at least, the guys who come here) hire escorts. It seems to boil down to two main camps, with lots grey area in between. Some guys hire escorts because it's fun and they're looking for a roll in the hay. Others hire escorts to enjoy companionship and the attention of an attractive guy. Guys in the second group often seem to be looking for more of a "date" than the guys in the first group might be.

 

These are obviously gross generalizations and we're all unique. But if you understand why you hire escorts, that understanding can help you to stay in control of your escort experience instead of letting it control you.

 

I suspect many have started out with a big plunge; it's rather like being a little boy in a candy store and there are so many attractive escorts out there. And it's fun! But keeping it in context can help you to make sure that you don't find yourself in a situation where you just went through your life savings or lost your job or your lover or some other valuable thing.

 

One thing, perhaps, to keep in mind at all times: hiring an escort is a business transaction. The best escorts will be able to make you feel like an old friend and you will find that you are almost immediately comfortable in their embrace. They may treat you to some of the best sex you've ever had. And they can help you in many ways, from simply providing an outlet for gay sex to boosting a sagging libido or helping to restore a self-confidence that might have taken one or two hits too many.

 

But it's still a business transaction, not unlike going to a professional masseur or a professional spa. It's possible that you will become friends with an escort, but unlikely. Yes, you may become quite friendly, but the relationship seldom moves to real friendship. And it's always based on money.

 

So understand what you hope to get from the guys you hire. Seek guys who seem to offer the most of what you want. But keep it in context and don't let it rule you and don't make the mistake of confusing escorts with the true friends who populate your life.

 

And one final piece of advice: it's worth making a budget for hiring escorts and sticking to it, even though at times that might be difficult.

 

Good luck, welcome and happy new year. :-)

 

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[marc anthony]

:7

 

LOL! No, I am afraid that if I were in NYC, I would have NOT had balance and would have gone to a party with LOTS of escorts. And if there weren't such a party, I would have thrown my own party!

 

Rang in the New Year with family and friends in the old hometown. I am not saying that this bunch wouldn't appreciate the beauty of my favorite escorts, but it might be the women who would!

[Guest gam4sex]

To Boston Guy & Charlie

 

Thanks for the posts...WELL SAID and it sure does put things in perspective.

 

It s great to have a support group here

 

I am sure I will think less about hiring once I get back to work tomorrow. I simply had way too much time to myself last month.

 

A kid in a candy store, that s exactly how I feel. But definitely, SAFE sex, there s no other way.....

 

I am ringing in the new year with either Scott Matthews, Chad Hunt or Tony Zerega. I am setting my budget to no more than TWO per month...and hopefully maybe down to ONE per month eventually. We will see how that goes......new year's resolution literally !!

 

Actually I don't feel as intense about this as I was yesterday......kind of nervous about work tomorrow already, so I guess this is a good sign.

 

Thanks again guys....Happy New Year...

 

GAM4SEX