Sacred Intimacy Sessions

[Damascene]

Simple question (I hope). What is the difference between SIS

with a masseur and hiring a escort. Some of the masseurs on

their website mention it but the descriptions sounds like what

you hire an escort for?

[Eric]

The difference between a session with an escort and a Sacred Intimate is essentially the intention of the session as well as the skill and knowledge used.

 

The escort brings his own innate gifts: playfulness, big dick, tight ass, great body, open heart, etc. The escort usually has not had any formal instruction other than in the School of Hard Knocks. The intention for a session with an escort is typically to have great sex with, perhaps, some role play tossed in for extra excitement. If that experience also happens to address and heal some deep emotional issue of the client, it's typically a surprise.

 

Like the escort, the Sacred Intimate brings his own innate gifts and usually has devoted considerable time, money and attention in developing some healing skills. The intention of a Sacred Intimacy session is to address in a healing way some deep emotional issue of the client. A Sacred Intimate uses conscious breathing, skilled touch and empathetic connection with the client in a safe erotic environment. Frequently a session will involve consciously raising the client's erotic energy so it becomes a full-body experience. This can be profoundly healing. The session is usually one-way where the Sacred Intimate gives and the client receives. Whatever is done in the session - really ANYTHING could be done - it done with the intention of achieving some kind of healing. Sex may be used in Sacred Intimacy sessions, but that is extremely rare. It is so easy for both the Sacred Intimate and the client to become lost in dynamic back-and-forth energy of sex that it is unlikely sex is the best approach. Typically clients have already had lots of sex so it is unlikely that having sex yet again will result in any transformative healing. Typically the Sacred Intimate will get at the issue/desire that lies underneath client's request for sex in some unusual and creative way that will offer the client fresh perspectives and options. A Sacred Intimate might coach a client through having sex with another and in this way assist the client to break out of the client's unsatisfying routine.

 

Eric

http://www.erotichealer.com

[Guest Jweatherman]

A good Sacred Intimate and Escort could/should overlap in the center of the broad continuum of Erotic work. My intentions as a SI make the difference for me. Somehow, those intentions attract clients who are appropriate and ready to work, which I believe is an important factor and difference in the two kinds of experience. A SI client is going to work hard to heal and make the growth and movement they want and need. I will work hard to help that happen, but its not about me. When I book with a good sex worker, I want to be done, feel fabulous and its all about me. SI clients may spend a lot of time crying and grieving. A good sex worker shouldn't make you cry. There is a need and a niche for both kinds of work. Advertising SI work is very difficult. Too many words loose people but, somehow clients find us. I tend to think of that as a magickal element of the work. And, online chats have been the best way I have found of spreading understanding and interest in SI work. People look at my website and then say, what is it you really are doing? Bottom line is if you are good it doesn't matter what you call yourself, there will be plenty of work to do.

[Bilbo]

I''m doing something similar between my now outlawed massage knowledge, my Tantric studies and my being a Reiki Master. Do you feel that one needs specific training and/or recognition from a particular school to do SI?

[Eric]

I believe there are many sex workers who, without formal education, are doing profoundly healing work. By giving clients experiences that honor their erotic bodies, they open a doorway to healing shame, making the heart/genital connection and spiritual awareness.

 

I also believe there is great value in the skill and credibility that can be obtained through the formal instruction and supervised practice of sexual/erotic healing arts. Certainly the massage techniques for raising and circulating erotic energy (quite different from those used to release muscle tension) are best learned from a skilled instructor. In our sex-negative culture, the healing potential of erotic energy is excluded and shamed in most massage schools. As far back as 1926, Wilhelm Reich said, "Those who are psychically ill need but one thing - complete and repeated genital gratification." Still, healers who use erotic energy risk legal persecution.

 

I am grateful to the Body Electric School (http://www.bodyelectric.org) for courageously providing intensive workshops that explore the conscious and ethical application of many healing arts to Sacred Intimacy.

 

Eric

http://www.erotichealer.com

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Whoever travels without a guide

needs two hundred years for a two-day journey" - - Rumi

[Bilbo]

But getting there is half the fun! (Couldn't resist it ;-) )

[Bilbo]

I just referred to this thread over in the Escort Travels section, under "Austin, January 21, 22 (&23?)", so I am throwing this in here just to bring it up to the top where people can find it easier.

[Guest James2]

LAST EDITED ON Jan-09-01 AT 07:12PM (EST)[p]I feel, (if one was to view SI work from a 'two way mirror'), that Sacred Intimate work does indeed, look like escort work. Having taken the Sacred Intimate workshop from the Body Electric School in California, I can understand and appreciate the idealized model of what the BE schools Sacred Intimacy sessions can accomplish. The concepts of 'intention' and 'healing' are key to this process. In the real world with real people though, I find that I need to be flexible and understanding towards clients needs and where they are 'coming from'. Much of my work then, involves a mixture of the two.

 

In addition to what Eric and John have said, I would like to add some additional comments:

 

"Healing" takes many forms. I had a client last Sunday literally sit up on the massage table and say "I've never felt such pleasure". We talked about pleasure in his life... this session reminded him that he not only can receive intense pleasure, but that he is deserving of it. One does not need to see an SI with any sort of an 'issue' or 'problem'.. Sometimes a client just wants to step in, leave his work and worries at the door, and simply 'enjoy'. Pleasure heals!

 

A few other reminders:

- Every Sacred Intimate, or "Bodyworker who does Intimacy Sessions" (as I prefer to classify myself as) is different. Just as any graduate from a massage school, even when instructed by the same teacher, will give a very different massage.

 

- There are some excellent Escorts out there; caring, intuitive, loving, respectful. Don't think that just because an escort has a big dick and nice pecs, that he's any less, or is incapable of providing a meaningful, healing experience.

 

Some of this boils down to semantics and verbalage (a vegitable ). If you are good at what you do, as John says, it doesn't matter what you call yourself. I believe people come into my life (and my work) as a blessing for both concearned.

 

James (#2)

New York

http://members.aol.com/PlayguyNY

[Guest Travis69]

So many people haven't figured out how beneficial massage can be to them. It's a hour of being touched, relaxing, escaping whatever "stresses" you may have, and being pampered. Forget the new shirt you want from Macy's. Treat yourself to a massage instead.

[Guest Blink]

huh?

[Bilbo]

I want to recommend the novels of Mercedes Lackey. She has a profession for some of her characters - "kestrachern" - which parrallels in perhaps all ways the concept of the Sacred Intimate. This is easiest to find in her Griffin trilogy - White Griffin, Black Griffin and Silver Griffin - where the main character is a kestrachern. Has anyone else, particularly anyone trained at BE, read them?