Help on Spanking Techniques

[Guest RandyRon]

Guys I need some help/advice. I posted here a while back that I had been with two escorts (Kaleb and Kory in Chicago) that enjoyed being spanked and that I really got into it. I've scheduled another session with them and I want to make sure they enjoy it. They say they like being spanked both with the hand and with a paddle.

 

I'm sure there are techniques to this activity and since I'm a novice I need some guidance. How hard do I go at it? Do I just keep pounding until they yell stop? The first time I did it, I alternated using my hand to spank him and caressing his butt. I also varied the intensity of my blows, increasing the force gradually and after a few really hard whacks decreasing the severity of the blows until I was just stroking his ass. Am I going about this correctly?

 

Help me make this a good session for both the escort and myself.

[+ Cock Eyed Optimist]

I happened to go to the leatherbar called "Touche" on the northside of Chicago last weekend, and they were having a spanking demonstration. I had never seen this, but stopped to watch. This is what I picked up:

They had a myriad of paddles - everything from a ping-pong paddle to a flat spatula. The demonstrator said the secret was to start out slowly, to "sensitize" the skin all over the glute area. He said that this "seasoned" the skin for harder paddling later on. Small light taps at first all over the area, then move on to a larger paddle and increase the intensity. He said to feel the warmth in the skin, and not to increase intensity until one could see a little pink developing and could feel a warming of the skin. By the end, he was dishing out some pretty hard whollops. What I didn't understand was who is getting the sexual excitement from this - the paddler or the guy being paddled? I couldn't see any "rise" on either of their parts. Hope this helps.

[duke37]

Umm sounds like a good thread for the fetish board. Actually there are lots of good techniques. What you did was fine. And sounded fun for that matter.

 

Its usually good and fun to go from caresses to hard whacks and back and forth. If you vary the timing and intensity it can really get into the head of the uhh "spankee".

 

On the other hand some guys like (and need) a good ole fashioned ass whalloping. So I guess you have to explore (and discuss) with your partner.

 

Jeff

[HotdadENYC]

Sounds like you did a nice job, all on your own. Regardless of technique, I think the important thing, as mentioned, is to find out what makes it enjoyable for the 'spankee.'

 

If you're into it, a nice hot wet tongue is also a good tool to keep available in your arsenal !

 

Have fun,

hd NYC

[Okliehomo]

Sounds to me like you are doing it exactly right. Wish that I could find an escort that could do it like that. If you are interested, there's a company called Close Up Productions that has some really hot spanking videos. What makes their films so hot is that the spanking is foreplay before the sex and there is alot of caressing and fingering and rimming mixed in with the over the knee action. Very hot. I thought from your review that only Kaleb got spanked? I assumed that Kory must do the spanking.....at least, that made for a good fantasy. Be sure and post after your session or email me with the details. A good spanking is hard to find...

Okiehomo

[Guest Smoothee]

This site is good, too. http://www.spankthis.com/home.php

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

The Faux Marc Anothony Responds

 

>Guys I need some help/advice.

 

Buy low, sell high.

 

>I've scheduled another session with them and I want to make sure

>they enjoy it.

 

Scented candles, the current Ashlee Simpson CD and a few pounds of that artificial butter flavoring for popcorn, congealed, for massages....

 

>They say they like being spanked both with the

>hand and with a paddle.

 

The chinchilla gloves are also very popular with the post-modern twink set.

 

 

>How hard do I go at it?

 

Usually, you simply lower the Hello Kitty BVDs....

 

>Do I just keep pounding until they yell stop?

 

This will not be a concern if you simply gag them first.

 

>Am I going about this correctly?

 

Four out of five twinks would agree....

 

 

 

 

http://www.gaydar.co.uk/francodisantis

[HotdadENYC]

RE: The Faux Marc Anothony Responds

 

Franco, I kind of got the impression that this guy wanted some REAL advice about spanking scenes. I believe he was looking for words of wisdom from experienced spankers and spankees and/or both.

 

I do not believe that he was looking for humor and sarcasm.

 

We already have one Rick Munroe and he is in a league all his own.

 

 

hd NYC

[Bilbo]

You might want to vary the textures, too. I have one paddle which is furred on one side. That side doesn't really pop, but the wooden side does and the fur is great for caressing in between. One poster suggested your tongue for contrast. While we're talking mouth, don't forget that you can drag just your top teeth across that sensitized skin. Fingernails are good for that, too.

One sure way to tell when to stop is by establishing a safe word first. Mine is "Uncle." Sort of traditional, and not likely to be used in play otherwise. Just keep playing til they say the word. Then either stop or de-intensify and start working your way back up.

One position Body Electric taught me for spanking is great and fairly rare except for BE graduates. Everyone thinks of across the lap from side to side, but try this ... Sit on the floor or bed and have the "boy" go on all fours in front of you and facing away from you. Then have him "walk" backwards as far as he can. Then take his legs, spread them to either side of you and pull a bit if necessary. You wind up with his cock cradled into yours and your lap and thighs supporting him. Then just play him sort of like a bongo drum. Don't forget to give some of that spanking attention to the backs of his thighs. There's a chance K&K haven't seen this before. Once they get over it's novelty, they might really get into it and thank you for teaching them something. -- This position will naturally vary itself some at times. When the boy is reaching back into your hand with his but, it can pull him into a kneeling position. Do not assume that this means he's had enough. That false assumption might cause you to stop just when he is most getting into what you are giving him. And we all hate coitus interruptus. }(

[SamtopinSTL]

Sounds like what you did was exactly right. As one who has spanked many an escort over the years, again as I say, you did well. Try various positions, and start off slowly and softly perhaps using your hand then, when his butt is slightly pink, go to an implement. Pause every so often. This lets the butt to harden, seansoning, as another writer said, or leathering. By doing this, he will be able to take a lot more later. If both Kory and Kaleb can be spanked, try this. Have them stand side by side, bent over, giving each a specific number of licks, then after a rest period, bend each in turn, over a stool, again for a specific number, harder this time. Finally across the knee, good and hard untill the butt as real red. This scene can be varied of course.

 

Finally do not assume that just because a guy advertises himself as a top means he wont take a spanking. Some of the best whuppings I've ever given, were with top escorts, and even some gay for pay str8t kids. Ask.

[SamtopinSTL]

stgr8t kids were all well over 18, but usually did a father/son scene with them and still think of them as "Kids"

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Get Thee To A Venery

 

>We already have one Rick Munroe and he is in a league all his

>own.

 

He has the sophmore league, I tend to stick to the big leagues, Hot Dad.

[Steven_Draker]

RE:

 

Humor is always welcomed and appreciated here unlike bad attitude.

 

Steven Draker ~

[Guest RandyRon]

Hey Guys,

 

Just got back from Chicago and my session with Kaleb and Kory. Thanks for all the good advice; I definitely tried to put it to use.

 

Kaleb and Kory are great at this spanking thing. I talked with them about the scene as to whether or not they wanted a specific fantasy (Daddy's nasty boy, etc)and they simply prefer the physical act without any fantasy role playing.

 

They are helping me develop some techniques. Did some OTK hand spanking of Kory with him pointing out how best to hold my hand and the spots to aim for. Kaleb had me use a "lash" with several leather strips attached to a leather covered handle (hope I got the term right) on him. We didn't go at it very hard but he seemed to really get into it. I used it on his back as well as his butt for quite some time.

 

Looking forward to the next time in Chicago. Will do a review when it comes back up. Hooboy's passing was a real bummer. One of the escorts I see had to tell me about it because I haven't been online for several days while I've been traveling.

 

Thanks again for the advice. Never too late for this old dog to learn some new tricks.:9 :+