Escorts that keep on calling!!

[Guest Luvembig]

Fellas,

 

I have been seeing an escort, on and off, for about 5 years now.

 

He is a good escort but he KEEPS ON CALLING ME HUSTLING FOR WORK!!!

 

I have told him that I will be the one to call when I want to see him and that he shouldnt call me anymore - sometimes he calls 2 times a day!!!

 

He doesnt get the message - how much clearer can I be with him short of cutting him off altogether?

[Guest 7Zach]

next time, ask him if he does windows or yard work...there's a lot to do in the fall - mulching, pruning, raking, etc. get the rate down.

or you could say that you're waiting for the discharge to clear up, by the way, "did you notice anything? it was pretty subtle at first before it came back gangbangers".

[guyinsf]

If he's calling you twice a day at times and you're turning him down, he's either on drugs and desperate or just stupid (or both).

 

How often do you say "yes"? If you say "yes" to him a significant percentage of the time, you are certainly encouraging his behavior. (Maybe he's not stupid after all; he just knows that persistence pays off.) Perhaps if you declined all of his solicitations and clearly stated that you did not intend to hire him again in the future, he would leave you alone. If not, you could get caller id so you can screen your calls.

[+ deej]

It's happened a couple of times with me. I just tell them this:

 

"If I call you, I'm clearly paying. If you call me, you must be horny but I'm not paying."

 

It usually stops the calls. And when it doesn't, but they "get it", it's fun too. }>

[trilingual]

Deej, I really like your solution! I'm going to pass it on to a close friend who has a weakness for no-class gentlemen callers of the type who repeat and repeat and repeat. . . I don't think he's thought of this approach! :-)

[jackhammer91406]

I've had a similar experience but with an escort I never hired. Responding to a post on a masseur thread I started back in August, the escort has written several times trying to get me to set up an appointment with him. Several e-mails included pics. (hot) but he is a top and I am a top. After I posted my first review of my first escort experience, I received an email asking when was it his turn. I don't want to offend the guy, but I don't think I would want to book someone who isn't going to match up with my preferences. I offered to buy him dinner just to meet him and see if there was any attraction ( I believe he may have referenced that in another thread) but his response was I would have to pay for his time. He seems like a good guy, but what can I do?

jackhammer91406

[guyinsf]

Just tell him the truth: You're a top and you like to hire bottoms. I don't see why he should be offended at that. (At this point, you could point out his crass efforts at hawking himself, but that probably would offend him.)

[jackhammer91406]

I told him early on that while he looked hot, I didn't think we would match up well because we were both tops. Hi reply was : so? two guys can have a lot of fun doing other things. Well, that's true, but I call that foreplay, meaning it is leading up to something else. That's when I suggested dinner so that if there was enough chemistry to make the "other things" satisfying, I might go for it. I am very new to this board and to the idea of escorts. I would rather make "friends" than offend. Anyway, he seems nice, gets good reviews and is an active poster on this board. So, I have just let it go.

jack

[Huey]

>

>He doesnt get the message - how much clearer can I be with

>him short of cutting him off altogether?

 

Try sky writing

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WAR IS OVER

if you want it

GIVE PEACE A CHANCE

[Huey]

>

>He doesnt get the message - how much clearer can I be with

>him short of cutting him off altogether?

 

Try sky writing

-----------

WAR IS OVER

if you want it

GIVE PEACE A CHANCE

[guyinsf]

Did you offer to pay for his time during that dinner? I think your suggestion regarding having dinner and then seeing where the chemistry leads you sends a mixed message. If you are offering to pay his hourly rate while you eat, then by all means hire him for dinner and then decide. If you want him to meet you for free to basically advertise himself in person, you are probably expecting too much. I don't know of any escort who would knowingly agree to have dinner with a potential client who isn't even sure he wants to hire him.

 

I've never paid for anyone's time to eat with me (though I of course pay for the meal), but I have also never asked someone I've never met to have dinner with me to see if I wanted to hire him.

[jackhammer91406]

Point taken. In my mind I had already decided I wasn't going to hire him. To be honest, the "out of the blue" full court press to get hired put me off. But, being new to this and really needing gay friends, I probably did send a mixed message. I really didn't mean it as an audition. But was curious as to what kind of guy he was. Since he spent so much time sending e-mails and even referred me to a good masseur, I thought it might be appropriate to offer to buy dinner as I would a new aquaintance. But you're right, he saw all of it as business and I have just learned an important lesson, IT IS ALL BUSINESS and that's cool. I should look elsewhere to develop gay friends anyway. I just don't have many outlets to do that so I need to work on that. Thanks for the perspective.

jack