DMing on Instagram

[Sunlit_wilderness]

Hi!

I noticed that there have been several queries in The Deli about guys who have some sort of public persona (usually porn actors or onlyfans creators). In the thread, the OP asks if these guys are available for hire and how to meet them. Many times, these guys don’t have RM profiles, so the commenters suggest to reach out using Instagram or Twitter DMs. 
 

I’m potentially interested in doing something similar, but I’m just curious - what would an initial reach out message look like for these sorts of interactions? It’s a little more straightforward with RM considering it’s designed for that and everyone knows what to expect. 
 

Interested in your thoughts. 
 

Thanks!

[DMonDude]

In my experience, asking if they're available for meet ups seems to be the code for that. I've seen some porn/onlyfans creators on twitter who specifically put "i don't do meet ups" on their profile bios. And i've known others who don't have that to be hire-able despite not being on RM and sites like that. You also probably could ask about if they're into meeting "gen"/"generous" guys. That's the more usual code i see on Grindr and hook up apps for.

[Clt704guy]

Yeah, I’ve had tremendous luck DMing guys on Instagram and OF to ask about meet ups. Not an issue at all. 

[+ Jamie21]

Don’t DM on instagram. Especially don’t mention paid meetings or anything similar on there. Instagram will ban suspend or ban the model’s account if they discuss such a thing on there. You’d need to move the discussion off instagram if you wanted to discuss hiring him. Similarly on Onlyfans: they will ban or suspend any creator discussing meets. 
I get guys messaging me on both my IG and OF about meeting and it’s difficult to respond to them directly. Best to contact guys for meets via their X / Twitter (they don’t care!) or via his contact number which you’ll find with a bit of simple research if he’s open for business.