Kudos for Mike Stefano

[BuckyXTC]

Mike:

 

It took tremendous courage and risk to do what you did for this person who's still in the active throes of addiction. Yes, it was risky, no doubt about that. I'm very happy that you were of help to this person, and happier that you didn't stumble. And I have no problem with your sharing of the email in this way, because you made it truly anonymous and protected his identify. It was also useful to see catch a glimpse of what a person using is going through....particularly the sense of isolation and pain. You're helping us all learn and understand, I'm very grateful for that.

 

I look forward to each and every post you make here, knowing you share more than your struggle, but also your kindness and humanity. Everytime we share our inner treasures with others, we bring a blessing to the world. And you've certainly blessed me by your sharing.

 

Big hugs for you and Steph and all the people who are important in your life.

 

Bucky

[Guest LG320126]

>I had the pleasure of dining

>with Stef & Mike a

>couple of days ago.

>Mike looks great (as does

>Stef) and, as usual, when

>I am with them, every

>head turns our way (men

>and women) and I'm sure

>they're not looking at me!

> :-)

>

>HooBoy

>Email: HooBoy@male4malescorts.com

 

DAMN IT HOO, YOU JUST BURST MY BUBBLE! ALL THIS TIME WHEN I WAS DINING WITH THESE TWO I THOUGHT IT WAS ME THAT WAS TURNING HEADS. NOW I KNOW.

[Guest cmp]

To the person who met Mike: I am glad you are trying to do something about your problem. I hope you are about to make the first big step in the right direction. If it's not too much of a burden, post here from time to time and let us know how you are doing, we are holding our fingers crossed for you.

 

Dear Mike,

 

You are being true to your wonderful nature. The people who are around you are so lucky.

 

Big hug!

[Guest Stephan-Lacoste]

I feel very lucky

 

Stephan Lacoste

1-702-616-3345

http://www.stephanlacoste.com

http://www.eboysvideo.com

[Guest Stefano]

>To the person who met Mike:

>I am glad you are

>trying to do something about

>your problem. I hope

>you are about to make

>the first big step in

>the right direction. If

>it's not too much of

>a burden, post here from

>time to time and let

>us know how you are

>doing, we are holding our

>fingers crossed for you.

>

 

I hope so also. Tonight my NA meeting (also my home group) was wonderful. I had a client before and as the time came for me to rush out, I mentioned going to an NA meeting. He then said, "Oh, I should go with you." I was in the bathroom at that time and thought that he was joking. So I came out to see whether or not he was serious. He was. He hasn't done any drugs for over ten years but also believes in the 12 steps and meetings. We got there really late but as we walked in we were greeted with lots of smiles. ;-)~ After the meeting I spoke to my fellow homies,LOL, and he spoke with a few people as well. After we left he told me that he believes everything happens for a reason and he thanked me for inviting him. To him I was the one that should be thanked. But it was his company that I was grateful for. If you read this, thank you.

 

>Dear Mike,

>

>You are being true to your

>wonderful nature. The people

>who are around you are

>so lucky.

>

>Big hug!

 

Well you know something, I am able to say thank you today. I say thank you because I believe that I am surrounded with people like myself carryinng similar positive energy. I think the people surrounding my life these days, whether it be via vegas or via Hooboy, are all beautiful. Including you! Thank you.. Nite boys.

 

Mike ;-)~ 50 days and counting.....

http://www.MrMikeStefano.com

Cell (702) 277-1705

[Guest cp8036]

CMP,

 

Thanks for the note and kind words, I appriecate your concern. Be assured I will make steps to correct things in my life. Isolation is one of the biggest problems someone in my situation faces. Mike correctly pointed that out.

[Guest LG320126]

>CMP,

>

>Thanks for the note and kind

>words, I appriecate your concern.

> Be assured I will

>make steps to correct things

>in my life. Isolation

>is one of the biggest

>problems someone in my situation

>faces. Mike correctly

>pointed that out.

 

DEAR CP,

 

ALTHOUGH FEW OF US HERE KNOW EACH OTHER ON A PERSONAL BASIS, I THINK I CAN SPEAK FOR THE MAJORITY OF US WHEN I TELL YOU THAT YOU NEVER NEED TO FEEL ISOLATED ON THIS MESSAGE BOARD, FOR SOMEONE, IF NOT EVERYONE HERE WILL ALWAYS BE HERE FOR YOU! RIGHT MIKE?

[Guest Stefano]

>

>DEAR CP,

>

>ALTHOUGH FEW OF US HERE KNOW

>EACH OTHER ON A PERSONAL

>BASIS, I THINK I CAN

>SPEAK FOR THE MAJORITY OF

>US WHEN I TELL YOU

>THAT YOU NEVER NEED TO

>FEEL ISOLATED ON THIS MESSAGE

>BOARD, FOR SOMEONE, IF NOT

>EVERYONE HERE WILL ALWAYS BE

>HERE FOR YOU! RIGHT

>MIKE?

 

 

That's right LG. I also want to thank you for speaking up and again I hope you don't hold any harsh feelings towards me for posting your letter. I do have a question. Doesn't it feel at least a tiny bit relieving to be able to speak up here let go of a small portion of the denial. I applaud you... Hang in there and don't ever give up on yourself. Think of where you've come from and where you've been. And most importantly think of where you are now. Is it a happy place to be? I know I sound a bit romper-roomish right now but It's the only way I can think of planting that seed of recovery in you. By making you think simpe. Don't overanalyze and complicate things more than they are. Take steps at you own pace. But try to take steps forward and bot backwards. I will be here for you to call on for support if you ever need an ear or anything else. Call me......Remember, life is a beautiful gift that is too short these days. But doing drugs to make them longer only makes you miss out on the beautiful dreams that sleep holds...

 

Mike ;-)~ <--M.M.O.T.

http://www.MrMikeStefano.com

(702) 277-1705

[Guest cp8036]

LG,

 

Thanks for the kind thoughts and the positive reinforcement. I don't feel isolated knowing that are good people like you out there. However, in the past I have been a private person, keeping feelings and/or problems inside. I know for any progress I will need to make myself more open so that people can offer encouragemnt. Again, I thank you for your kind words and support in this battle.

 

Dan

[BuckyXTC]

Hey Mike:

 

Sorry I haven't posted anything for a few days, but things have been pretty busy on my end. I hope all is going well for you, keep us up to date, we truly care.

Bucky

[Guest cp8036]

Hi Mike,

 

Thanks for the note. Never hard feelings for your posting of my mail to you. I know you did with good intentions, so you sincerity speaks for itself.

 

Not needing to exclaim what a sweet guy you are, your time to meet and write shows what a genuine person you are. Considering your business, and that you typically charge for your companionship, your pro-bono time surely proves you are real person. Often we read from clients complaining that an escort was detached, sub-human, and uninterested. I know this could never be applied to you. Even in a business setting I could see how personnable and real you would be. You have a good heart, something that seems rare in this industry.

 

To answer your question, speaking up here, albeit very anonymous, was a relief and a step in the right direction. One of my best friends came to town this weekend, and I spent most of the day in the wine country with her. I was about to reveal my "issue" with her, but was bit too scared. I would feel guilty for bringing her into this, having her worry, making calls every day, and so on.

 

I did spend a long and late night with a friend this past week. He is a addict as well (actually more involved), and we both spoke about how bad this stuff is and the way it has impacted our lives. Like me, he is always holding his thoughts. He looks and sounds very normal and in control of his life. Being self-employed he doesn't need to worry about work place issues. But, he admitted that he cannot really think of anyone in his life that is a true friend. The people that he thinks are friends are merely guys that exploit him for drugs and sex. It's a shame to see a handsome young man feel so bad about his relations with people. But, we both know this is the affect of drugs. We're thinking of leaving behind cell-phones, lap-tobs, drugs, and taking a road trip to Canada. Getting away from here for a week or so would be a good way to start.

[Will]

>One of my best friends

>came to town this weekend,

>and I spent most of

>the day in the wine

>country with her. I

>was about to reveal my

>"issue" with her, but was

>bit too scared. I

>would feel guilty for bringing

>her into this, having her

>worry, making calls every day,

>and so on.

 

Dan (if I may), turn this around: If your friend had recently been diagnosed with terminal, inoperable cancer, how would you feel on learning that fact only when she was on her deathbed? Wouldn't you rather she had revealed her "issue" to you, because she trusted you and knew that she could rely on you? Wouldn't you prefer that she have put up with a little guilt for bringing you into this? And wouldn't you have assured her that there was nothing for her to feel guilty about? Wouldn't you LIKE to worry about her, call her every day, and so on?

 

When I was an active addict, I never told any of my friends about my worries for all the reasons you cite. Or so I thought. What I was really doing was keeping my addiction a secret from people who didn't share it. Why? Because I was in denial about how serious it was and I was afraid that if I told them, I'd have to stop using.

 

>We're thinking

>of leaving behind cell-phones, lap-tobs,

>drugs, and taking a road

>trip to Canada.

>Getting away from here for

>a week or so would

>be a good way to

>start.

 

To start what? Are you so sure that two addicts on a road trip is a recipe for recovery? What are you going to do when you're in the middle of nowhere and the craving strikes both of you at the same time? What are you going to do when you finally get to a city -- and a source -- when you are both crawling the walls with craving? Why will it be easier to get straight in Canada than in the United States?

 

Maybe you could save your money, stay at home, and go together to the next Narcotics Anonymous meeting you can find.

 

One of the wisest sayings about recovery that I know is this: We are only as sick as our secrets. Most addicts can say, with you, "Like me, he is always holding his thoughts." Nothing in the world is going to make your lonelier, more miserable, and increasingly isolated than continuing to nourish your addiction. On top of that, after it's made you wish you were dead, it will do just that for you: it will kill you. That is not an exaggeration.

 

But you have already found a way out, a helping hand and a sign of hope, in Mike.

 

How bad does it have to get before you take his hand?

 

It isn't true that you don't have friends. You have friends right here on this board. I'm one of them, and I'm going to keep you in my thoughts and prayers from now on.

 

Don't be afraid or ashamed. Anybody you meet in an NA meeting has either done it himself or knows somebody who has!

 

I'm sure I'm not the only one here who is with you in this.

[Guest cp8036]

Will,

Thanks for the support and the wise words of experience. As an ex-addict your words are especially dear, we've all been in the same boat. "We are more alike than we are different"... (forgot who said that).

 

Yes, if a friend was terminally ill with cancer I would like to know. I would want to spend precious time together with her. However, I don't think most folk are open minded about substance abuse issues. Knowing what happened in my case, I realize that good people can easily fall into drug or alcohal addiction. Many people will just think the person was irresponsible, whereas cancer is an illness that may not be preventable. Not wanting to sound Nancy Reaganesque -- we could just say NO to drugs.

 

I have taken the good hand of Mike and others like you. Perhaps this week a small step, but more steps to come. I cannot deny what problems I face now.

 

Our flawed reasoning for taking a trip was to get away from the party culture and drug supply of SF. It seems this place is the meth Capitol of the country. Just a quick call and walk around the block and you are set. Four or five drug-free days would be hard... I would probably sleep most of the time. If I got that far, it would be some motivation to keep going. I would follow with NA, visit to the doctor, etc.

 

Thank you again for being a kind person and a friend. One can never have too many friends. Fortunately I feel lucky to have goods friends in my life (here and offline). I have just hidden some of my problems from them. My friend, however, has become bitter and feels alone. Exposure to drugs 24/7 has made him irrational and paranoid. I need not look too far in my life to see the path my life will follow.

[lokki]

Mike:

 

Congratulations! I miss you here in LA but I am very proud to read what you are accomplishing and I'm sending positive thoughts your way.

 

You are a very special person (though I doubt you fully appreciate how special just yet).

 

Keep on the path you're on!

[Guest cmp]

Mike,

 

How are you doing today? Any news? How many days without it? In what ways is your sponsor helpful? (give him my thanks for taking care of you for me) And about 10,000 additional questions of the same sort, but I'm trying to keep this short. Please fill us in with your update, we are addicted to the elation induced by reading the good news about your progress.

[lokki]

Oops! Lokki=Frank in LA.

[Guest Chaz46m]

>Mike,

>

>How are you doing today?

>Any news? How many

>days without it? In

>what ways is your sponsor

>helpful? (give him my thanks

>for taking care of you

>for me) And about

>10,000 additional questions of the

>same sort, but I'm trying

>to keep this short.

>Please fill us in with

>your update, we are addicted

>to the elation induced by

>reading the good news about

>your progress.

 

 

 

 

Mike you dont know me But I do know you through STEF. Hang in there BABE. CHUCK

[BuckyXTC]

I talked with Mike a few days ago and he was doing well, but haven't heard anything lately from him. Mike, let us know how you're doing. We care about you.

BuckyXTC

[Guest Stephan-Lacoste]

Hello everyone,

Sorry I have been away for a while now, just got very very busy in Las Vegas.

I just wanted to let you know that Mike is doing great. He hasn't been much on the computer for almost a week as well. He was gone for a short trip and came back to vegas yesterday. But he already left this morning to an other trip and will be back tomorrow. He is a busy boy as well. He is doing great and it is almost 2 months now for him. I'm so proud of him.

Hug

stef

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