How do you handle this one!

[Guest N]

There is an escort (nameless because I don't see any point to naming him) who I have seen on numerous ocassions. Enjoyed all of them. I even thought we were establishing a relationship aside from the Escort/Client one. Not in place of it, but in tandem.

 

In reading other's reviews of him, I have noticed that he is charging less then he has been charging me. I often have tipped him but feel a bit disappointed that he would charge me more then he charges some others.

 

This is not a one time event. I have seen at least three reviews listing the lower fee (and I don't mean $25) from people who obviously were not regulars.

 

It has turned me off on seeing him, but I miss the good times with him.

 

Any suggestions how I can handle this?

[Guest ChicagoCorey]

To play devil's advocate (or callboy's advocate...perhaps the same thing), the reviews might not be accurate. There's the possibility that the reviewers put a lower amount in (for whatever reason). It's happened to me.

 

More than likely, though, he's charging you that much because he has in the past and thinks he can continue to do so. His reasons for doing so are obvious; his reasons for charging others are probably between him and this guy. It could have to do with any number of things, including economic need. I know a lot of guys out there say they charge ($X) but, if they need more money, will lower that rate to ($X minus a substantial amount) if they think that will bring a client in for the transaction.

 

(And they'd probably me more prone to do this with a non-regular, knowing that this person wouldn't be around to expect the "discount" rate.)

 

Personally, I think this sort of "bird in the hand" mentality of bargaining isn't good for business or one's self-esteem. But if you enjoy his company, I wouldn't hold it against him.

 

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[Guest ChicagoCorey]

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>(And they'd probably me more prone

>to do this with a

>non-regular, knowing that this person

>wouldn't be around to expect

>the "discount" rate.)

>

 

(And they'd probably BE more prone to do this...)

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[Guest Viewmaster]

Yes - quickly and directly. It doesn't need to be confrontational. A simple statement of the facts should do the trick. "I have seen 3 reviews that all listed a fee that is lower than what I have been paying you. Can you help me understand why that is?". If he's a man of integrity, he should be able to handle the question without getting defensive.

[Guest ohioguy13]

It could also be location. I know of escorts that charge by the market value of the city. where the going rate may be $150.00 here in Ohio...It will be $200.00 say in New york or LA.

If he is a regular...just ask him...be honest...

[Guest Merlin]

Some escorts charge different rates for in calls vs out calls, distant vs close, day vs night. And some charge differently depending on the type of service requested.

[+ Charlie]

He may have found out subsequent to your first encounter that his rate was too high for the market, but you seem comfortable paying it, so it may be awkward for him to raise the subject. He may also fear that lowering it would be a signal of emotional involvement that could be misinterpreted by you. I agree with the others: why not just ask him? (Or are you afraid that bringing it up could sour the whole arrangement?)