Escorts Who Don't Mnd Big Guys.......

[Guest PoloJoe]

and, I'm not talking Penis Size.

 

Last night I foud myself in New York City unexpectly for work. But things went very well, so I decided to treat myself to the company f a hot man for an hour (had 2.5 hours till my train home.....) I made some calls, allot of the guys were out, or already booked. I totally understood this, as it was a "spur" of the moment. Anyway, I was able to reach one, and we set up an appointment for as soon as I could get here (a 10 inue cab ride). I was up-front on the phone with him (as I am with any escort I speak with I am a ChubBear (5-10, 315) and not a BodyBuilder.

 

When I got to his door, I knocked, and he opened the door. "My, you are fat, aren't you? A regular tub of lard" He closed the door in my face, and I heard him laughing as he did.

 

OK, so I am not a gymbody, or a model but, But I am a peron of flesh, blood, and feelings.(and, a nice ne I've been told) Why was I treated by him, and other escorts like this? This as happened before to me, when I met up, and was trying to book appoinments! I've beenwith a # of escorts, but only a few have made me feel like a person, and not a $$ sign.

 

I am gonna be in NYC next Saturday 7/28 thru Tues. 7/31. and am loking for a escort to " play" with. Any of you New YYork guys willing (or can any of you recomend a guy?)

 

Thanks!

[Guest jizzdepapi]

this was really rude and unnecessary behavior and i wish you would post the name of the escort who did this. i'm not large myself but i wouldn't give this guy a red cent if i could avoid it and there may be others here who feel the same.

 

you don't say anything about the type of guy or scene you're looking for. why don't you do that on another message here?

 

good luck in any event,

jizz

[+ bigjoey]

check with jon ramsey; he does not mind your size and has a number of larger clients. he is from boston but goes to new york regularly. see his website for the dates of his new york visits. he is as fine as escort as there is.

[Guest biga]

Polo,i wouldnt worry about the asshole you unfortunately hooked up with ,now you know why he wasnt booked up like some of the other guys you tried before you got to this clown, you did nothing wrong and was very open when you spoke on the phone ,I dont know why certain guys have a thing against heavy guys i guess its up to the individual escort and is a learning process ,weeding out the idiots who wont entertain you even tho'you are a paying client, do not give these guys the satisfaction of giving them your money ,no doubt you will get plenty of advice and some good tips on guys who will give you a good time no matter how much you weigh,hope you find the right guy.Cheers BIG A(6"5 220LBS)LONDON

[Guest albinorat]

What an asshole. I'm with Jizz, please post the guy's name. The escorts who post here all act like they're little angels and can't understand why some of us are tough on and unsentimental about escorts, like my five minute rule. I always tell an escort on phone or in email I look like Jabba the Hutt. I haven't had too many problems -- though that may be because I'm into a "scene" rather than conventional making out. But a vicious shit like this deserves a metaphorical kick in the balls, in my opinion (I love the occasional escort you meet who has a 'tude like this but is a hairy assed, permed, dyed 40 year old claiming to be "30", losing whatever not so special looks he might have had and SELLING himself). At least the guy didn't charge you to put you down. Look at it this way, you may have saved yourself an expensive dance with a menu of STD's.

 

Al

[Guest Les]

Hi Polojoe,

This escort should be named either here or in a review you must write so as to warn others of his unacceptable manners and cruelty.

Now, 315 is a truly big guy...did you just refer to yourself as a chubBear or were you more explicit? If you were not upfront about it I could see the escort turning you down politely and with some compassion...not in the vicious nasty way he did.

Review him Joe!!!

Take care, Les

[Guest Jason Coxx]

I have no problem with big guys. Check out my website and if you think we are compatible I can be reached at jason@jasoncoxx.com to set up an appointment.

 

Jason Coxx

http://www.jasoncoxx.com

917-242-8307

[Guest PoloJoe]

So many questions, here are my answers:

 

1)I am a Top, (when/if we get into "anal sex") But I enjy kissing, sucking, being sucked, and getting a rub-down. I do have a fondness (a "fetish") you might say for Speedos, and jockstraps. I live facial, and body hair (though, this is not written in stone), Ages 25-35.

 

2)I have spoken with this escort (today Saturday 7/21/01) since the incident, he was "somewhat

" apologetic......He said, he didn't realize I was that big. I was up-front, I said "I am a ChubBear of 43 years old (44 the end of this month, hence my visit next weekend in NYC), 5-10, 315 pds, brn/brn, must/brd.

 

3)I don't feel cmfortable "posting" who he is, because he maybe a hot stud for others. He just has to learn some manners, and social graces....

 

So, I'm still waiting for reomendations.

 

Thanks.

[tedbear]

Rick Munroe showed me a great time early last year and I'm about your size, Polo. I also agree you should name the a**hole who treated you so badly--that's what this forum is all about. Help the rest of us avoid him!

 

As far as Rick goes, I'm sure you'll have a great time. One of my biggest regrets about my new client assignment is that I never get to New York City any more!

[Guest FirstPlace]

I am a large chub and always very upfront about this when I book an appointment with an escort. I have had so many turn me down yet I would rther know up front than find out upon our meeting. This is alon the lines of escorts who will not meet asian or black men... the only difference is when colour of skin is involved everyone freaks... if you are fat no one takes it as seriously. A while back (when I lurked on this board) there was a thread on escorts who would see or not see fat guys. It was really interesting to read some of the names of the most "wanted & talked about" escorts on this site who would not even return a email from a man who said he was very heavy set. Then there were several who said it made no difference. A few names that I have no problem mentioning are as follows:

Craig, San Diego does not return email or calls if too fat.

Sean & Casey (who knows what city they call home now) had no problem meeting a fat man.

Aaron, San Diego had no problem meeting a fat man.

Brett Silvers, Los Angeles, will not meet fat men yet at least he was polite about it.

Brady Younge, Las Vegas (though when he was still in Utah) will not meet fat men.

John, Nashville, would not meet fat men yet he was polite about it.

Rod Hagen, Los Angeles, had no problem meeting a fat man.

Jasen Rhodes, NYC, had no problem meeting a fat man.

 

There are so many more. This is just a partial list based on my own experiences. There was a recent thread on a NYC escort who put onhis web site "no black guys." This created an outcry from the posters on this board. yet be fat and you will not receive the same front.

 

I have always supported the guys who did not seem to care about my weight. And I do travel a lot, as you can tell from my brief list, so there are guys out there who you can hire and have a great time with.

[MiamiLooker]

"When I got to his door, I knocked, and he opened the door. "My, you are fat, aren't you? A regular tub of lard" He closed the door in my face, and I heard him laughing as he did."

 

I don't understand your reluctance to post his name. What he said and did to you goes way beyond bad manners or rudeness. It was senseless cruelty. Not that I'm likely to be in NYC any time soon anyway, but I wouldn't want to be purchasing his services.....he doesn't deserve me or my money.

[Guest Tampa Yankee]

Joe,

 

I agree that you should post a review.

 

I do understand that some escorts might not be able to perform with big men. Even so there is no reason for such rude behavior or leading you on in the first place. This would also give him an opportunity to put himself on record as to what his limits are and why he responded to you in the way he did. THis would be to the benefit of other large guys who might contact this guy, thus setting themselves up for a similar experience. It would also give the escort something to consider about how he handles client relations in the future. Possibly more importantly, it raises the issue to other escorts (who visit this site) who may have a similar problem and also need to consider the customer relation issue.

 

As for me, I was a pretty big guy when I started meeting escorts. I was never turned down because of weight but I was always up front about it, as you were, and there were some pretty great guys. So, I advise keep trying and keep being up front about it. GOod luck.

[Guest WetDream (Guest)]

Write a bad review for the creep. Even others that might consider him "hot," deserve to know that he is a mean, cruel jerk.

[Guest bottomboykk]

PoloJoe: Sorry you had that happen. What an asshole that guy is, and I agree that you should do a review. There's no excuse for such an attitude.

 

I'm a big guy, too, almost the same as you. I'm always upfront with potential escorts, and usually the response is fine. There've been a few losers over the years, but nothing like your experience.

 

In NYC, I was with Scott Matthews a while back, and he was wonderful, had no problems with my weight, and for the time I was with him made me feel sexy. He's so fucking sexy, and that cock: it should be immortalized! :9 I highly recommend him for anyone.

[Guest bluboy]

I am not fat but I would never go with the escort who was so rude to you. You have my economic support if you want it and are willing to share his name! blu

[Donnie]

Guys, I agree that it's terrible to treat someone that way. However, I am highly suspicious that this actually happened to PoloJoe, because I have met him & I know that he is a troubled, self-hating individual who likes to stir up sympathy for himself. If he was actually treated this way, that's terrible, but don't hold your breath waiting for him to divulge the escort's name because I doubt the escort exists.

[Guest DCescortBOY]

hey there. first off, i'd like to sort of symbolically apologize for the escorts who've treated you so horribly!

whether he is your janitor, your escort, or your lawyer, it is thoroughly unacceptable to treat someone as this jerk treated you.

i think maybe you should do a review of the situation. i won't call it vengeance. let's just say kharma has a way of kicking your ass when you're hateful. posting a review of the guy would be totally appropriate. it will help others avoid the jerk.

there was something else i thought i might comment on. you mentioned that very few escorts have actually taken the time to make you feel human & not just a source of cash. i think, within reason, any decent escort is able to see something appealing about most of his clients. it doesn't have to be stunning physical beauty. at the very least, ANY client should expect to be treated with courtesy & respect. but, be careful not to completely forget that for the escort, it is a business transaction. yes, he should help you to perhaps temporarily suspend reality for the appointment, but don't lose sight of what it in essence is.

 

i hope you have better luck.

[Guest PoloJoe]

Donnie,

I take OFFENSE to your posting about what happened to me. Yes I will admit, my feeling of "self-worth" is not as high as Mount Olympus", but it seems that you have just about called me a out & out liar. When I saw you over a year ago, things did not well, but that was my fault and problem - not yours! So why the attack on me, and my person?

[Guest FirstPlace]

I would love to be able to see the IP of Donnie and PoloJoe. Seems odd that they know each other. It also seems odd that PoloJoe will not name this escort he states called him the negative names. Being a fat man I can relate to how one feels about themself. In part, due to society (in the States) plaing such a huge emphasis on youth and looks, fat people tend to be ridiculed and discriminated against on a routine basis. Then one builds a shield where they isolate their feelings and emotions from others and add to that isolate themselves! A very depressed situation indeed. You go to a fast food place and people laugh, little kids in stores say hey mom look at that fat man, adults whisper and snicker while teens yell stuff at you. This is just one example. AND being gay and fat... well they just do not go together. Gay's put SO much on looks! And most, obviously not all, want a man who is in shape. The ones who do not are quite rare and hard to find. People talk about prejdice toward gays, blacks or other minorities yet you rarely hear someone complain about people making fun of fat people.

 

Now do NOT misread this please. Hey I like a good fat joke as much as the next 'thin' guy. Yet only when it is in good nature. I am not hyper-sensitive and at my age am sort of passed being hurt by fat remarks... though that does not mean I'm not very lonely and hurting inside.

 

Is it easy to lose weight, obviously not. Just stop eating so much... I don't think so. Can you stop smoking with no problem? Can you stop using drugs without issue? Hey, obesity is a desease, being a asshole gay or not is just that, an asshole.

 

Sorry for the rant yet obviously this is an issue that I tend to have to live with.

 

So PoloJoe/Donnie whoever you are I wish you the best.

 

(PROUDLY NOT SPELL CHECKED as I am in a hurry to get down to Dominos to pick up my dinner :-)

[Guest DCescortBOY]

i just wanted to add that my comments were directed at the situation polojoe described in his opening post, and NOT donnie's remarks. if joe is just someone crying for attention, ok. if it is even remotely possible that the escort was cruel to him, i stand by my earlier comments.

[Guest cp8036]

Hope you make a point of reviewing him. If he is advertised in NYC, sure others may consider hiring him. If they know him to be a nasty judgemental fuck, he will loose some potential clients.

 

I am not very overweight, but I am sure sensitive about it. Last thing I would want is to be rejected by an escort. Afterall, the money thing is supposed to take away the rejection factor (save for cases of really nasty men, poor hygiene, drugs, safety, etc).

[Guest cp8036]

Jeff,

 

You're a class act.

 

Point well taken about certain body sizes, and what can take place. Escorts are human, and prone to their own feelings and tastes. But, a true professional (and compassionate one) will overlook the physical and focus on something nice. The best escorts told me that nearly EVERYONE has something nice about them. One told me of a case where the client was large.. but said he had nice ears !!! and was a nice man. More than made up for the client night before that was quite fit, handsome, but a total rude/arrogant creep, who then went on to say say the escort should pay him. Seems even are cases where normal weight/nice looking men have some insecurities.

 

The name should be revealed. One, to stop any suspicion as the result of Donnie's post. Secondly, many clients here form a united front, word of mouth travels. While some many find him hot, and have a good session, these same guys may empathsize with your situation and not hire the guy. Even if I found the guy hot, and thought we would have a good client/escort relation, I would never hire him based on your comments. I'm 6.1, 195, and tend to favor slender guys, so I am always a bit obsessed with my weight... especially when naked with some guy who has a waist 8 inches less than mine.

[ted]

Jon is in NYC this weekend-and these days he's fully booked in advance, so last minutes would be very rare

[Guest Kenny]

"I don't feel cmfortable "posting" who he is, because he maybe a hot stud for others. He just has to learn some manners, and social graces...."

 

Sorry, but anyone who treated you the way his did is not "A HOT STUD" There is absolutely NO EXCUSE for treating you the way he did. If, when he saw you, he decided that he couldn't go through with it, he could have found a way to back out gracefully. You MUST post his name in order to avoid having him repeat this with other guys.

[Guest jeffOH]

It's hard to believe someone could be so cruel. Polo, you should

really name the escort.

 

I've had several clients who have been around your size and even

larger(5'10", 400+lbs.). I will say "Chub Bear" isn't accurate.

At 5'10", 315lbs., you are approaching morbid obesity. Past a

certain size, there are physical limits as to what is sexually

possible. I usually know immediately what's not going to happen

when I see a larger-size client.

 

If you ever make it to Columbus Ohio, please give me a call. I'm

sure we could have a HOT time!

 

Jeff4hire@aol.com