First Timer Needs Advice

[Guest Gentle Dude]

Lucky for me, I stumbled across this amazing site just recently while surfing the internet. I have been thinking for a long time of hiring an escort. This will be my first time with an escort though not with a man. I was going through several reviews and have narrowed my list to 5 of the top versatile escorts in the West Coast and Florida area. Not surprisingly, 4 of them are finalists for Top Escorts of the Year for 1999 and 2000. I checked out the rates of these men in their websites and most of them only list their hourly, overnight and 24-hour day rates and anything longer is negotiable. Does anybody know what the average week-end and weekly rate is? or even the monthly rate? I really do not want my first encounter to be on an hourly or overnight trial-and-error basis because I've read some of the horror stories some of the clients underwent. Furthermore, I want this first encounter to be a lasting unforgettable experience for me. To avoid any bad experiences, I'm trying to do my homework now and is willing to pay the price as long as the experience is good. I'll probably start with a week-end rendezvous and if the chemistry is there...will probably hire him for several week long vacations including a month long vacation to Europe next year. The average 24-hour rate of these men range from $1500 - $2500. More than likely, I will probably not negotiate the price quoted to me for fear that it may diminish the quality of the encounter. Like most of my business dealings, I will probably say "OK" or "Sorry" and go somewhere else. I would appreciate if someone can give me a ball-park figure before I contact the escorts.

 

BTW, does anybody know if Brett Silvers is still accepting new clients? Reading his reviews, he seems to be a terrific guy; however, I went to his AOL Profile and to his link to BoyzUSA.com and he's no longer listed in that website. Appreciate any info.

 

Thanks,

 

GD

[Guest HornyPony]

hey man ...

just a warning - some people on this board don't really like newbie questions and may end up taking the time to let u know that your questions and/or comments have been mentioned on this site before , or that they just find em boring,repetative or whateva ...

 

don't let it get 2 u , since there are others on this board who will gladly help u out and ive u smoe very valuable and sincere information ...

 

Being a newbie to this myself (goingn 2 start escorting soon) , i can't really give u much advice on your specific post , but I'm sure others will ...

 

PEACE

 

HP

[N.N.]

LAST EDITED ON Apr-24-01 AT 11:33AM (EST)[p]I don't mean to dampen your enthusiasm, but there is no way to guarantee satisfaction in advance. An escort can have the most wonderful reviews and still not be your cup of tea. I say that not as some theoretical conclusion, but rather from experience; there are escorts on this site with awesome reviews that I found to be only so-so. I don't mean that as criticism of any of the escorts in question, nor as skepticism about the other reviewers' reports; I am only noting that chemistry is a personal thing.

 

I understand the desire to have one's first encounter be a satisfying weekend, but that should be balanced against the very real possibility of it being a less than pleasant time for both parties. A weekend is a long time to spend with someone who rubs you the wrong way. Many clients and escorts will recommend a shorter session for the first time.

 

It would be nice if we could guarantee satisfaction just by doing our homework and being willing to pay good money, but it's not that simple. I wouldn't expect an (unpaid) blind date to be a sure thing, even if a dozen of my friends thought the guy was wonderful. Why should it be different with an escort?

[Guest Gentle Dude]

I know the risk involved here, both on a personal and financial level, but I guess I'm willing to take that risk. Believe me, I've had my share of disappointments but was able to bounce back everytime. Thanks for the warning and advice.

 

GD

[marc anthony]

Gentle Dude:

 

May I suggest that you start with an overnighter. That will be quite enough time to have get to know each other and see if your chemistry is right. Like you, I am not a huge fan of one hour appointments. I find that I cannot really get to know the escort... there just isn't enough time for conversation. Every once in a while, during a particularly horny period, it is ok, but really if you want good memories, longer appointments are better.

 

So go with an overnighter for the first one. You can have dinner and some event/show. You can retire back to your place for drinks and relaxing conversation. You can "frolic" all night long till your heart's content. You can wake up with him right next to you so you know it wasn't a dream. And if it was wonderful, it will be memorable and you can hire him again for longer. And if it wasn't, it will be over, and you don't have the unpleasant prospect that you have to spend a full another 24 hours in discomfort!

 

I have met many escorts for the first time with an overnighter, and most of the time, because I did "my homework" on this site, it was wonderful. And I have hired them again for longer. There were a couple, though, who just didn't click with me... there was nothing wrong with them, but we just were uncomfortable together. I was glad that they weren't with me for a full week or weekend.

 

Finally, after you have done an overnighter with an escort and developed a relationship with him, it is much easier to ask him personally... so what kind of special rate do I get if I want to take you with me for a week to....

[Guest JustANametoPlay]

I agree with the post that says a weekend is a long time. You really may want to do an hour session first, or possibly arrange for a "date" for a couple of hours. Of course, if you are willing to risk a large outlay of cash for a weekend knowing that it might not work out then your call.

 

As an FYI, I just hired my first escort last night, and it was my first time with a man. I realy ahve been debating this back and forth, and finally did it. This site was a HUGE help to me in many ways. The escort I hired turned out to not be reviewed on this site, but his AOL profile just struck me, and after speaking to him on the phone I decided to give him a try. As my review will show, it was a good decison onmy part as he was very sweet and I had a great time.

 

Just remember that everyone is different and looks for different things. So an escort that might be great for one might not be the one for someone else. Just like some of us like chest hair and others don't.

 

The only other tip I would say (and I have said this time and time again) is take anything you read on here with a grain of salt. As has been mentioned there is a great deal of fake postive and negative info. But if you have been around you probably can get a feel for those.

[Guest Gentle Dude]

Sounds good...I may take your advice...thanks Marc.

[Losgatan]

I agree with all of those who pointed out that a weekend is a long time for a "first date."

 

Another possibility that works for me is to hire for an afternoon and evening. Plan to attend a matinee performance of some event, have dinner together, and then frolic for a while (or frolic first if you prefer).

 

4 or 5 hours is plenty of time to discover whether the chemistry is right between you and your chosen guy.

[+ Charlie]

I am green with envy at the thought that you have the kind of money to hire someone for a week or a month at a time (do you also offer medical benefits and a pension plan?). However, I will stifle that response and second the good advice of the person who suggested that you try someone out first on an overnight. You will find out what he is like in the morning--and how you resond to him--which is very important if you are going to be sleeping, eating, touring, etc., with him for a long time. Most people are at their most charming when they are out on a date, so it's not the best time to evaluate them as 24 hr. companions. Find out if he snores, is uncommunicative before 10 am, looks less appetizing in bright daylight, etc.

[Guest pickwick]

>hey man ...

>just a warning - some people

>on this board don't really

>like newbie questions and may

>end up taking the time

>to let u know that

>your questions and/or comments have

>been mentioned on this site

>before , or that they

>just find em boring,repetative or

>whateva ...

>

 

And there are some of us who eventually lose patience with posters who ask endless questions about this subject as if it were as important a decision as getting married or choosing which college to attend. It isn't. It isn't about anything more than finding someone who will help you get off and (if you're lucky) prove to be good company for a brief period of time. The biggest mistake you can make is to place more importance on this sort of thing than it deserves. That's the way to ruin what should be no more than an amusing pastime.

[Guest loverboy]

Count another vote for a test drive around the block before plunging in (to mix a metaphor). He may be great, and you may be great - just not great together. There's too much that you want to know about someone before committing yourself to spend an extended amount of time with him or her (yes, it's not only about sex).

I've never had the luxury of an extended hire, but I would try someone out for a few hours even before hiring him for an overnight, and I would try him out for an overnight before taking him for a weekend or week or more (does he snore? is he grouchy in the morning? and more). I guess it partly depends on finances and whether you can afford to just kiss off his fee if it doesn't work out and you end up occupying separate bedrooms.

[Guest DickHo]

LAST EDITED ON Apr-24-01 AT 06:15PM (EST)[p]Infinity is defined as the time between when you come and when he leaves.

 

I would definitely start with one hour...I wouldn't make a decision to spend a whole night with someone I had never met no matter how great the reviews here were.

[Guest SFJEFF]

Brett Silvers is still taking clients. You can reach him at his EMail address: BrettSilvers@aol.com

 

And by the way, he is a very nice guy.

[Guest Gentle Dude]

SFJEFF

 

Appreciate the info very much. Glad to know that I'm doing my homework right; however, I probably will not be making my final decision until July or August after I close this business deal I'm working on. Thanks again and belated Happy B'day.

 

GD

[Guest]

I would strongly recommend against hiring somone for a whole week-end unless you really have money to burn. First of all, there are probably some escorts on here with all-fake reviews. You can get an idea about that by similarity in grammar and by paying attention to established reviewers. Nevertheless, be careful.

Secondly, even an excellent escort may just not be a good match for you for whatever reason.

Thirdly, I honestly don't think most escorts actually make the amounts they advertise in their long-term hire fee schedule. They're more like starting points for negotiation. I've hired a few escorts for longer periods of time after a one-hour session, and have always paid substantially less than the egregious fees posted on the website. Maybe it's just my irrisistable personality and charming good looks! }>

And if money really is of no object, I'm available! :*

[NY Observer]

Hey Gentle,

I'll second the good words on Brett Silvers, nice guy, lots of fun.

 

However, as most of the guys here have said, hiring a guy for an extended period of time is probably not the best idea. It's very much about the chemistry between the two of you and that's something you can't predict. Sure, it helps to talk a bit on the phone or by email to see how things flow, but that's not a sure-fire way of knowing how things will go when you meet in person. It's not a physical thing, it's just how comfortable you are with each other, lots of factors go into it.

 

I think I'd go with a couple of hours the first time. An hour might be too short and an overnight seems long. Just my thoughts.

 

I don't think the man of your choice will be upset about doing two hours. I wouldn't mention future plans up front, as that carrot often changes the dynamics of your time together. They are constantly worrying oh, will he like this. I better do this right or he won't take me away. Let him be himself.

 

Good luck!

 

Hugs,

NYO

[Guest Gentle Dude]

Wow!!! I really appreciate all the feedbacks, comments and suggestions made in this thread. I think I'm a bit wiser and more informed now. Thanks again to all. Now, I have to crack open my piggybank to see how much money I got.

 

Ciao!

 

GD

[CT Dick]

Of all the postings to date, I have to agree with Marc Anthony's.

 

Take it to heart. If things work out, you may be able to extend or set up another date.

 

The idea of a weekend sounds great but reality has a way of tarnishing dreams.

 

Let us know how things worked out, would you?

 

Dick