Escort burn out........client burn out

[Casteran]

Ok we hear about escorts that get burnt out, how about clients that get burnt out? I hire every 3-4 months so only about 4 times per year and the past two encounters I had just seemed like nothing - in and out (pardon the pun) and off they go. I had one overnight and one 3 hour session. What do others of you feel? Perhaps I'm just going through a phase.....????? I'm not looking for love or friendship (except the time we spend together) from an escort, I am old enough to know better, however it just seems times are changing. Point of reference I have seen many of the well reviewed escorts on this site over the past 2-3 years, some I still like as regulars, and perhaps that is my problem that the older you get the more set in your ways and expectations change.

[Michael]

Well, I always tell people that the most important thing before hiring an escort is to know what it is that you want to get out of the encounter. That's something that people tend to think about when they first start hiring escorts but, over time, you tend to forget about it, especially if you hire escorts regularly (even if not on a very frequent basis).

 

To some extent hiring escorts can become a habit, and you stop thinking about why you are doing it. I have caught myself a couple of times about to hire an escort when I realised that I was just doing it out of habit and that, on that particular occasion, I didn't really want one.

 

Also, over time, your tastes and needs can change but you may still be hiring the same kind of escort that you first started with.

 

Try and figure out what it is that you are really looking for, and why the good experiences were good, and why the not so good ones didn't work out and take it from there.

[+ Charlie]

No matter how rational we are, most of us hope for something special to happen when we have sex with someone new, especially if that someone fits certain fantasy stereotypes that arise from the murky depths of our psyche. Most of the time, we are disappointed, whether the encounter is with an escort or someone we meet in a bar or wherever. With an escort the disappointment may be deeper, because the expectations are firmer due to planning. I, too, hire escorts only a few times a year (no more than ten in all), and usually feel somewhat deflated after an encounter, even when it hasn't been bad, just because it hasn't been spectacular. Maybe one experience a year is truly satisfying, but even that soon fades away. It's easy to just say philosophically, "Lower your expectations," but if I did, I might not bother to have sex at all! I think you are probably just going through a patch of unexciting escorts, and you simply have to keep going and trust that there will be more really good ones in the future. Of course, it's also possible that you are unconsciously expecting more than just good sex or even friendship from these encounters, in which case you almost certainly will remain disappointed.

[Guest allansmith63]

"and usually feel somewhat deflated after an encounter"

 

Charlie, that's why I have encounters, so I can feel somewhat deflated after one, so to speak...

 

Allan :-)

[Guest hunklover]

I only wish I could afford an escort often enough to experience burnout. I have had times when my sexual desires weren't satisfied during a session. In fact, private masturbation is sometimes more intense then my sexual experience with a escort. However, I'm not blaming the escort. The main problem is probably that I can be self-conscious about the way I perform in front of the escort. Also, several years ago, after watching a close friend wilt away with AIDS I'm a little paranoid of engaging in activities that I consider not to be 100% safe. Thus, I'm sure I'm missing much of the pleasure that two guys can experience together during sexual activities.

 

I do, however, enjoy the time I get to spend with with a goodlooking, well built, escort who has a good personality. Just being in the arms of a strong, muscular guy is heaven to me, I don't know if I could ever "burn out" from that experience.