Dear Talvin...

[Guest YR]

I know that you didn't want any messages sent to your email addresses, but I had to respond to your situation.

 

I can feel for you, as my Dad is slowly passing away, and I just want you to know that as an unknown friend and admirer, I hope and pray that your time of anguish and sorrow will be short.

 

My prayers and thoughts are with you for now and forever,

 

Bill

[HooBoy]

Hey Talvin,

 

I too want to respect your wishes for no email or cards, but I hope you know that you've brought much happiness to a lot of people who are wishing the best for your Mom, your family and you during this dificult time.

 

HooBoy

Email: [email protected]

[Guest bottomboykk]

I missed something here...what's happening? I don't see any posts by Talvin recently at all. Could someone fill me in here?

[Bilbo]

If you visit Talvin's website, you can sign up for him to send you email. On a recent mass mailing, Talvin, who had already said several times that most of his earnings are sent home to help cover his mother's medical expenses, called off his tour and shut his business temporarily and abruptly to fly home to be by her side and was a little afraid that, even at that, he would not be in time to help her through to the other side. Obviously, he made the right decision. I had a similar decision to make once and made the wrong choice. While all of our hearts are with him, he also asked about three times in that email that noone send him email of good wishes or of wondering when he will start escorting again so as not to plug up his inbox or put preassure on him at this time.

[Guest bjohn100]

Does anyone have an update on Talvin's mom?

 

I repeat the sentiment expressed by others around here. Talvin is someone who has given me much pleasure. It is terribly frustrating for me not to be able to soothe his pain and to be blocked (as per his request from even expressing my concern). Please, Talvin, if you read this (or if any of his friends who might be seeing him read this) accept our humblest support and wishes for your mom's recovery.

 

Bill

[HooBoy]

Talvin's Mom passed away shortly after he arrived at the hospital. (She hung on till he got there.) He was able to express his love to her before she crossed over to the other side. She was 62 and died of complications from diabetes.

 

 

He still requests that no one email him because it will overload his email box and put pressure on him to respond.

 

However, if you would like to send a card, you may send it to:

 

Talvin DeMachio

P.O. Box 23952

Alexandria, VA 22304

 

 

HooBoy

Email: [email protected]

[+ deej]

HooBoy understates.

 

Talvin sent out a very moving and emotional letter to his mailing list describing his mother's passing. She got a chance to say goodbye to "baby" (her pet name for him as the youngest of four).

 

My heart is with him, but I will respect his request not to flood his inbox. I will likely send him a card because I adore the guy and I share his grief. I cried reading his e-mail.

 

Actually, I started crying as soon as I saw the subject of his message: "Jan 25, 2001 at 7:50pm" -- I knew what it meant without opening the message.

 

Talvin may not return to escorting, as a primary motivation in the first place was paying for his mother's medical bills.

 

Whatever he decides, my heart is with him. I lost my father when I was about Talvin's age. The empathy I feel is complete and consuming.

[Bilbo]

Talvin has sent out another emailing. People may start emailing him as of 2/9. His first escorting appointments will be his LA trip 2/13 - 26. He needs to stay busy/occupied to help him over the hump of his sorrow. His Mom would have wanted it that way. I fully agree. I have found (Haven't you?) that as long as you allow a break from all your normal activities, the break will be there and sorrow will fill it up for you. He also thanks everyone who contributed to just stuffing his mailbox with condolences cards. It meant a lot to him.

[Rod Hagen]

That letter Talvin sent out was amazing. REALLY personal. Knock on wood but I've never lost anybody, thee effect being that I never quite know what to say because I have zero empathy, and perhaps way too much pity. Yet here is Talvin, and he writes such an emotionaly charged telling of his mother's passing that I felt like I had actually lost someone.

 

I've never met Talvin-we travel in different circles, he's porn and I am not-but I know enough about him from mutual clients and our similiar educational backgrounds to have nothing but the highest level of respect. This coupled with his very real combination of relief and loss for his mother compel me to simply say:

 

Talvin, I'm a fan, I'd like nothing better than to meet you and that's only most likely to occur professionaly, yet nothing is more important than your own happiness, and so I want you to do whatever you think is best for you. We all love you, and you do need to occupy yourself ater somebody's passing (I am told) but do not feel pressured to jump back into anything at any pace other than your own. If whatever else you do to distract yourself-career or other-is not enough, then I welcome you back to escorting and wish you all the best. Most importantly, be happy Tal.

 

-Hagen

 

http://www.rodhagen.com