List correct city when traveling

[dcguy20]

I had scheduled a massage appointment with a traveling provider whom I've seen a few times already this year in DC. He usually stays at a hotel right in DC which is very convenient to where I live.

A few hours before said appointment, I confirmed with him and asked where he was staying. He was staying at a hotel in Virginia and wasn't close to a metro station. I priced Uber, and it was over $30 each way. Metro to bus would have taken me well over an hour to get to him. I canceled my appointment and sent him his fee since I was the one who canceled (he didn't ask for it).

Lesson learned. Before I commit to an appointment, I need to find out exactly where someone is. But I also fault him for not listing the city he was actually in, though he was the one who reached out to me.

I have no problem traveling if the person is close to metro (I don't have a car).

[Thelatin]

If you had seen him a few times I would think a compromise could have been reached.  60 bucks doesn’t go far in any city, let alone DC. 

[BuffaloKyle]

I actually have had this issue here in Buffalo a few times. Guys will post they will be visiting Buffalo but then tell me they are staying in Niagara Falls which is a 45 min drive from my house. I never will fully commit to an appt until I know exactly where they are staying as some of the downtown hotels can be a pain as well with parking.

[marylander1940]

1 hour ago, dcguy20 said:

I had scheduled a massage appointment with a traveling provider whom I've seen a few times already this year in DC. He usually stays at a hotel right in DC which is very convenient to where I live.

A few hours before said appointment, I confirmed with him and asked where he was staying. He was staying at a hotel in Virginia and wasn't close to a metro station. I priced Uber, and it was over $30 each way. Metro to bus would have taken me well over an hour to get to him. I canceled my appointment and sent him his fee since I was the one who canceled (he didn't ask for it).

Lesson learned. Before I commit to an appointment, I need to find out exactly where someone is. But I also fault him for not listing the city he was actually in, though he was the one who reached out to me.

I have no problem traveling if the person is close to metro (I don't have a car).

A provider will never be able to please all potential clients when it comes to location, parking, etc. but staying out in VA far from the Metro will guarantee him a bad trip because fewer clients will go to see him. 

1 hour ago, Thelatin said:

If you had seen him a few times I would think a compromise could have been reached.  60 bucks doesn’t go far in any city, let alone DC. 

Yes, but it wasn't only the money but an inconvenient commute in a city where most folks don't have a car

This isn't NYC where folks won't go from East to West to see an escort because they just don't go there but staying so far from the Metro is certainly a bad choice for hosting. 

 

[Becket]

One possible solution to this issue is to stay in or near the "gayborhood" of that city. 

[dbar123]

Since you had seen the provider previously at the same spot your provider should have given you the heads-up that he was now in a different place. You were way too generous in paying him for that

[TT3690]

Yeah it annoys me when guys won't tell me where they're staying. I live in downtown DC and don't really want to travel all the way out to Alexandria or Tyson's Corner or whatever.

[+ ApexNomad]

Every provider has their own business model and challenges; clearly, not all operate the same way. I hired a NYC provider who charged $500 for a two-hour minimum and only did outcalls for first appointments. I even had to pay his Uber to my hotel, despite both being in Midtown. It’s amusing how some providers expect clients to cover their travel costs when they’re literally in walking distance, yet they can be just as high maintenance as clients.